Do you believe that adoptees are idealized and glamorized?

Isabel A

Nope. Many adoptees are seen simply as commodities of infertility fixes.

The non-adopted and those not looking to adopt mostly just feel sorry for us.

I mean really, first we're abandoned by the people who are supposed to love us unconditionally and then we're expected to fix another family. And this is all before we're even able to sit up on our own or feed ourselves.

And then we have to spend our lives dealing with random idiots telling us to be glad we weren't aborted.

Yikes. I feel sorry for adoptees and I'M adopted.

sunny

I doubt many people really envy adoptees. It's like Chris Rock says, "I'm super rich, and none of you white people would trade places with me cause I'm black!"

No one would willingly chose to be a member of an underclass.

SJM

We're certainly coveted when we're little and cute and can't talk.

cruzgirlz3

Wow. This is fun. I just tuned in and what a Saturday morning!

Yes, I think my mother glamorizes my brother and me. She goes way over the top in describing what blessings we are, and how fantastic we are and how we changed her life. She can see no wrong in us. God Bless her, but we are just average folk.

Carol c

Perhaps when they're young and coveted by infertile couples. But certainly not when they start demonstrating that they are real and human with frailties.

That's when I've heard adoptive parents make comments such as that their child comes from "bad blood". I've also noticed some people feel badly for adoptees because their only perception of adoption is that the first parents didn't want their child.

Even as a first mother; I felt horribly for years thinking that my child was out there thinking he wasn't loved or wanted.

Flying Monkey #073177

Nah, we are bitter and angry and should all be institutionalized.

I make crazy look HOT!

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BOTZ

ROFLMAO!!!

Linny, you make me so happy!

I idealize and glamorize YOU every day -- so, Yes.

maybe

Yes, because we know they all turn out to be rich and famous, just like Nicole Ritchie, Faith Hill, and Scott Hamilton!

Lori A

Yeah, my daughters parents got jipped. They thought they were getting a little angel from heaven. Another girl just like their own little girl who never got into trouble, did anything wrong, made noise, broke toys.

Headless dolls, a preference for leather over lace, mouth like a sailor, mannerisms of a semi driver, and a need for speed and rock and roll is what they got. A run for their money she was.

Not at all the pretty picture that was painted for them.

I Love A Child With Autism!!!

Believe it or not, I do think some people, especially here, seem to idolize adopted people. They seem to hold adoptees to a higher standard, and you are LUCKY enough to have been adopted because that means you were CHOSEN! Oh how LUCKY you guys are...right?

It takes all kinds to make the world go round!!!

Temperance

I told one of my teachers and she's like "that's great, you were a chosen one!" wtf?!?

Independ"ant"

Yep.....especially by those that wish to Normalize separating a natural family for their own personal gain.

monkeykitty83

I think they are when they're infants or adorable little children.

Once they get older, I think they're more often just ignored.

Helena B

umm, yeah. we save the new rentz from bein lonely.thts so kewl.

myst1998

Giggle... Linny, you and Phil make me laugh so I thank you for that!

No, I don't think adoptees are idealised or glamourised. In infant adoption, adoptees are the products of a transaction... very sad really.

kitta

Not really. Only in a superficial sort of way.

ILoveMySon

MamaKate

I think some are, some are treated like "damaged goods" and some are pretty "normal" (as if there were such a thing!).

Depends on the person doing the "glamorizing" and why they are doing it. False "imagery" often has less than pure intentions for its origins.

As far as I'm concerned, they're people - just like everybody else. All different - like snowflakes. I tend to base my personal "judgments" on more esoteric and individualized criterion.

jane

only by teachers and other parents in grade school and maybe middle school

LaraSue

DreamAngel

I am the oldest of 6. My family adopted my youngest brother and youngest sister the week after I graduated high school. I can say with out a doubt that they are absolutley NOT idealized and or glamorized. It is just as if they had been a part of our family all along. They don't get any special treatment or extras that the rest of us did not/do not get. We are all treated basically the same.
I don't think that they get treated any more "special" in general. However maybe if a couple can not have children of their own, and decide to adopt after years and years of trying for one of their own, maybe these children may be treated as "god's gift" to the world by their parents....this is probably not just because they are adopted though, it's probably more beacuse they are so very wanted and needed.

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