Does anyone notice that there are thousands of posts on here by adoptee's.....?
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Does anyone notice that there are thousands of posts on here by adoptee's.....?
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looking for their mothers but not many (if at all any) by adoptee's that were returned to their mother's, looking for the a-parents that raised them for a few years?
What do you think this is an indication of?
I'm not saying that the role a-parents played is not important but I can't help but wonder if this is happening because of the "instinctual maternal bond" that certain groups in our society want to discount, ignore or in some cases pretend doesn't exist or if its just simply curiosity.
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tickled blue
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I think everyone wants to know about their past, about their culture, their parents, grandparents, siblings. I, as a nonadoptive child, wish I could learn more about relatives who have died who I never got to know well. I think it is only natural for a child/adult adoptee to wonder about their past and their parents...especially if they were not given an opportunity to know their first parents. Hopefully, as adoption and adoption issues become more mainstream, people will know that keeping a child in the dark about their parents, or keeping a child from their first parents is a terrible idea in most cases. Hopefully, in the near future, children won't have to search for their moms and dads, but will have known them all of their lives.
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JoHn S.
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"What do you think this is an indication of?"
That there's not thousands of adoptees on here that were returned to their biological parents, maybe?
ETA: Just answering your question. |
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De T
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Please make your appointment for counseling soon. You really need some help with your issues. |
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Sophie
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It's because they KNOW WHERE TO FIND their adoptive parents, afterall don't you remember your old addresses, relative's names, etc.?
...And there are very few adoptees returned to their natural parents.
Let me ask you this... do you even realize how many adoptive parents pay money to search for their child's natural families because their natural families have not tried to contact them or don't know how to or where to look, etc.? ALOT. |
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Cam
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It's an indication that there is a very, very small percentage of adoptions that fail.
Nor are there THOUSANDS of adoptees here. Your exaggerations are not accurate.
I have however read several posts over the past year of adoptees searching for foster families. |
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Ted
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Independant, do you want to know the raw truth? Get ready.
The answer is because adoptive parents do not abandon their children.
Sorry if that hurts. |
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Angela R
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It is very uncommon for a child to be legally adopted, raised by their adoptive parents for several years, and then be returned to their firstmom. I know many adoptees, yet don't know anyone in that situation, nor have I noticed them posting here at all.
Also, if an adoptee was in this situation, it wouldn't be difficult to find their adoptive parents, they would know their names, and possibly address and phone number, and a lot of other information about them. Plus this wouldn't be a closed "unadoption", so they could probably get that information from the adoption agency, or lawyer they went through. |
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BPD Wife
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I'd have to say that it shows that not many adoptees are returned to their original parents after being with adoptive parents. |
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sk8ermom
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Huh? Your "questions" get farther and farther into crazytown with each post.
If their was someone returned to their bio Mom after an adoption failed I think there would be a few things going on there.
#1 they could have been very young when returned and do not have many memories of the Aparents if any at all.
#2 If there was a battle going on the Bio mom could have pounded a ton of nastiness about them into the child's head.
#3 If it is a case like Allison Quets where the mom was a great mom and trying to prove coearsion, Hell, I wouldn't want to know her later.
I'm sure there is a instinctual maternal bond. I'm know most everyone knows this. What groups in society want to discount or ignore this? I don't hear that anywhere. Oh wait, that must be me because I am an adoptive parent.
//rolling eyes now
///you used to be somewhat interesting. |
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Erin L
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I think the reason you don't see adoptees searching for adoptive parents is that their contact info. is never secret so they don't have to search. I DO know many international adoptees who search for foster parents from their early life. |
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Santa's Lil' Helper
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Your going off the deep end. Your post become stranger and stranger. I am seriously concerned for your mental health. You should take a breather from Y!A because your letting it get to you too much.
You use to have such insightful posts that made everyone think. Now I fell like taking your cookies away and sending you to time out for wasting everyones time. |
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Kazi
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You must be very lonely. |
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cakitcat2
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The reason why there are not that many adoptees that are on here looking for their APs is because most of the time they are not returned to their NPs even if the NPs want them. The NPs have to be unbelievably wealthy in order to even try to start to get their children back. Most people are not unbelievably wealthy so they have to try everything in their power to make sure that the child will know someday that the NP did everything within their means to get them back or at least be in contact with them. |
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