Do i have to put the name of the father down on adoption papers? or can i put unkown?

BabyGurl

no not at all !

cantstopLinnyG

How dare you play a game with another person's life. That baby has TWO parents.
If he wants to raise his child, you do NOT have the right to prevent that. And yes...the "system" will be able to find that out. If you lie about this and put the child up for adoption without his consent, you can be prosecuted, and any adoption will be null and void.

A child deserves to be raised and loved by his or her natural parents, and for someone to intentionally deny that right is criminal.

Felicita1

As your baby hasn't been born yet, do you really know you don't love or want your baby? If you love and want your baby, what is preventing you from keeping him/her?

Adoption is a decision you should really consider making only after your baby is born, not while that baby is still a "bump" that you haven't been able to hold and look into the eyes of.

Surrendering a baby for adoption can have huge and devastating emotional consequences for you, particularly if you want your baby. And often mothers naturally "dissociate" during pregnancy and only once that baby is in their arms do they realize how much they loved and want it. And the problem is that if they've already got involved with an adoption agency, that agency may have put them into the position of not being able to make a choice. That agency, after all, might be making $25,000+ from the adoptive parents from the "sale" of your infant.

Yes you should put the fathers' name on the birth record and after the birth if both of you really want to surrender your child, he should be signing as well. He is the father of that child and you are the mother. Just because a father's emotional role and connection with a child usually begins at birth doe not mean you have the moral right to depriving him of the right to raise HIS child if he so chooses. If you don't want that baby, it does not mean that he shouldn't have the chance -- it is after all his own flesh and blood.

If you do love and want your baby, what is preventing you from keeping it? Every parent has the right to raise their child and the right to all the resources and support they require to do so. Are you leaping at adoption out of fear that your baby won't have a good life?

Possum

So you don't WANT to put the fathers name.

What about the child????

EVERYONE - should be allowed to know who parented them.

EVERYONE.

It's a very hard life to live with lies and unknowns.

This child will one day grow into an adult - and want to know who they are genetically linked to.
That should be a right.

If you truly love this child - which you should - you're the child's mother - then allow this child his/her truth.
NOT a blank space.
NOT a lie.

Allow this child his/her truth.
It would be incredibly selfish of you to keep that truth from him/her.

You are playing a very dangerous game for your child and the adoptive family. If the father of the baby finds out ( and they often do) he can get custody of the child and take the baby away from the adoptive family. How terrible for all of them. If he is a bad guy you need to be working with a lawyer to get his parental rights terminated. Please do this the right way and avoid a horrible problem down the road.

grapesgum

The adoption cannot be finalized until the father is identified and he agrees to the adoption. The father has the right to raise his child if he wants to and is capable.

There are several adoptions and attempted adoptions that are being contested by fathers because the mothers tried to do exactly the same thing and the fathers found out. The fathers are demanding their children back and some have been awarded monetary damages from adoption agencies who colluded with the mothers in the lies.

Don't lie - it's not nice.

Rowan

You need to put the fathers name on there if you know it. Theres always a cance that it will come to light that you knew who the father was, and chose to lie. That will reflect badly on you.

The adoption could be declared invalid if you know who the father is and lie.

Gustard

I think that if you know who the father is, put the name on there. For a medical history or something. The child may want to know who the dad is later on in life, maybe not. It's not like everyone is going to know who the dad is. I don't think it is necessary.

Philippa

In the UK the father has to be present for his name to be on the birth certificate so if his name isn't and the mother chooses adoption for her baby then he isn't approached by social services or the adoption agency to get his permission for this to go ahead.

The right thing to do is to put your child's father down as well as he deserves the right to know and even more so your child has the right to know the truth.

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I wouldn't think you WOULD HAVE TO.....but why wouldn't you?? If you didn't, then the dad could come around and bite you in the proverbial butt for not doing it and could have the adoption set aside if he wanted to and was successful.

You would also be lying by stating and UNKNOWN father when you had an amnio DNA performed.

Don't do it....and the dad has every right in the world to parent his baby, just as much right as you have for not wanting to parent.

snowwillow20

If you know who it is, you need to make it known. Someday that child might want to know the parents that made him/her.

Justice

Yes. As several others have said, it's not fair to your child to deny that information.

Don't lie about this.

Even Darth Vader's son eventually got to know his father.

karcnr

I believe that if you really don't know who the father is, you can put unknown. However, if you know between a couple of possible fathers, they can be contacted and all sign release paperwork so the baby can be placed for adoption. Paternity testing would only be involved if one of the potential fathers wants custody. In either case, I'd talk with an adoption agency so they can answer your question accurately.

DevonChaos

If you know the father, you need to put that down on the papers. If you don't you are falsifying documents, which is HIGHLY illegal.

The father has the same right to keep the baby that you do. He needs to be informed, not only for purposes of law, but because it is MORALLY the right thing to do. This child should know who both of their parents are, even if they do end up being adopted.

Hiding the father is causing damages to your child. There is no reason to hide this. Do the right thing, you KNOW what that is.

Lori A

I don't know about now a days, but over 30 years ago I lied on my daughters birth certificate. NOT SOMETHING I RECOMMEND. What a dangerous and stupid thing to do.

When this child grows up and becomes a parent themselves, there is always the possibility "their children" will have medical problems. Having correct information to search for biological connections is imperative.

This happened to me. My grandson needed a full family history for the doctors to even begging to understand what was going on with him. Trust me YOU don't want to be responsible for that.

I was in reunion with my daughter and I found her father, so as far as the medical info it all worked out, but there is still the problem of her not having a complete birth certificate WHEN they change the laws.

It really isn't worth it to lie now. 30 years from now the person this is going to matter to the most is the adoptee and their offspring. Who ever the father is will be long over it.

Please don't do this.

cmc

yes, you have to. If you don't you'll be putting the adoption at risk. His rights have to be terminated legally. Otherwise if he finds out and comes after the child he may get custody and your child will have to suffer being removed from the family he/she has known as parents. This isn't fair to the child or the adoptive parents. Your agency should be able to help you figure out how to terminate his rights if possible. It may also be that if he wants to parent you cannot place the child for adoptoin. Even if you don't know the full identity of the father you are legally and morally compelled to give as much information as you have to make sure the termination is done legally.

marijuana.ninja@ymail.com

it dont matter, guys dont have many right as far as adoption gos, all the agencies have lawyers, good lawyers that will fight 4 you,..... because they sell babies, not officially but they do, they call the $30,00 that the adoptive family has to pay "adoption fees". anyways, u should put his name down, my X did and i really wanted to raise my daughter and there wasnt really crap i could do, so i think your in the clear, especially if hes not rich, if hes not rich u got this one in the bag. best of luck to you

durdenslabs

You can get a paternity test done before the baby is born. If he's the father then he has to be given the right to keep the child if you are wanting to give it up. So, yes, he has to sign over rights if he's around and doesn't want the baby.

Mom of two

If you are not married, you do not have to list him.

lotsagwen

No,I would just put unknown,otherwise,you have to get his permision to give the baby up.
It is nice to hear people doing the right thing by giving their baby up for adoption,,,Very proud that you made a better choice for your baby!
Good Luck with everything!

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