Does a surrogate mother have the right to request privacy during childbirth?

Kazi

Of course she does. I don't care who this baby is going home with. This baby is still coming out of one woman and unless I woke up in bizzaro world this morning, women still had control over their own bodies.

Randy B

Of course. I don't see why anyone shouldn't be afforded privacy at a time like that, surrogate or not. My wife didn't want her mother in the room for the birth and she was an on-duty nurse in the maternity ward at the time. Anyone should be afforded the privacy they want. The people she is a surrogate for may not like it but too bad.

danielle

of course they should have the right to privacy!!!

Melissa S

I think so. It's still her body and she should be able to choose who is going to see private parts of herself as well as medical privacy laws that would be involved.

kitta

Of course. It is still her body. Birth is not a spectator sport. She still has a right to privacy.

YES it may not be her baby but it is her body. The parents can see the child when it is all over.

Jesikah Riley

I believe shou should defianatly be allowed privacy. I wouldn't want peopel in my dilivery romm peorid. except my husband.

Chris R

I'm not sure about legal.

But I would think adoptive parents better kiss her buttocks for what she is doing for them. It's a back off and let her have the child the way she wants issue. She's giving them one of the greatest gifts in life.

cantstopLinnyG

God, I would hope so. And Im with ya, girl. It is exploitative and classicist.

http://sonofasurrogate.tripod.com/

jacqua

cuz its her body and a private moment and i totaly understand. i would want the least amount of ppl watching me scream and curse and cry. shes the one doing all the work it should be up to her

my Brooklyn Marie due 5/18/09

just because she's pushing out their kid out doesn't mean she wants them staring at her privacy. I wouldn't feel comfortable with them in the room either.

sizesmith

Absolutely, any woman has the right to privacy. Childbirth is a very personal and embarrassing thing to go through for some women. The fear of having people in the room can be enough to make blood pressures rise a little, and could hinder progress to a point.

I also believe that surrogates and the PAPs should discuss things like this before conception of the child ever takes place. Their lives are so intertwined at that point, that they need to discuss every detail. If a couple who is adopting is adamant about being in the delivery room, then they might need to find a different surrogate.

Other women find it a very natural thing to give birth, and welcome in the PAPs. I support their decisions, providing they make it themselves, before they decide. Also, at any time a woman has the right to change her mind.

I was raised really conservative, and didn't even want the doctor in the delivery room with me-LOL. That was a LONG time ago as far as maturity, but at the time, was really a stress to be naked in front of others.

Independ"ant"

I'll give you an extra 5G if you let us in to catch "our" baby.

If the birth takes place in a country that violates human rights....I highly doubt she has many rights "honored or protected".

In some countries babies are sold because the natural mother can't pay the clinic upfront and in one lump sum.

mama-of-4-babes

Of Course she deserves her privacy. No one really needs to be there but her., so shes the one who get to choose who witnesses the birth.
Sorry Adoptive Parents!!

Mom to Foster Children

Any mother IMHO should be able to request privacy - especially during child birth. This is a very special and private time for a woman giving birth. Understanding that the adoptive parents might want to be in there with her to support / feel a part of the birth...it is something that only she and the child can "feel a part" of the birth in itself. The adoptive parents can "be a part" of the birth after it's all said and done.

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Yes, I believe the woman who is giving birth has the right to privacy and should not have to 'bare" all for the "soon to be parents" of the child she is giving birth to.

â™ Nerdy Gamerâ™

If the surrogate mother wants the potential adoptive parents in the room or not, that's her choice. Regardless if they paid her to be their surrogate or not.

I feel it's a private moment and she should choose what she wants.

I remember watching all these birthing shows. Nearly every woman had her mother, father, siblings, cousins, grandparents, etc etc in the room. It's insanity, but that's her choice.

I remember this one mother to be ordered her [paramedic] husband not to move to look as she's giving birth. Obviously he did but still.

It's her body, her birth, her choice. But issues could arise and confusion too. Things happen.

My brother almost missed the birth of his daughter because a ***** charge nurse wouldn't let him into the OR. My sister in law had to have a C-section, it was planned and the doctors all understood my brother was to be there to keep her calm. With him not there to keep her calm, she was panicking, vomitted and blacked out for a few minutes. But he did get there in time.. hmm...

kim

I would hope she has the choice.

IDK!!

FOR SURE, no one has the right to be there unless invited. I chose to have 11 friends and family, and it was awesome, but I wanted them there. I can't even imagine what it would be like to have someone force themselves in.

Cleobird

Actually, you can't terminate your rights if you have none! And that is the case with gestational surrogacy in the United States (Ive been a gestational surrogate twice. )

But, aside from that, to get to your main question.

YES, a surrogate has the RIGHT to tell the parents to get out of the delivery room. The hospital and every court system in America will uphold those rights. And it does happen occasionally.

But its not very nice. Nearly all intended parents want to be there for the birth of their child. Usually, it is because of a falling out between the surrogate and the parents that this happens. Not because the surrogate suddenly wants privacy. Surrogacy is by its very nature not private.

If there were a reason someone who wanted to become a surrogate knew in advance she wouldnt want the intended parents present for the birth, she would need to discuss this with them before signing a contract and getting pregnant.

Neil

Well, anyone has the right to "request" anything.

But to answer what I assume is your intended question, I certainly think that her wishes should be respected. I also think that i9f the parties involved haven't thought about and discussed this from the get-go, they're fools.

And I wonder what's the point of asking about "niceties" of something you disapprove of to begin with.

Jay

anyone has the right to request privacy in any medical matter.
I also wanted to put that with a surrogate, the other family, is not a potential adoptive parent, they are the parents. Biologically. (some times only one, but there's DNA linkage there. )

Leah

She has the right to request anything she wants, now the request being honored is a different story. They have a right to be present for the birth of their child. They are not adopting the child a woman was hired to carry a child for them.

AbysMama

To me surrogate mother means they do everything you would do. They are not actually the parent, so if you want to be there I feel you have the right to. Thats just me tho

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