Do you think this child should of been returned to foster care rather than in a stable home link included?

sam22254

Isn't it funny what state this happened in Utah. I would be willing to bet it's the same adoption agency that stole my grandson. What the news didn't say is that the tribe was problem fighting since the mother changed her mind. At least the courts moved faster than the texas courts has. This agency has no care whose child they take they have deep pockets and will use all the lies and tricks in the book. I will give this couple credit for giving the child back they could have just kept the child and fought it out like the other couple from this state the father has been fighting to get his son back for all most a year. One court told that couple to give the child back and they didn't. I wish my grandson had indian in him then we wouldn't;t still be fighting my grandson would be home.

rainwriterm

I understand what you're saying, but I don't think you're seeing it from their view. He is being placed with an American Indian family in order to preserve his ethnic identity, and he is being placed with his biological siblings. This shows that the foster family is a stable foster family. Also, the idea is to provide him with a situation where he will learn about his heritage and grow up as a member of his tribe. This is an important concept to his foster family, as well as to those who will be supervising his placement. The foster family isn't going to turn him away and change their minds when they already are caring for his siblings and where they believe, along with the rest of the tribe, in the importance of him being with an American Indian family. Even if the family did decide not to foster those children any more, they most likely would be put into another American Indian home because of the reason for their initial placement.

All of that being said, I don't believe that the birth mother should be given the opportunity to change her mind about the adoption. She agreed to the adoption and wasn't concerned about the placement, and she shouldn't be allowed to go back on that. If she were concerned about ensuring her son grew up in an American Indian home, she should have arranged for that initially rather than bypassing it.

I pray that little boy's parents are able to find the comfort and guidance they need to get through the situation. I can't imagine how horrible that would be.

opedial

Please go study the history of colonization and genocidal attempts at assimilation of First Nation/Native American people. In this case it is important to keep the child in the tribe.

All that aside, the mother had every right to change her mind within that timeframe so that is what she did. If the First Nations say they will take care of her, then they will take care of her. By foster care, they also do custom adoptions, something that was done historically in the communities.

First Nation children belong with First Nations families. If NONE can be found, then they can look outside of their heritage.

ETA for teh Brian: The Indian Tribe has their own foster system, the child will not be placed in regular foster care. Seriously do your research on this subject, you will be shocked by what you learn.

redbaron1625

From my own experiences actually growing up in foster care and adoption I think that he should be raised by any type of loving family, not just randomly placed because of his heritage. I was fortunate enough to stay with my half sister who is a different race then me. so I know through experience that race shouldn't be a factor. How many of us can actually say that we are only one race? We are all mixed in some way, and that is a good thing to be. It teaches us tolerance toward everyone. No race is more important than all the others. We are the same. All cultures were man made anyway.

To answer your question, no he shouldn't have been taken away from the only stable home he has ever known because of his race.

Independ"ant"

I would rather you had asked "Do you think the federal gov't should distribute more money to the Native Americans communities/tribes so they can preserve their culture/heritage/race as well as stop Non Natives from taking advantage of their current struggles especially since they caused them?".

This child should be returned and never should have been allowed to be adopted out.

BOTZ

This is the case that I asked about a couple days ago.

You question is 'slanted'. You ask, "Do you think this child should of been returned to foster care rather than in a stable home?"

1) The child is not being *returned* to foster care as he hasn't been in foster care before.

2) This is not state-run foster care. It is TRIBAL foster care. The TRIBE sued for, and won, the right to the return of the NATIVE child.

3) You fail to mention that the "stable home" is an ADOPTIVE HOME with CAUCASIAN parents -- who, until 6 months ago, were STRANGERS to the child.

4) The child will NEVER be "right back into a non-native home" as you suggest, since he is in TRIBAL foster care and will remain within his own culture -- regardless of any decision on the part of the current foster family.

5) The current TRIBAL FOSTER placement is temporary. The goal is STILL reunification with his own, natural family -- whether that be his own mother, his own father or a NATURAL family member.

As I mentioned in the 'additional' details of my own question, I am a North American Indian who did not know it until less than 4 years ago. I was denied the right to ANY knowledge of or access to that part of my OWN PERSONAL heritage because I 'passed' as White so I was placed for adoption.

This whole thing just makes me so sad and so sick.

ETA: To Sam22254, it IS the same agency/church. This is taking place 15 minutes from where I live. I am in PHYSICAL proximity to the 'events' and have PERSONAL (including PHYSICAL) involvement with the tribe, though not the mother/family specifically.

Siver C

I think the social worker PROBABLY knows more than I do

Freckle Face

Hi R,

This was such a tough call for me.

I am leaning towards the child staying with the aparents because the child would not go back to his mother. It sounds like the aparents were willing to work with the tribe to incorporate his culture into their lives. I would also like to see Talon have visitations with his siblings. I'm leaning this way also because the % of indian blood in the child. The poor child to lose bonding with his mother and then to lose attachment to his aparents, I can not imagine what he will go through as he grows up.

chihuahua

I think the child should have stayed in a stable home and been adopted to people that really love him as their own child. instead of bouncing from foster home to foster home. I think the indian tribe or family they should have step in the very beginning the child was born and in the hospital before the child was up for adoption. To stop the hurt and pain in family's that were there to love and adopt the child

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