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charlotte
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In my case being dehumanized by growing up never seeing another blood relative and feeling unreal not human then no if it can be avoided.
REALLY try to imagine being taken from your mother straight after birth when your still as one and not being even allowed one look at her and then growing up never seeing your people who are actually you I mean I am an alien I thought but seeing my father has bought a little humanity to me my body my heart my soul everything physically mentally I am the same as my father not the strangers I was forced to live with this is a deep deep feeling of being basically human and this was taken from me I looked at my face and felt traumatized who the hell am I what am I ??? |
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Freckle Face
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It depends on who you ask...LOL.
No, really. Adoption is complicated. There is no black and white answer. If you want me to answer when is adoption right? Foster care. |
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Mei-Ling
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Lesse here:
Taking a child away from their family, homeland, culture and language?
Not right at all.
Giving them a family, homeland, culture and language?
That's what ANY child deserves as a basic human right.
You dismiss far too many grey areas in the issue of adoption. |
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✧ Ⓛⓘⓛⓨ ♥ kaelers, emy & bella
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It's not right or wrong in and of itself; adoption is neutral.
What's right or wrong is individual scenarios.
There are unethical practices in adoption (particularly infant adoption, but it does happen with some older children) that can make an adoption situation wrong. Baby-brokering, coercion, the mind games that are played with some birth mothers, and bullying in custody battles are all real problems that affect many adoptions and make them negative experiences.
But I don't think even the most vehemently anti-adoption posters (*knock on wood*) we have around here would say that adopting a child from foster care who has no one else to care for them is wrong in and of itself.
Most situations are ambiguous. Adoption arises when things aren't quite right to begin with - be that a birth mother who can't care for a child, death of parents, or a removal by the courts, whatever. It is an institution that tries to find solutions when the ideal way (children stay with their biological families) is not possible or not in the best interests of the child. And this institution sometimes fails. Some adoptions do not happen the way they should, and some do. It's not good or bad - it just is. |
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LaraSue
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I think it depends on the situation. Sometimes it is, and sometimes it isn't. |
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BillBeauregard
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Uh-huh .
As long as you're able to provide for the child's expenses like education etc. and don't do it illegally like buying a child in Asia. Trust me , those babies are taken away by syndicates and sold off to foreigners from the hospitals. If you want to adopt a child , be sure to meet it's biological parents.
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AdoptionisLoving
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Adoption can be a very loving and wonderful experience for everyone in the adoption triad. I agree with the statements that have been made thus far regarding international vs domestic adoption. Too right. There are plenty of children in the US that need and deserve a home. This is the route that we are taking. We have done a lot of research, have spoken to many ppl from adoptes to birth parents to adoptive parents and are trying to be as educated and informed as possible. Adoption is not the right answer for everyone, so do not be fooled. It is the most serious, life altering decision anyone can make and should not be entered into lightly. |
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grapesgum
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In too many cases, no. |
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RPMR
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Before you post a question the best thing to do is search it on YA! your question has been asked time and time again. I think people here are kind of tires of answering that! Search it! You will find the answers very interesting. |
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Porsha
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If your adopting an abused or neglected orphan maybe so. But if your just shopping around for a new born infant than no it not right.
When a new born infant is adopted, it means that it has been separated from its mother. Any time an infant loses its mother it's a sad state of affairs. The gestation period for a human is nine months; from the moment of conception to the time of birth, and normally after birth, the mother and child are forming a bond. By the time a child is born it knows the sound of its mother's voice, her smell, even the exact pattern of her heart beat. Tests prove that an infant as young as a day old can recognize its mother when she enters a room. (This is proven by the baby's heart rate; if it cries and its mother comes the heart rate returns to normal, if the mother does not come the baby's heart rate increases as the baby becomes more upset because its mother is not answering his/her call.)
So when a child leaves the safe cocoon of its mother's womb it needs the comfort of someone familiar, i.e., its mother. The only person this child really knows is its mother. Therefore, the child suffers an emotional wound when its mother never comes to dry its tears. It suffers because it has already bonded with its mother and not even the most loving, well meaning, attentive adoptive mothers can give this child what it needs emotionally. In time the child will adjust but a baby who suffers from the initial loss of its mother will carry that emotional scar for the rest of its life.
