Do you think it is too hard to adopt?

JustASuggestion

The UK is one of the more difficult places to adopt from. They have stricter rules than most countries and are generally considered to be "anti-adoption". I have spoken with many anguished parents to be in Ireland and England that I really wish the process was made easier for.

Here in the United States, the process is relatively easy. You do need to complete a homestudy but the rules are different by state and some people have an easier time of it then others.

For this reason its hard for me to generalize that adoption is or is not easy. It reallly depends where you live and where you are adopting from.

Gaia Raain

I think adoption is too easy. The process itself is long enough, for sure, but they don't teach adoptive parents enough. At the very least, they should give a list of books to read that show what adoption REALLY is, from the adoptee's point of view.

I do think there would be more adoptions if the process were easier (and in the USA, if the price were lower), and that would be very unfortunate. We already have far too many children being placed with strangers unnecessarily. Adopting through foster care is FREE, and those are the children who actually need homes, not the brand new babies who's mom's would be great parents if only people would help them for a couple years while getting on their feet.

Adoption should be about finding parents for children who need them, not babies for adults who want them. It's too hard on children to be abandoned and have to wonder about that their entire lives. It's not worth it unless it's absolutely necessary.

Heather Leigh

Honestly, I think it is too easy for people to adopt. Adoptive parents need to be screened better and offered more education about how to be a good AP. When I adopted my son, NO ONE explained to me some of the issues he might have. I adopted through Foster Care and honestly, did not think he would want anything to do with his original parents. Why would he, they abused and neglected him.... At least that is what I thought at the time. I thought by adopting him and making us a "forever family" that I would be erasing all of the issues of his past. What I didn't realize is that those issues are what make him, him. I have learned so much since then, but unfortunately none of it was from the agency that approved our adoption.

Also, If someone can't adopt form their own country then maybe there is a good reason.

anastasia beaverhausen-the real1

pffffft. i WISH adoption were that hard.

it's about as hard as buying a box of jell-o.

Regina L

Adoption is a long difficult process for adoptive parents. But at the end there is a baby. I personally say send me some hoops to jump over, my babies are worth it.

wolf

As a person who would love to adopt from the USA but can't because the costs and waiting time are too high and wrong, I think they are too hard. The problem is not a lot of people have $10,000+ dollars to adopt a child and your on a waiting list for 2+ years especially if your adopting a white child or a baby. It seems to me that if your rich then you can breeze right on through the adoption process because you can pay off the adoption agency and lawyers to go to the front of the waiting list when all these other couples have been waiting for years. But if you are poor or middle class then you have to wait a long time. Even if you adopt it still costs a lot of money depending on what country you are adopting from. Adoption is by no means easy. It's only easy if your white and rich.

Bella

good question!
as someone who plans on adopting, i sometimes wish it was easier. because, i know i will be ready & able to love my new family member. but, i think if it was too easy... some sketchy people might try to adopt... pedophiles, creeps... you know. i juist wish it was easy for the good people & harder for the not-so-good people... lol.

ashpinoza

personaly i think they make it tooooo hard. they definetely need to make sure these children are going to wonderful loving homes, but often if you arent very high incomed you cant, and it doesnt take a high income to love or raise a child. if you make an average income, you have all the means to raise a child. a child doesnt required being spoiled with materials, but with love. and i think this is a mistake that is made. if they are able to support and provide, which everyone in this world does, high incomed or not, and they can love, then they are a good family. they do make it difficult. blessings

SherryFalcon F

Yes, I think the rules are too hard. There are a lot of children crying themselves to sleep tonight wanting families. There are a lot of honest middle income families crying because they can't concieve and aren't considered wealthy enough to adopt. Why??

princessfromda843

its hard in south carolina...it takes about a year to get the child and they go through a background check...coming to your house checking the temperature in the refrigerator and everything...but in counties like africa it takes only thirty days

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