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fallout_girl05
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its a personal decision for birthparents. its sad that no matter what birthparents, esp. unwed young women, do they will always have judegments made about their decision by complete strangers. if they chose to reaise their child, they will be labeled irresponsible and selfsih for raising a child and not having all the resources to do so. if a mother places her child for adoption, she's considered heartless for abadoning her child. yet the people who make these assumptions have never been placed in that kind of a situation. |
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I think it's better than abortion, and with so many family's out
there that can't concieve, wanting to adopt a child is a good
blessing for many.
I am old and grew up in an orphanage and would have loved
to have parents. Now there are no orphanages, Thank God. |
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angelaki3
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It's definitely better than abortion and better than raising the child yourself if you know you'd be an unfit or unloving parent! Better to give the child a chance with a couple that really wants children! |
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yappyishappy
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I think that putting children up for adoption is a wonderful thing if you know you can't handle or afford a child ...there are many reasons people do it but for someone who cannot have children, adoption is a God send |
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Katâ„¢
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I'm adopted, so yeah, I think it's right. Why wouldn't it be? |
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sassassgirlusa
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Yes I do, A child is better off being with parents that love and want a child. I just adopted twin girls and one day they will know that they are adopted. Children are a gift from god. |
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Ralphie's Master
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I think that adoption is a personal choice that is neither right or wrong. If a person feels that they cannot care for their own child then adoption is a wonderful option. Many couples are unable to have children for whatever reason and would love the opportunity to raise a child as their own. In some ways it's giving the best to both the parents and the child, providing each with something special. |
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razi_woman
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I was adopted at birth, and I have never had any wish that I wasn't. My family has always been wonderful, and I can't imagine life without them.
I do believe adoption is a better choice in most situations than letting an unfit family care for a child.
I think adopted kids tend to feel more wanted then kids who are in biological families and find out they were a "surprise". I know my mom planned for me and fought for me and worked a lot to be able to adopt me. Adopted kids are certainly not unwanted. Or else they wouldn't be adopted! |
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rachael
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yes, its there to give a second chance, to give the child a chance at a stable life.
tanya c (above answerer) is very distorted about why a child is given up, its too bad that she cant see the good it gives. not all adoptees are unwanted and live their lives feeling abandoned, most are very grateful for the life they were allowed to live. |
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greensock
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It's a wonderful thing. It helps someone who isn't ready to be a mother give a gift to people who otherwise couldn't be parents. The child gets to grow up knowing they have two families that love and care for them, and often has a better life than their birth family could provide. |
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FrankeesGirl
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Its honestly depends on the reason you are doing it. if you must know there are thousands of children in the system waiting to be adopted. some are placed from foster homes to foster homes theyre whole life because they never found a family that adopted them. it also depends on their age, the older the child the harder it is to adopt him or her. mainly because ppl who are adopting want young infants to adopt. on the contrary of it, if the person cant provide for the child then it would be a choice to ensure a better future. but then again why would you have a child and be careless if you know you cant support it. its sad but true, many ppl just bring children into this world and dont care for them properly. |
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Patsy A
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Definitely, if a parent is unable to care for a child. Both of my daughters have adopted children and they are dearly loved. |
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Crucio
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Yes I think its fine some parents are not able to care for a child at that point in their life. Know that they couldn’t offer their child the very best life possible. After all being a parent is putting your child first, in most cases that’s exactly what parents are doing when they put their child(ren) up for adoption.
Or if the child is not safe remaining with birthparents. Like that recent story of man who put his baby in the microwave. There are many people who shouldn’t be parents.
Heck even if birthparents that just don't want the kid, better to be raised by ones who truly want you then ones that don't.
FYI - not all adoptees search for their birthparents/ “family†|
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ccdispatch911
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Yes, if the parent/parents aren't able to be their for the child then yes. The only reason putting a kid up for adoption would be bad is iff the parents just simply decided they didn 't want children any more. Of course that would be great for the kid because if a parent decides that then the kid would have been in danger..... |
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Michelle A
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If you are unable to care for a child---it is the absolutely BEST and most HONORABLE thing you can do for that baby AND its future parents. |
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☮Witty Sarcasm♥
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Yes, if you can't provide for your child, why deprive it of having a great life with a good family? |
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Still Me
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Right is a relative word. What's right (and loving) is for a parent to provide properly for their children -- however they are able. Be that through the decision of day to day parenting, foster care, adoption or relative placement -- that decision is what it truly means to be a parent. |
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scorpio_queen_2003
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i am adopted.my birth parents were still in high school at the time,and to mke things worse,they were in a mixed race relationship.this was in 1969,and heavily frowned on at the time.my birth mother would of loved to have kept me,but really had no choice.it's not a matter of whether she was "wrong" or "right". she put me up for adoption to give ME a better chance of a good life,even though it devastated her. i now know her,and it makes me sad how much my adoption affected her life.she was going to join the peace corp after my adoption,but her emotions were too messed up,and she ended up going from one relationship to another,and struggling to bond with her 2 children she had later,as she felt guilty to hug and kiss them.meanwhile i was raised in a big family,with lots of love and laughter.my birth mother's family are all pretty wild,and there always seems to be some kind of argument between relatives,people not talking to each other for years,over petty things,etc. i was the lucky one and i fully appreciate that!. and i am just greatful i wasn't aborted!!. |
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Green<3
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Its a wonderful thing.....I guess the biggest thing to think about is that there are a billion people who are having babies everyday, and at the same time, there are those people who cant concieve, or who want to save a life....so i say why not, if you know you cant provide the life that the baby deserves, the shouldnt it be great to give someone who has been longing to give a child a happy life that gift?!? |
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Crazy Mama
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Yes if the parent/parents are NOT able to PROPERLY care for the child.
