Do you believe adoption provides a better life for some people?

PhilM

Sure.

It's sort of like asking people if counseling provides a better life for some rape victims. Of course it does. But it still is painful.

Not Adopted

Only in cases of abuse, or if the child is truly an orphan (meaning no relatives whatsoever who can provide for the child).

DevonChaos

It provides a chance for a better life in some cases. I don't think you can guarantee it though.

SJM

Yes.

Jackie B

Assuming the parents are severely neglecting or abusing a child and the child is removed and is placed in and adopted into a home where s/he is given the safe, loving home s/he deserves and is provided with therapy and whatever it takes to heal from the neglect/abuse, then yes.

Does it provide a better life when a child is relinquished at birth? No one will ever know the answer to that. Could be worse, could be better, could be similar, could be different. That cannot be predicted. EVER.

monkeykitty83

It can.

For children who are in abusive, neglectful, or emotionally damaging homes, a non-abusive situation where proper care was provided would of course be better.

It's no guarantee, though, because adoptive families can do all those things too.

Children sometimes have to be removed from unsafe situations, and I don't think anyone would argue that point. In those cases the adults involved should make every effort that the kids be placed in a healthy and loving environment.

Even so, the only guarantee in adoption is a different life. A better life is only a hope.

sunny

Very few.

brown eyed beauty

it depends

myst1998

In cases of abused children etc, yes I do but it doesn't mean they aren't going to feel the grief that can come with being adopted. In these cases they have suffered a double loss and so to make it a 'better life' for them, they need adoptive families who have special understanding of what they have been through along with the usual comprehension of what it means to raise an adopted child.

MamaKate

Sure. I have never said that there are not cases where adoption is the "better" option for some children - I just don't find that ALL adoptions are "better".

snowwillow20

Maybe not better, but certainly different.

Possum

No one (without a crystal ball) can say that 100% an adoptee will have a better life.
An adoptee will have a 'different' life - but not necessarily 'better'.
If the child is in an abusive household - then hopefully the answer is 'yes' - the child will have a better one - but there is never any guarantees.
Sadly there are adoptive parents that can be just as abusive as bio parents.
It's a very sad world we live in.

Asher has a toddler!!!!

Yes. Me. My mom was not up to being a parent when I came along.

woodenhandle

Yes.

JoeJonas<3

I was adopted at birth so i never got to see my birth mom and she was in a bad situation... my birth father was in the U.S. illeagly so wen she wuz pregnant with me he ran away then i got a step dad (kind of) and he was VERY sick and she livesd with her parents and i already had a two year old brother... so wen i wuz born i was adopted by two wonderful parents

in conclusion i think that adoption is great if they r adopted into a better life, habitat... ect.

wifeandmom

adoption provided my children a chance to stay together and remain siblings in the same home. It also gave them a chance to grow up like any other child. It gave them an opportunity to have a life that was stable and safe. For my children I say yes. For other children I have to say no in some cases. It depends on many situations. It is just like bio family, some are good and some lack in areas. Every family has its good parts and its parts it hides.

Hannah S

Well I was adopted, and every other person I know who was adopted then yes. I know my bio father, and my bio mom stays in contact with him. My dad lives in a 1 bedroom appt. with no furniture, and a mattress on the floor. my mom lived with my adoptive parents like 2 weeks after I was born due to issues she had in labor. anyway, she complained and said it was stupid that my parents had to buy a more expensive but the only kind my tummy could stand. I know for me I'd either be living in crap, in a town full of drive-bys or be dead or in foster care had I been with my bio mother. Now I live ina safe country town. I have a good life get good grades and my family canget me anything I need.

Carol c

Usually not unless the child has been in an abusive home or has no other biological family member to take them in.

And even then, adoption isn't positive if they get insecure adoptive parents who are not forthcoming with the truth or try to make their child feel there is something wrong with normal intellectual curiosity when they confide that they want to find their family of origin. Parents like that can do more harm than good. Don't you agree, Ollie?

Rowan

It depends really. Do I think i have a better life then if i'd been raised by my bio parents? Yes.

Would my bio parents have gotten their act together had they kept us? maybe.

Its all speculation in the end. For some on here, they feel their lives would have been better if their biological parents had kept them. others say the opposite. I myself, will never really know.

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define "better"...

Better than what?? Better than living in a home and being abused, neglected and bounced around by people who are supposed to protect you?? Maybe.....

Better than growing up with a mom (and/or dad) and given the opportunity to have a natural family?? Who knows.....no such thing as a crystal ball.

Have some been given a better life after adoption?? I believe some have....but the pain it took to get there was long and not without damage.

Dan B.

it sure as hell didnt for me

Jennifer L

Yes.

Opedial

yes for my children it is a "better" life, ONLY because their First parents were themselves caught in the circle of poverty and abuse.

Only if they KNOW the parents are abusive can you claim it is a better life, otherwise children belong with their biological parents.

If I had adopted my children from a younger age, and knew nothing of their past life, or let's say they did not have the background they did, there is no way for sure I could know it was a "better" life.

It is only better because of what we know. They are not better off for being adopted, they are better off as they are healing from their pain.

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Yes. It has for me (kind of - I think things would have been alright if I was with my bio-dad, but they were definitely better when I was no longer with my mother), and it has/will for my foster daughters.

I don't think it does all the time, but I'd venture to say that there are more good adoptions than bad. I have no statistical basis for it, but it seems that way through talking to other adoptees, APs and first parents.

There's also the issue that 'better' is an objective term in many cases. Obviously it would be better to be in a secure and stable home with APs who love you than to be in and out of foster care, not know where your next meal is coming from, and have an erratic parent who isn't mentally sound.
But what about in less clear scenarios: what about loving AP's who are wealthy, versus loving natural parents who can provide, but it's tough and life is still a struggle, and where quality of life isn't too great? Some people would choose the AP's, some would choose the natural parents. I don't think there's a right or wrong in some cases, nor a better or worse.

icehockeymom7

Absolutely

Sophie

YES, ofcourse.

quirky

My mom had my brother when she was 15 and gave him up to adoption. He was adopted by beautiful loving parents. He found us by private investigator when he went to college. He now knows both bio family and obviously still has his "real" mom and dad- his adoptive parents. Everyone involved was very grateful for everything that happened. It worked out for the best in my family, for everyone involved, but mainly because everyone was honest about everything. Funny part is I'm closer to my brother's adoptive mom than he is to my mom (who is his bio mom).

Roe vs.wade supporter

i'm really glad to see many people say yes it does. i was expecting alot of no its terrible for the child.

but yes i think it does provide a better life for those who's parents refuse to give them the love and care they deserve. i have a friend who gave her baby up for adoption. she was going to abort but she decided to give the baby a chance to live. she couldn't even feed her baby or put diapers on the baby. huge danger to a baby isn't it? but i'm proud of her for doing a responsible thing by giving the baby to a good family who can give it the proper love and care.

equineriderfourlife

Most of the time yes. As you know things change in life and people can end up turning its always an unknown situation to a certain extent of which the kid will get in to.
But I see it obviously as a MUCH bigger and life taking responbility to adopt obiously then rescuing a puppy or cat form the pound, but its the same feeling of taken one who has been left/abused and providing them a comfort place and love.

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