Do you think it's wrong that adoption costs so much?

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I THINK IT IS RIDICULOUS. there are so many good people that want kids and can't have them but can't afford the hgh cots of adoption either.. I feel like adoption costs so much only because those asoption agencies are too money hungry and are more concerned about money than these children who need homes

BOTZ

Yes and no.

I think it's disgusting to the point of obscene that MONEY is made -- by agencies and lawyers -- off the sale of humans and the pain and anguish of mothers, fathers (sometimes) and their children.

I also think that if adoption is to "give a child a better life" then it behooves society to ensure that the child will ACTUALLY have a better life. Trading poverty for poverty AND a family of strangers is NOT a "better life".

And as for "put[ting] people off adopting and those kids'll end up on the streets", it's not likely. Children who are removed from or abandoned by their parents (in the U.S. -- that's all I'm talking about) very RARELY, if ever, "end up on the streets". Where they end up is in foster care, or institutional care. That's not a heck of a lot better, but it's not "on the streets". Children "on the streets" very often live there WITH their own, natural (or adoptive) parents.

Also, there are about 90 couples/people wanting to adopt EACH baby that is available for adoption. So, it seems the "cost" of adopting has not really "put people off" all that much, has it?

kateiskate

Well it's cheap and sometimes even free to adopt from the foster care system. However, those kids are often not "perfect" as babies have the illusion of being, and a lot of people are looking for perfect babies, rather than real kids with real baggage.

jack g

Adopting a child who is freed for adoption and in foster care and can't be returned to their family for whatever reason doesn't cost anything - buying a baby hoping for the perfect child does

Randy B

It is and I refused to pay it. Our first adoption, and international one while we lived overseas, was $800 US and our second through domestic foster care, was free.

The costs are only high because people will pay it. Adopt through foster care and give homes to the kids that really need them.

LovetheLORDfirst

Kids that truly need a home are over 8, and they are FREE. Try Associated Catholic Charities

due July 13, 2009

no person should cost money... but thats how the sick world works bc no one cares about ppl just money

Vegatarians have more fun:)

not really cuz why would u buy somebody i no i wouldnt want to be put up for sale

Independ"ant"

I think it says alot about what Adoption has become or is about. DeMoney.

Not Adopted

No, I don' think it's wrong because the price is determined by the market and the rules of supply and demand. There is a very limited supply of infants available for adoption but the demand is large. This results in a very high price for an infant.

Older children in foster care are available for adoption for very little cost. That's because the demand for older children is low while the supply is high.

Mystical

yes, it means that a lot of people are making money basically selling kids. if it did not cost so much many more kids could have homes and it would probably be a lot more ethical.

Brown Eyed Beauty

I was just talking about that with my boyfriend. Yes I think it's stupid that it costs so much. How do you put a price tag on a child? How can you be told you can't adopt because you don't have enough money? Isn't it all about the child? Shouldn't they just make sure that you have enough money to support that child? Where does all that money go?

Hmm...

Julia

It only costs a lot if you want an infant. I adopted in 2008 and it didn't cost me a penny out of pocket. We were reimbursed for our travel, hotels, meals, legal fees, and more.

Our families threw us "baby" showers and we got the clothing, bedding, car seats, and all we needed for the kids to move in. Co-workers donated furniture, and their time to paint and hang border.

yeahright

I do think it's fair. Not because I believe in agencies but I think that the costs make people really think it through. It also encourages people to adopt through the state and foster to adopt--which is next to nothing to do.

It is a misnomer that only the rich adopt. Of all of the people that I know who adopted ALL of them (and I know a ton of them) either saved $ over an extended amount of time, mortgaged their house, cashed retirement, borrowed from family members, used credit cards to make it happen. All of this served to take up additional time so they could think through it, make other family members included etc.

I do think the amounts are really getting high--too high. I've seen costs up to 50k in total. What is accurate however is that noone in private adoption is going to immediately end up on the streets--there are approximately 100 sets of parents or more lined up to pay those costs to adopt.

Pale Cheeked Angel

I totally think it's wrong to charge upwards of $10,000 for adoption. Having money to throw around like that isn't an indicator of a good parent.

Nicole

Yes, I do. Private adoption can cost on average $20,000-30,000. I don't know many people that can afford that, and because they are not rich they miss out on being parents.
Adoption through the foster care system is not as costly, however the majority of people want babies/younger children so they're forced to go private. Its almost like you're buying a child, which is completely wrong.

Dog Owner

I think the prices are a little too high. Personally I am unable to physically have any children, so adoption will hopefully be in the future for me.

Single people can adopt but it's way too much for one person to handle (at least for me).

Heidi C

As others have posted--adopt through the US foster care system--and you have almost no cost.

You most likely won't get an infant--but think of what you save not paying for diapers and formula. By the time a child is even 3, if not older, you can tell a lot about their personality. You will also be able to tell learning disabilities, mental health issues, academics, etc. I personally adopted a boy with autism. I KNEW he had autism. Had I adopted him as in infant, I'd have not know that. All sorts of expensive testing was done before I got him.

