Do you support a woman's choice to give up her baby?

Sarekay

Yes, I do. Only she knows how well she can provide for that child or if she cant at all. And koodos to her for giving another person a chance to have a family instead of killing it .

Randy B

If a woman (or a couple for that matter) wants to voluntarily give a child for adoption and makes an informed choice regarding that decision then I don't have an issue with it.

Its the voluntariness of that decision and the fact that it's an informed decision that matters most to me and I would think to most.

yeahright

I defend the right to choose. That does include the choice of adoption.

kateiskate

I support a woman having the right to choose whether she keeps her baby or makes the choice to surrender. Yes. That should be her choice and hers alone.

And actually being pro-choice means supporting a woman's right to decide whether or not abortion is the right choice for her.

The beef I have with "happy adoptees" is that they seem to dismiss we who have pain and assume that since we have pain we cannot also be happy. Well, life is complex and so is adoption . You can be a happy person who has experienced loss. That does not mean it should "take over your life" but that also does not mean that it should go without acknowledgement.

The rainbow adoptees should take into account that, while they are lucky to have escaped from their relinquishement without any scars, not every one is quite as lucky as that. There is no shame in feeling pain. There is no shame in grieving.

SJM

No, I do not. Women do not become pregnant without men. The father has just as much legal claim to the child as the mother. No, I do not support a woman's choice to give up her baby no matter what. I never have, and I never will. Two people made the child, two people should make the decision. I don't believe an adoption should ever be final until a father is located.

julie j

Hello OllieO,

You ask about pro-choice. It refers to a woman's right to make choices regarding her pregnant body. Yes, I believe a woman does have the legal and moral right to decide whether to be pregnant or not. Her pregnant body - her choice to decide upon abortion.

Adoption however, is not about deciding whether or not to be pregnant. It is not a birth control method. It is not a medical procedure either. Adoption has nothing to do with the mother's body. Therefore, pro-choice does not apply here.

Once the child is born, that child is his/her own person with legal rights equal to everyone else's. Those rights include the right to his/her own family, heritage, culture, name, etc. If a mother decides to carry a pregnancy to term, she needs to understand that choice brings with it ethical responsibilities towards her future child. If she needs help meeting her childâ€™s needs, she certainly should be assisted. A mother does not have the right to permanently remove a child from his/her father and rest of the child's family. If there are legitimate reasons why she believes the child would be in physical danger then that is for a court to decide alternate custody arrangements.

Pro-choice is not about parenting. To bring a child into the world with the specific intent of abandoning him/her is morally wrong, and I do not believe subjecting children to a lifetime of being an adoptee & all that entails is whatâ€™s best for children. That has nothing to do with a womanâ€™s right to choose abortion. Thanks for asking.

julie j
reunited adoptee

Laurel J

I support her right to make her choice. There's a difference between that and approving of her decision.

sunny

Isn't it 'anti-woman ' to take a woman's child instead of helping her?

What's right for most babies is to be raised my the mother's who made, carried, and delieverd them.

chihuahua momma

i think if the woman feels she can not raise a child she should give that child a chance for a good life and give the child up for adoption

Flying Monkey #073177

Sometimes

monkeykitty83

I support a woman's legal right to make that choice.

I don't necessarily agree with the choice she made, and I don't necessarily think it's the best thing she could do. I think the choice can have terrible consequences.

But I do support her freedom to choose, even if she chooses something I disagree with.

Isabel A

So in your realm of thinking, the women who took their teenagers to Nebraska and abandoned them at hospitals because of the child dumping laws...that's ok too right...because abandoning children should always be a woman's right.
Right?

Spec

Do you mean abortion or giving up custody and put the child on adoption?
I support either one. My reason being that if they don't think they can handle the child, they shouldn't. The law won't really do much though, there are underground operations, always, beneath the nose of our governors.
I thought the women would not put all their hearts in their child if they did not want it in the first place, why let the innocents suffer.

Kazi

I'm not sure where "anti-woman" comes into play, however, I am a huge advocate of personal responsibility and free will. Life is never a straight line and there are very few absolute yes or no answers. People do what is right for them at the time. We can never get into someone's else's head and therefore what is right for some does not automatically mean it is right for everyone. If a woman wants to relinquish despite all of the options presented to her, then, yes, I would support it. I might not have made the same choice or even understand it, but as I am not her, who am I to judge?

Mommy to 11 month old Jacob

If she doesn't feel she can provide the child with a life he or she deserve then I totally support her choice to give that child up for adoption...in fact I applaud her for making a good choice for that child. Be it adoption or Baby Safe Haven...she's making a good choice for that child.

FlutterMeBy

Depending on the situration.

Lots of scenarios:
rape victim
underage with no family support/fiancial support
not stable enough(mentally, phsyically)

Up to the age of 17, I had always believed that it was just my older sister, older brother, me and my younnger sister. It wasn't until I was 17 that I found out that I had another sister,3 years older then me!

My mom gave her up to adoption....why!

I don't know why she did but she did.She had support from my father and everything.

After some searching I finally found her, or thought I did. I somehow got into contact with her adoptive parents who basically told me that she's their family and told me not to call again.

I don't even think they told her she's adopted..which is just plain wrong if you ask me because they don't know her family history, but I DO and who knows one day they will regret that because they have nothing.

I hope they freaking wise up and let her know that I searched for her and that she's adopted.

She's almost 21 or 22 now for godsake

kellie

I think adoption is great.

Sophie

Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes.

Mei-Ling

Prochoice has nothing to do with relinquishment.

Prochoice is about the fetus's right to not be aborted and the woman's decision to abort... considering some people believe it's a human and others do not.

Chris

I would rather see a woman give up a baby for adoption than to have an abortion. No matter the reason. Even if it is her being selfish reasons (which may sometimes be the case). With so many people out there who would make great parents and can't have children it is the perfect opportunity to give a child the loving life it deserves. Now I am not saying that a woman who gives her baby up doesn't love the baby, I see it as being very loving because for whatever reason they are not able to keep the baby and want to give it a chance to have a good life.

BRrrr Why Am I Soo Cold???

Im with simplegirl, I dont really understand your side. BUt heres my take on it. Pregnancy is preventable.You can choose your birth control method or abstinance altogether but for those times when despite birth control or the morning after pill a woman falls pregnant, Id say adoption is the way to go if she isnt willing(or able) to raise the child herself. This shows more strength and female dignity, to accept the presence of the baby and to do whats right for your child even if you cant provide much more than life alone.

Spaz

I agree with you.

Why are people so blind?

Prochoice is about the woman being allowed to kill the unborn baby simply because it is in her body that she would rather do other things with.

I fully support a womans choice to give the baby up for adoption. Thats what pro-life is mainly about. Other options besides killing the unborn.

Jaime J

Depending on why she is giving up her child, will change my opinion on support for her. If she knows for an absolute fact that she can't take care of the child (for whatever reason other than illegal activities IE - Too young; not enough money; etc.) then she has the right.

Giving up a child to support a habit is wrong. 100%

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