Do you think Adoption Awareness Month brings out the crazies?

Mary G

yet another mouth piece for the industry, also known as a "shill" When will others learn that articles (oops editorials) like this are not about honoring anyone? Least of all about honoring mothers? It is nothing but an advertisment used to entice mothers into surrender. It also makes me ill..

I wonder how many that spout this sort of rhetoric actually believe it? When mothers are not given fair impartial counseling, support to help them parent, and all the information they need I consider it a crime against both mothers, and children. Pieces like this do nothing but further the agenda of agencies like LSS, and the NCFA.

Obviously there are those that disagree - can I just say, you have a lot to learn..

Sly- once again the mothers of loss speak out (the comments on the page) and are called crazy for telling the truth. It is nothing new, and it is still shameful and mean and nasty. Why is our truth so threatening? Oh wait, because it ruins the daydream doesn't it? Guess what, I am to ruin those daydreams. You know the saying "Well behaved women rarely make history?" Well, I aim to misbehave..

ETA: seriously thumbs down for my opinion? I would laugh if it weren't so obvious that I hit a nerve with my misbehavior.. wait I will laugh because really I don't shiv a git!

Not Adopted

It's adoption industry propaganda written by an agency employee. Gee, she doesn't have an agenda, does she?

ETA: For those who are confused, it's crazy for an adoption agency to pretend to offer support or unbiased counseling to expectant mothers. Adoption agencies exist for one reason only - to place babies for adoption. They are not altruistic organizations that want to help mothers.

Sure, they pretend to care about mothers - that's how they get the goods.

snowwillow20

I can't even think of the right words to express how I felt when I read that article.

Serenity71

I was hoping to see more on BOTH sides of adoption like some of the things people bring up here.

Good and bad. Yet people think its just to promote rainbows and butterflies, not truths and improvement. I'd like to see programs that tell both sides and not just goodie stuff.

I don't think its crazy to support women and taking the pressure off them when they are vulnerable. Are there other women there who have been in their position counseling them? (At least they have somewhere to go. Be glad those days are gone where it was to hide single pregnant girls.) Helping them find solutions to be able to keep their baby, and making adoption their last resort not first. I'm horrified that women were put in homes and shunned, pressured and forced to surrender babies. (Almost happened to my fathers sister. She was neglected by doctors because she was a single mother alone in another city to save the family from "shame" My grandma found her just in time in the hospital during labour with adoption papers sitting near by. She told the nurses like hell they were going make her sign them. I spoke to my grandmother a great deal before applying for adoption. And my Aunty. )

Just because I'm AP (or other AP's) doesn't mean I condone practices that treat women like they don't have any options, and make them shunned.

jessica300

Interesting how a couple of aps commented here that they think the article is wonderful (praise the "birth"mother) and yet they call those who commented on the article (mostly mothers who lost children to adoption) crazy.

It's the 2-faced stuff like this that I can't stomach. They are so willing to go along with the rhetoric and yet it is so obvious that they don't believe it themselves.

School Nurse highlighted this portion of the article: "So during this month as we focus national attention on adoption, let's honor birth parents who either place their babies for adoption or parent the child themselves."

Is it an intentional gloss-over to call the woman who parents her child a birthmother here, or just that the paps and aps are so eager to think that there might be another marketable baby they miss the inappropriate use of the term? Sounds like some people are too eager to jump on the bandwagon and praise the young pregnant woman who might (hopefully) give her child to them or one of their cronies. After all, I imagine you need lots of back patting supporters if you get into this biz.

Anyway, the article is nothing more than a bit of tripe to encourage the separation of families so she and the agency she works for can carry on with "business as usual," and maybe get an oven fresh babe for herself or one of her friends.

PhilM

Frankly, I'm appalled by the editorial and by some of the reactions here. Unfortunately, neither of them surprise me.

But it amazes me that the pro-adoption robots are out in force, calling "birth mothers" crazies. These aren't people on Yahoo! that you think have wronged you. These are women telling their stories. You don't have to like it. But when you ignore and dismiss it, you enter the state of "denial."

It's too bad that so many "pro-adoption" preachers on here are so anti-adoptee.

Freckle Face

Dear Sly,

It sounds like they are pushing being a "hero" onto these mothers. Brainwashing pure and simple.

Independ"ant"

I think the person that wrote that article is either making a lot of money off adoption, got themselves a kiddie or are smoking crack.

"Did you know that in our country today, many people feel it's morally wrong to place a baby for adoption? It's true. The birth moms we see at Shepherd's Gate often experience a lack of support from family, friends and society for their consideration of adoption as a viable option."

Thats an insulting demented twist on Natural mothers positions and Morality...She's probably another whacked out jesus freak pro life supporter that doesn't give a crap about the Quality of life. Only a clueless selfish ignorant Pap/Ap would buy into it.
Call me crazy.

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Mommy times 2!

I'm wondering how many of the AP's who thought this article was so wonderful are lined up to give their kids away next. Because it's so effing noble, right?

Randy B

I've got no problems with the article. Well written and makes sense to me. Now, some of the comments on the other hand do show the crazies out there IMHO.

Rainia W

Wow, you sure are judgmental. It brings out the "crazies"? Is there anything wrong with supporting women who truly do want to give up their children for adoption? I am an adoptee, and I hate to think that my b-mom had to struggle with people telling her she was doing the wrong thing. It was her choice, and it was the right choice for me. Being a mother is about doing what is right by her child, no matter how much it hurts her. It was best for me to be put up for adoption (and in my b-moms situation, it was best for her to put me up for adoption). I don't think this is the case for all b-moms or all adoptees, but they do deserve support if that is the decision they choose.

Aren't all the people on here that are against adoption against it because b-moms didn't know all their rights or difficulties surrounding adoption? If we "crazies" truly support birthmoms/firstmoms/bio-moms/just plain moms, we would let them know these things.

School Nurse

I'm confused about what you believe in, Sly.

"...because we support birth moms whether they make the decision to parent or to place. We are here to work with women who are pregnant and don't know what to do, not to pressure them into a decision..... So during this month as we focus national attention on adoption, let's honor birth parents who either place their babies for adoption or parent the child themselves. Because ultimately, we want them to make a decision they â€” and the baby â€” can live with. And that's worth celebrating."

Isn't that ethical adoption practices????

I don't think you have to wait until November and "Adoption Awareness Month" for the crazies to come out around here--lol.

LaraSue

Yep, as proven by the comments on the editorial. Sure does bring out the crazies.

AdoreHim

Let me get this straight- you are saying that the person who wrote this article is crazy? What happened to thanking birth moms for loving their child enough to place for adoption. Granted it is a hard thing to do, I know I met both of my adopted children's moms- however would it be less crazy to think that those 2 moms could have aborted their children, instead of placing for adoption. I would say this even if they were not my kids. I am also thankful for a birth mom- MINE- without her giving me life I would not be here either. For the information of some people who feel that ALL birth moms were forced into placing, most not really know personally birth moms or adoptees. The birth moms of both of our children, said it was their choice, because they knew that they could not raise them but abortion was no option. They both had children prior to having our adopted kids, so it was not that they did not know how to parent, or would not want children, they just knew that one more child would be over the top financially and emotionally for them. They did sacrifice themselves instead of their children, on the altar of abortion. So for anyone who says this article is written by a crazy women think again. Criticizing this article has no most likely made another birth mom think of abortion instead of adoption. Thank your mom that she chose life for you!!

crazychickizback

took the words right out of my mouth elodie duck. I think the article was great. I think the comments are like something out of the looney bin

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