Also, if you work full-time, a school-age child could go to school and you'd have only day care costs for after school. That would save you a bundle. I personally home school, but I can see that benefit speaking to my wallet! LOL!

Think of how much more sleep you'd get at night, not having to feed an infant. I personally know that, too, because I had 5 birth children before adopting.

Yes, it is costly to adopt the "traditional way"--an infant. But the organizations have costs--salaries, postage, fax useage, telephone usage, etc. I think it seems quite expensive, but I also think professional athletes are overpaid, and I cannot change that one bit! LOL!

Blessings.

Katie .

yes i think its wrong. people are going to use 40,000$ for adoption and then use what to pay for the kid.

Mei-Ling

No.

The fees are necessary.

windowizard

I don't think it is fair! There are certain things especially with international adoption that realistically though have high costs; air travel, apartments, hiring a driver, translators, and food.

There are other expediting/ exploitation fees that are wrong and I do wish that foreign officials and agencies would not choose to abuse their power but they do it.

In our sons' adoption we had to choose between piety and principle. Would we leave three boys in a situation that had virtually no chances of positive outcomes or would we choose to allow ourselves to be exploited.

A comparable situation to the expediting/ exploitation fees of adoption would be if I was driving a person who was dying to the emergency room and going the speed limit and had a police officer pull me over and demand money. I was doing nothing wrong but my moral, ethical, and commitment to natural law would compel me to pay the corrupt policeman's price. Innocent life is at stake.

Some will argue that paying an exploitation fee violates the Foreign Corrupt Practices Act but the Department of Justice is going to have to prove "corrupt intent" and "directing business WRONGFULLY" . Intent and eligibility are the important determining factors when it comes to choosing to allow oneself to be exploited.

For those arguing against paying expediting/ exploitation fees from a Christian worldview I would challenge you to examine your reasoning. EVERY time in the scriptures the exploiter was condemned and the exploited was commended. The Christian thing to do might be to offer double what the corrupt judge asks if one were to follow the principle of "going two miles." For the Christian, just make sure you are the one being exploited. (I like opening a can of worms I know!)

Think of the consequences of your choices. Just because it may take 10-20 years for the consequences of our choice not to pay an exploitation fee to show up, it does not minimize the choice's impact.

Please, ask yourself "WHY am I against exploitation fees?" before you say you won't pay them. Do not rely on cliches. Examine your worldview, faith, and ethics and then make your choice.

It is not about YOUR money at stake. Innocent human life is at stake! Adoption is not about YOU or YOUR MONEY.

All that being said if the high fees are for an unnecessary adoption like some of thebaby buying in Guatemala than I think the fees are too low. Human life is beyond monetary value so if you think you can buy one you should surely pay into the $$$,$$$,$$$!

Italian 4Life

Yes I think it's very wrong! The homeless need home! but I guess these people want cost it so much because they want money, and don't care about kids..that what I think!....

anikkalane

I think some costs are unfair and unnecessarily high, but most of my expenses were reasonable & identified as to who they want to and why. Translation, agency fee, INS, travel fees, I can agree with about 95% of the fees I paid. As ideal as adoption is, these people are still working for a living.

Do I expect a translator to translate all my documents for free? How would they pay their bills if they did that? It's just not realistic to think that adoption should be free. Besides, there are many grants and reductions for older & special needs kids, and they need all the incentives they can get to help them get the loving homes they need.and deserve.

I paid for my adoption as a single parent, just the same way I put myself through college. Hard work & sacrifice. If a person can't afford to adopt, then I would question their financial resources to parent. Besides, if a person can't handle the challenge of good financial management to adopt a child, can they handle the challenge of raising that child?

Abby S

I would say yes and no.

The people at the adoption center want to make sure that the child is going to go to a good family, and if they don't have you pay a lot of money, they really can't be sure that you will have enough money to support the kid.

The adoption center also needs money to support the kids that don't have homes or are waiting for someone to adopt them. Kids are expensive, and the adoption center cannot can't live solely on donations.

You are right, there probably are some people that could be really good parents that can't afford to have the kids because of the prices. Maybe they should lower the prices of the kids? So they can make sure that they go into a good family and more people can adopt.

*-Aubrey-*

Not only do I think it's not fair but I don't think all of the stipulations they put on you are fair either. I understand they are trying to place a child in a stable and loving home but then you get people like Casey Anthony who have kids and then kill them or people who sell their kids for crack or their rent (that happened here in Orlando). I just don't get it. If you can naturally have a kid it's hard to get the court system to finally take your kids away from you but in order for a good person to get a kid from an adoption agency you have to not only be rich but also have perfect credit (almost) and never have done anything wrong in life like (not even steal a penny from the give a penny/take a penny jar at 7-11). Now watch someone come in here with an attitude and tell us we're all wrong.

gibberish

No dear, it costs so much money to process.

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