Do you think its wrong to lie to a kid and not tell them their adopted ?

grapesgum

Yes - it is ethically and morally wrong. I do not understand how adoptive parents can justify this violation of their adopted children's civil rights. Every human has the right to know their heritage.

"As born to" is a pernicious, vile lie.

ETA - Thumbs down! Give me a break - even dogs, horses, and cats come with pedigree papers. Dogs, horses, and cats have more rights than humans in the USA? I guess for some adopters that is the case. They want pedigree papers for their pets but not their children. That is so F^(&ed up.

Katie

yes, I think it is wrong. Adoption isn't something to hide or be ashamed of.

Freckle Face

Yes its wrong. Lying is wrong.

Pocket Full Of Sunshine Æ¸ÌµÌ¡ÓœÌµÌ„Ì¨Æ·

yes it would be because that affects the child emotionally and mentally

alguien

um yes. i am adopted and i would be pissed if i never knew where my real roots came from. that just isn't right, wtf

Andraya

WRONG!!!

Possum

Wrong, wrong, wrong.
Psychologically damaging to a child.
They should be told from the minute they come home.
It's their truth - it's their story.
Do NOT keep it from them.

silly nilly

i do think it is wrong. it can cause a lot of emotional issues later in life as well as genetic issues. i have a friend who's son was adopted by her husband and the child doesn't know. the thing is that he doesn't look anything like either of the parents. both bio mom and adopted dad are blonde and the kid is mexican. he is already hyperactive and has behavioral issues and it won't be long before he figures out that his dad isn't his dad and i see nothing but problems coming from that. it may be easier for the parents not to tell early in life but it becomes harder later and definitely can cause familial strain.

antnys auntie!

yeahh

Lyddie

yes

Minnimouse

Yes i think it is wrong, to lie damages that child forever.

Nahira

YES

You dont help someone by hiding such a significant part of their life. Eventually, you will have to make up lies to hide that they were adopted.

Becca

100% yes

aloha.girl59

Yes, it is wrong.

And for the poster who wrote that she will tell her children when they're old enough to understand...
basically, you're lying to your kids right now. My son was adopted when he was 2-1/2 and we talked about his adoption and first mother and foster family from Day One. If you're not telling them, you're keeping secrets from them.

meli

yes it is wrong

Wilma Duckie Deene

Poll . . . simple straight forward answers.

YES!

Crucio

Yes of course.

Cam

Yes it's wrong

spydermomma

Yes, it is very wrong.

Children should be told from BEFORE they can understand, so it will always be something they are comfortable with and do not feel ashamed.

Heather B

Yep. Wrong wrong wrong
Secrets and lies in families = wrong

LaurieDB

Absolutely, it is wrong. It's lying about someone's very origins.

MamaKate

A resounding YES!!!

janine k

DEFINITELY WRONG!Adoption is not something to be ashamed about whether you are an adoptee or a birthmother

Susan M

Yes.

snowwillow20

yes

RPMR

YES! By hiding it you bring shame to it. Explain like you would explain to ur biological child the way he/she was born: naturally. Just don't tell him/her when they are teenagers cause they'll pick that to be rebelious against. The sooner the better.

opedial

Yes it is wrong.

a healing adoptee

yes, it's wrong. Honesty is the best policy.