What I THINK is wrong is ALL these kids HERE in the US that NEED home and people are going to OTHER countries to adopt! I feel sorry for all the little kids here see that famous people went OVER SEAS again and adopted a little kid and didn't want to adopt HERE in the US!!!!! And of course all these people on a waiting list to adopt an INFANT and won't even CONSIDER the other kids that need homes! They would rather sit on a waiting list for YEARS for a baby then give their love to a CHILD that needs them NOW!
If we had the money and the room to adopt a child I would, but my fiance doesn't want to adopt because he has two kids from a previous marrage and one with me and I am possibly pregnant again. Two kids is the limit for us he says, but I hope to change his mind in the future and adopt a CHILD that needs a home!!!! |
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Junebug
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YES! As an adopted child myself who now knows my birth parents, I know it was the best option for me. There are many many loving families that can't have children of there own that could love a child and provide a loving home when natural parents cant or don't want to. |
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femalenamedryan
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Yes I dont see anything at all wrong with adoption. Its better than the alternatives..abortion...or raising a child that for whatever reason you cant raise. and so much better than the parents that abandon or kill their children. the way i see it millions of babies are born every day and who knows how many loving couples ( or singles as the case may be) are out there that cant have children. why abort/abandon/hurt/resent a child that can have a loving home? |
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DinahLynne
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Adoption is a blessing. I have two adopted sons and cherish them with all of my soul. I prayed and prayed to have my own child, and when that did not happen.....I was more than ready, willing and able to adopt. The children would have had really hard lives. The mothers were unable to care for them and had no financial means to give the children good lives. It's a loving, caring...miraculous thing to do when one loves a baby enough to put the child into adoptive homes where the parents want the baby more than anything in the world. |
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vmarie84
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I was adopted, but I don't think I honestly can say if I think it's right or wrong. Don't get me wrong I am not a supporter of abortion. I'm just a strong supporter in birth control and/or abstinence, because there are too many babies and children in orphanages right now and most of them will not even get adopted. The best thing people can do is take the proper precautions. If you aren't ready for the responsibility, than please don't bring a child into the world. |
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holly
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Sometimes it can't be avoided if the mother has been deserted by the childs father and she has nowhere to go or no way of caring and supporting her child what other option does she have for the good of her child.
I understand this and do not judge.
Adopting out your child is the hardest thing a woman can do as she is putting her child before her own feelings and she should never be condemned for it. |
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2grown2early
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To a point if the child will be neglicted by her bio parents then YES! and its way better than abortion or if they were raped and didnt want the baby theres always parents that can provide better so it depends but its sad for the babies because when they grow up they always go for the whole search of mommy and daddy. |
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BPD Wife
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Children are not "put up" or "given up" for adoption. Biological parents make or create an "adoption plan" for them. And yes, I do feel that it is a positive thing. Why wouldn't it be?
Placing a child in a loving home....what would be wrong with that? |
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hsmommy06
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It is right when they have no way to care for them, cannot provide them with a good life, it was incest or rape, they don't want or love the baby.
Think of all those couples out there that are desperately trying for many years to have a baby and can't. To have a baby that someone else just can't care for would be such a blessing. it also gives that Mother a chance to start over and learn from the mistakes or others mistakes. |
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jen
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I think putting a child up for adoption is a huge decision. It is something that will live with the person for the rest of their life. There will always be that one question..."Did I do the right thing?" I don't think it is entirely a bad decision. There are many reasons that others do it. Young mothers or rape victims for instance. I could never do it myself. However, there are so many couples out there that cannot have children and would love an adopted child as their very own as well as provide it with a life that it could have possibly not have had. I do think adoption can be a savior for the ones involved. |
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grouki
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yes, for several reasons
If you can't take care of them.
If you hate them.
If you abuse them.
If you think about abusing them.
If you don't know who the father is and you were raped.
Yes |
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