Do you think given the opportunity that most adoptees?

DevonChaos

Andraya! That's a-mazing!

I would look at everything in the box. Hell, I'd figure out a way to LIVE in it. I would want to soak in 30 years worth of my heritage the fastest way possible. I would bathe in it. I wouldn't tell anyone I looked inside. Actually, I would. I would tell them that I found a box, and that they couldn't have access to its contents. I'd laugh maniacally and run off into the sunset. MY PRECIOUS!

Flying Monkey #073177

At any point in my life I'd have had that box open faster than a lady of the night could open hers.

BLW_KAM

IF I had been adopted I have no doubt the box would stay closed for a millisecond before I opened it. Curiosity of part of who I am.

Annabelle

Well Im an AP but I can tell you when I got the hospital records on my first child I opened the envelope at the mailbox.

Rowan

I'd have(and still would be) on that box like butter on bread.

Opedial

Geez, if I had the box for my kids I would be curious as heck, I am sure no child could resist that information.

It is like, in a very very small way, when someone finds out more about their ancestors. I have heard lots of people search out their great great great great and so on anscestors as part of genealogy, so if people are curious about their history like that, it is not a stretch to think that someone might want to find out about their birth and their mother and father.

SJM

I don't know about a lack of curiosity, but I'm confident that there are adoptees who are so fearful of what's inside that they wouldn't be able to sit in the same room with the box.

ETA: I suppose I should add that my brother has been in possession of his adoption decree for several years now and has not opened it. Dad provided both of us with the opportunity to make our own decision. And yeah, it's a poisoned Kool-Aid thing, but with a twist. Dad is afraid of his own family history, and he's not adopted. It's a strange mindset, but it does happen. I think he's being silly. My brother chose to share his fear.

Torrejon

I dont even have to think for a second...I would take the box into a private room, lock the door, and spend days pouring over its contents.

For the record, I have never told anyone in my afamily that I searched.

a healing adoptee

i would look inside!

kateiskate

Yeah I would look!!!

In the past I would have felt guilty, ashamed, and even almost dirty for looking because I was so guilted into believing I should feel grateful for being 'saved' from 'poverty' by my adoptive parents that I wouldnt have ever admitted to it.

Now I would look in it proudly, excitedly like a little kid at Christmas time.

Erin L

I'm not an adoptee, so I hope it's okay to answer. I cannot imagine anyone not looking in that box. I do think all adoptees are curious, just not all ready to search. All adoptees should have access to their original birth certificate and adoption documents with info. on bio family without having to search, though.

cruzgirlz3

I think if any person adopted or not were given a box that said "information about you" they would open it. I think every person would open it, though some might be hesitant or afraid at first. Somehow because we are adoptees curiosity is wrong? Nah, if people are honest they will admit they are curious.

Katie P

I believe everyone has not only a curiosity,but a right to know about their life.After all,it is just that,"their life"

My husband is 73 and has only found out that he has 8 siblings,"so sad".

His mother only kept one of her children.

â™¥Bomber... Suspicia Bomber.â™¥

if that box was real it would b a dream come true 4 me. i would open that box so fast its not even funny and i dont care if ppl were around or not.

fireflykissess

I am adopted and well i know my birth moms name and that she was young when she had me. I would love to know what she looks like and if i have any brothers or sisters and if a box contained all of that and more, i would definitely open it. No doubt in my mind.

every adoptee is different and every ones story is different like my mom was 16 and she willingly gave me up then on the other hand my brother was abandoned and left for dead. ( which my parents don't have the heart to tell him). He has no interest in knowing about his mother or where he came from. But even he would probably be interested in looking in the box if left in private.

Linny G

BWAHAHAHAHA, Andraya. Best answer of the day!!!!!

I would think that if someone had access to that box of information and didn't take a peek, EVEN if they were in privacy & no one would ever know, they have been mentally abused, and made fearful of their natural family. AKA Illegal amounts of brainwashing and poisoned Kool-Aid.

I would have taken that box, opened it, made copies, then walked it downtown to Catholic Charities and thrown it in my social worker's face.

Carol c

Well, you know what they say - intelligent people don't live well with mystery in their lives.

So I guess the smart adoptees would look. LOL
I sure would if I was adopted, but then again I'm smart. And when I met my son when he was 21, he was smart as well - and he wanted to know.

ElenaKatherine

While I can't answer for EVERY adoptee, I can tell you that THIS adoptee would definitely open the box and soak up the story inside. I suppose it would be a bit like opening Pandora's box though..once you open it, a whole new host of emotions would come flooding out, and if you weren't prepared for them you'd be quite overwhelmed.

That being said, emotional or not, yes, I'd open it.

Heather B

Oh yes! You'd have to be so angry and bitter and full of hatred for your natural family NOT to look! (and they call us open-minded searching adoptees angry and bitter, go figure!)

Some people are 'fraidy-cats and scared of what they'll find.

anastasia beaverhausen-the real1

i think if given the box, we would almost all look.

there's a slight difference between people who admit their natural desires to know where they came from, and other people who are busy protecting their AP's until they die, and then adoptees go search after.

bottom line....IMO, anyone who has no primal desire to know where they came from is slightly.....ummmm...."off".

bananarama

of course i would look i couldnt imagine not wanting to look

amy lou

Hey sunny!!

Well, let me just tell you, that I could not wait until I was 18! At 18, I was able to access my info about my adoption, I was able to search too. I waited a long time to do this. I cant see how there is any adoptee who isn't just the tinyest bit curious. How can they not be???!! Being curious about who you are, does not mean your going to ditch your adoptive parents does it?, so I don't think there is anything wrong with admitting your curious. :)

Dreamweaver ILF posse 2009

I we'd had access to that kind of information, my parents would have shared it with me from a very young age.

If we had access now? I'd sit down with my mom and look through it. She's just as curious as I am! lol My dad passed away but he'd have looked too

Indiana

my cousin has always had his birth mothers address and she has his, neither one has ever initiated contact, so i think some wouldn't.

Crucio

I would probably look inside but I very much doubt it would make me want to contact this people. Iâ€™d look at it then put it away and maybe look at it occasionally but probably not often. I am sure there are some people who would not look probably just take this box and chuck it into the fire.

red elephants

Sunny I think there would be. Maybe not a huge number but I think some would have no interest.

Its a little different situation but I don't know my father. I never met him and he left before I was born. He was fully aware I was on the way and didn't want to stick around. I've never really been curious about him or his side of the family. I've been told his name a couple times but honestly if I had to tell it to you now I wouldn't be able to. Its of that little importance. My family (mom's side) has never hid anything from me about him and if I asked they would tell me but it was just never important to me to know that. So maybe thats like having the box sitting there? I don't know. Like I said not quite the same but a missing parent and I can tell you if I did have that box and complete privacy I still would not open it.

I'm a very stable person and know who I am and who I've made myself to be. I look like very few people in my family. My father was mexican, my mom german. She has blond hair and blue eyes as do most and I'm brown hair and eyes. I also have olive skin compared to all of my extremely white family. My mom and I are opposites on most things as far as our personalities go. Not everything but the majority of them.

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