Do you think adoption should be easier?

Lillie

Sad that you are not concerned about how "easy" it is for the child to have to lose his/her mother, family, culture, history, EVERYTHING, just so YOU can be the "perfect parent."

Have you ever stopped for a moment to consider that to be adopted, a child must first face a tremendous LOSS?

No, I suppose not.

I wish adoption could be "easier" for the adoptee, but sadly, that will never, ever, happen.

IDK!!

I would worry more about how long it takes a parentless child to find parents.

Right now there are enough people to where each child could have 10 parents.

Also you can't have equal "rights" to something that isn't even a right.

Stinky Pete

Nope. Sorry but its not a right and shouldn't be easy. Its about the child not you

Sly

right now we have a 10-25% rate of failed adoptions. That means that they are returning children to the agencies or the state. If they made the process faster and easier, it would only increase it.

Here's a thought.;..how about doing away with adoption and giving that money to the mothers so that they won't be on a place like this whining about meeting their child's adopters 5 days after giving birth. A mother who has sufficient funds to raise her child and a little support wouldn't need to surrender, but, then where would PAPs be?

Freckle Face

NO!

The red tape is there for a reason, I actually think there should be more.

Gaia Raain

I think it should be made much easier on the kids who have to lose their entire family and get used to a new family who is nothing like them. I think the adoptive parents should be required to read books written by, and suggested by, adoptees, and I think they should be able to hold a reasonable conversation with the angriest adoptee they can find, being validating and not being defensive. I think adoptive parents should be required to prove that their #1 priority is the well being of the child (which means not adopting a child who already has a perfectly good family, as in the case of most infants). I think adoptive parents should be required to read adoptee blogs and the adoptee message board for a minimum of 1 year before being able to adopt. I think adoptive parents ought to be "tested" on their ability and willingness to support their child no matter what - even if it means they stuff down their own feelings of inadequacy and fear in order to be fully present when their child needs them.

It's not about the childless adults finding kids to meet their desires. So no, I don't think it should be made easier for them. I could care less what they want. I'm interested in the child's needs. If they can't meet those needs, they need to step back.

PhilM

I think it should be impossible to adopt. Seriously. No child should have it's identity stripped away and a false one established in its place just to satisfy someone's desire for a child.

Nathan

Unfortunately, this problem isn't as simple as we wish it was.

I would like to see adoptions be easier for the good of children who are "getting older and sadder" but never for the sake of only those who adopt. Adopting a child does often make the people happy, but that should always be a consequence that is subordinate to the primary goal of helping children. People don't deserve children.

myst1998

No, I think it should be abolished. There is no need for it anymore. Foster a child, sponsor a child and his/her mother or get guardianship for a child but don't adopt.

Independ"ant"

NO with the exception of abuse and severe neglect.

More support is needed for women considering placing.
More thorough homestudy's are needed for those that wish to adopt.

In general the adoption business needs to be reformed. Adoptions are happening when its not necessary as well as going against the will of the natural parents.

Adoption should be that last resort.

kristysearching

No, it should be harder to adopt!

BOTZ

The only "perfect parent" for a baby/child is the one who gave them life/genes/DNA. IF -- and ONLY if -- they are not able or willing to care for their own child, then the best a child can get is a well-qualified, well-intentioned, well-informed STRANGER as a substitute parent(s).

I don't think it should be easier. I think it should be harder. I think it should be IMPOSSIBLE to adopt a baby -- especially "just because they can't have one". Sick!

Dan B.

i think you feel sorry for yourself alot and wouldnt make a very good mom

Penny A (Vanessa)

No. It should not be made easier.

BPD Wife

As an adoptive parent, I understand the point you are trying to make. However, I want to believe that all of the steps that are taken are necessary to protect the children. We don't want to place children in abusive or unsafe homes. If the paperwork and the fees that are required help to protect just one child, then it's worth it. If there were no fees or it was easier to adopt, you would have to worry about child predators, pedophiles, etc., also trying to adopt children. We can't have that.

textqueen580

To crazychickizback, you aren't shopping for a new toy, you are talking about a human being for gods sake. Grow up

katchiogo2007

well for one when everything is factored in there is a process u have to undergo to adopt a child, it takes so long for one because they make sure that the person is serious about taking care of the child,2 they make sure that the person can take care of the child not just physically, you cant jst say u want to adopt a child and it should just be that no, that child has needs just like your child would have if you had a child, you have to be able to give that child a good home, not just a home to past the time until they get sent to another not a foster home u are talking about adopting...permanent...and another thing is you dont have a job so how are u going to take care of a child when you dont have a job, and as far as speech goes if it is a baby or a young child maybe they just feel that you would not be able to teach the child to speak properly with your speech problem and true enough thats not right but think of the child!

crazychickizback

i completely agree. it's ridiculous how hard it is! as if being infertile isnt bad enough i also have to worry about jumping through hoops making sure i'm saying exactly what the home study people want to hear. Its even harder if you want a healthy baby and harder still if you don't want to deal with foster care and want a closed adoption. If the kids need homes so bad, I don't see why they still insist on making it impossible...

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