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Flying Monkey #073177
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No. There are better ways to build a family or help a child than stripping someone of their identity and heritage. Guardianship, for example. |
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Nameless
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To a very gray line yes. I certainly think it is right to have babies found in dumpsters, horribly abused, or orphaned adopted. However I think it is the less then ideal course of option in say a difficult finical situation or a situation witch is not in the babies best interests. Then there is a huge gray area of situations. |
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horizann
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YES BUT IT ALL DEPENDS IF WHO EVER ADOPTS YOUR CHILD IF THEY CAN PROVIDE FOR HIM OR HER......DON'T ADOPT IF YOU CAN'T TAKE CARE OF THE BABY |
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Josephine C
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For many people, yes it is.
I don't understand your question. It depends on the people and the situation. |
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kateiskate
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I think adoption was a good situation for me and a lot of other people including my little sister. I am also going to adopt when it is time for me and my fiance to start a family together. So yeah I think it's right for me and my family. As far as adoption on a whole it may be right for some and a wrong decision for others. But for me it was right. |
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Summer L
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Absolutely. Whether the adoption is from an agency or foster care, they are all still children needing homes. Agencies are not all "baby brokers", there are actually women/girls that have no desire to be parents, get pregnant accidentally, and do the right thing by making them available for adoption instead of aborting them.
I do not believe that adoption strips anyone of their identity, we are all still people. Is DNA really as important as someone who loves you? Sorry Mei Ling :-(
adoptee and 7 year foster parent |
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allchildrenareangels
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every situation is different. It might not be right for some but, is for others. |
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nighteam
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Yes, there are many children in the system who need homes who's birth family could not or would not provide for them and others who's birth family abused them. Adoption is not an evil. |
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Bouvier
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For My daughter, yes |
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Shut yo mouf
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Your question is very general. Please be more specific.
Adoption is always the better choice versus abortion. A woman who decides to have her child adopted out than abort it deserves the upmost respect.
One thing that bothers me is when our people (Americans) tend to go outside of the nation to adopt. They go to China, Russia, Mexico. Aren't we as Americans supposed to take care of our own before anything else? That my friend, pisses me off. So many American children need good homes yet they are ignored. |
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Nique86
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Yes i do because there's so many good families out there that cant have children of their own so its a perfect opportunity 4 them. |
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gibberish
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Yes indeed it is. Don't listen to the Godless rants here. Adoption is a joy. It is a blessing to those saved from lives of sadness. |
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saraimay75
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It is not a matter of right and wrong. It a matter of the fact that there are people who have babies/children that cannot take care of them. Then there is the matter of the fact that there are people who want to have children but the can't have children. Therefore children who needs home are given homes. |
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sheerbliss19
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Why not, you're helping a child receive a better home, and you're helping a family receive a child they have longed to have. I say it's a win/win.
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Cheyrocker
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That's a ruff question, but this is what i think if you are really yong, can't even Support yourself, and don't know what to do then adoption is the Option. If you just give them up then that's so rong but I understand it can be ruff but always say how you want the baby's knew family to treat it and make sure it goes to a good home because there are some wackos out there! |
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lolrema
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yes i have neighbors who adopted 2 children a boy and a girl and they have a wonderful happy family..........i think |
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CosmicMama
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Absolutely, I think as a birth parent it's the most selfless thing you can do. I would also love to adopt one day there are so many kids out there that need good homes! |
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Smiley
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definetley all those children need a home, and i sure wouldnt leave them in an orphanage for most of their life |
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meshu172
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theres no problem in adoption,even if you can produce your own kids but you need to be sincere with the child you adopt. that is you should be able to bring that child up to the utmost of every thing and never let him feeel that he is adopted ....... |
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Birthers are NOT mothers
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It's a necessity for the birthers...they need to unload their responsibilities...I mean "lose" their responsibilities! |
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