Do your family members treat your adopted children differently(adoption sect)?

Freckle Face

No.

If they did treat any of our children differently, they would no longer be considered "family".

I will choose the well being of my children over ANY ONE. Mistreat my kids and its good riddens to you.

Kazi

That gets a HELL NO. My entire family (both sides) adore my children. There is no: "real kids; adopted kids"; they are just: "my neice and nephew"; "my grandaughter and grandson"; "my friend's kids". Just yesterday, both my sister and I (and our husbands of course) were completely blown away by our parent's generosity. My parent's announced that last year (unbeknownst to us) they had opened trust funds for the grandchildren.Our kids are not even in kindergarten and they already have college completely paid for. I was in tears. That's just an example, and so much more than money, our families adore our children. They are not centered out or treated as special because they are adopted. As far as my family is concerned they are family in every way that matters.

BPD Wife

If you asked my mother or father this question, they would tell you in no uncertain terms that all of their grandchildren are "real". : ) To be honest, I think my son is spoiled more than the other grandchildren, but that's because he is the "baby" of the family.

aloha.girl59

Not that I can see. I have one child, whom I adopted. My sister has 3 biological children. I live 5000 miles away from my parents; my sister lives a few blocks away from them. Whenever my parents go on a trip, they bring souvenirs back for all 4 grandchildren. They spend the same amount on birthday and Christmas gifts for each child. Obviously my parents spend more time with my sister's kids than with mine because they live close by each other. My sister and her husband have taken trips to other states and out of the country and my parents have babysat for them. Last year when I had a conference to go to for work, my mom flew out here to take care of my son while I was gone. I think it's all pretty equal considering the geographical distance between us.

cantstopLinnyG

My brother and I were both adopted, my sister was not. We were treated differently by my a dad's mom, and our cousins from our a dad's side. My brother and I would get next to nothing on Christmas, and my sister would get a boatload of gifts. We never got anything from her on our birthdays.

Our a p's did not "intentionally" treat us differently, but the bond was much stronger with our sister, who was their natural born child. That's just science- she was just like them, lol. And they named her after my a mom's Mom, whereas my brother and I were not named after anyone.

BLW_KAM

It was looking a little iffy before the adoption. My father (a normally noble man but very old-school) told me the child wouldn't be his grandchild because there was no blood connection. He changed his mind approximately five seconds after he saw her.

My mother was in a care facility when she met her granddaughter for the first time. I have a photo of the love shining out of her very sick eyes.

Our family has embraced our daughter. She is loved and treated the same as everyone else ... without exception.

SamAzsli

My Father in law does. I adopted my little bro at 18 and he says he is his real grandson and my other siblings arnt. He also only buys my son christmas nad bday gifts. NOt teh others

I don't know. I kind of think so. My husband adopted my oldest son, and I just feel like my husband's brother is weird around him. It's annoying. It may be just his personality, though.

But his parents are really nice to him and keep everything equal amongst the grandchildren.

Angela R

Our chilren (who were both adopted) are treated completely equal to the other children on both sides of our family. Actually, in some cases, I'd say a little better. My father, for instance isn't what you'd call a kid-person, and can be grumpy at times about other kids in the family, however, he is great with our two boys. Also, my grandmother, who has 3 children 5 grandkids, and 12 great-grandkids keeps only one picture by her bed, and that's of our 2 boys, and she shows their pictures to everyone who comes to visit.

Jennifer L

Not at all. My extended family (on my side and my in-laws) have always treated our children from adoption exactly the same as my child from my body, the other biological grandchildren and the "step" grandchildren (grandchildren with no biological connection to the grandparents).

There has never been the "your REAL child" or their "REAL" grandchild/niece/nephew or anything. This includes inheriting family heirlooms as well as inclusion into the family tree. Our (adopted) children's first family was also included in the family tree.

I'm sure that some people may have difficulty accepting and treating children from adoption the same as children to whom there is a biological connection but it has never been an issue with our family.

School Nurse

Never treated differently. She was treated like other members of the family, the same as all of the nieces and nephews, grandchildren, etc

nice

No my aunt adoption and she treat all three kids the same she have two of her own...

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