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mustang_girl2008
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Through the first part of my pregnancy I was thinking I might leave my husband, and I looked into my "options". I really just wanted more info, didn't want to be bombarded with baby-crazy folk or anything. Anyway, I posted on another website looking for local agencies I could speak with who had a good reputation and were not faith-based (I'm not religious and I didn't want to deal with those kind of people). Anyway, I got TONS of responses from people wanting my baby...and I wasn't even decided on adoption. Many of the people weren't even in a position to be desperate for a baby, they already had two or three kids and wanted to add another.
I also was bugged by my mom trying to get me to choose some of her friends to have the baby. This bothered me even more. For one, because she knew that I was just looking for information, not looking to jump into anything, and for two because she knew that I was not fond of the idea of an open adoption and didn't even want the baby to go to a home nearby us, much less people we personally knew. If I was going to adopt out it was going to be on MY terms, and I was most comfortable with the idea of a closed, anonymous, out of state, adoption.
We decided to stay together and work out our issues, and keep our child, but this experience has really shown me the other side of adoption. I mean, someone looking into adoption is under more than enough pressure as it is, they don't need anyone hounding them from anonymous internet sites when they're just looking for info. |
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Not Adopted
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Creepy, yes,
Surprising, no.
This kind of behavior is encouraged by the adoption industry, along with books written by APs that give advice on hunting down a baby. |
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Heather Leigh
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Yes, it really creeps me out. It shouldn't be acceptable. Those are the answers that I report.
They are just preying on someone that is at a vulnerable time in their life. Flippen disgusting!! |
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kateiskate
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I find it disgusting, desperate, and pathetic behavior that gives anyone who is serious about adoption a terrible name.
I report people when they solicit for human beings because not only is it against TOS and the law, it is immoral and unethical. |
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JennaBear
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I think it's creepy, and whenever I've seen it I've reported it. |
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Laurel J
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Yes, it gives me the creeps. But you're right, most people don't care because we have been conditioned to believe that "this is how you get a baby nowadays"--you find a "birth mother" and form a relationship with her and pay her expenses and go to the delivery room and cut the cord and hand "birth mother" a teddy bear and everyone lives happily ever after like on TV.
In other words, you skirt the laws regarding human flesh-peddling by making a stranger feel obligated to give a child to you because she found herself in a desperate position. (But that sounds so ugly.)
I believe it's soliciting to straight out ask for or offer a baby, and I have reported such questions and answers and seen them taken down. But when the answer just says "contact me," there's no proof they're soliciting. And they know it. |
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Anha S
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Yes it most certainly does. Not only is it creepy, its nasty, unethical, immoral, disgusting, and completely self serving behavior. It goes to show coersion and brow beating tactics are alive and well.
If it isn't against the TOS, it should be. Adopting a baby shouldn't be like buying a handbag on ebay. |
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Nurse Autumn Intactivist NFP
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YES!!!!! |
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Look For Da Sun
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I asked a JOKE question that was obviously fake that involved me being pregnant and someone emailed me asking for my baby. She wrote a whole sob story about wanting a little girl. It was creepy. |
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SJM
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Yes, it's creepy. |
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DevonChaos
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It is disgusting. If they are that desperate for a baby, I have to wonder how many places have turned them down for them to come here and troll for children. I would think that these shady characters are probably in it for the wrong reasons, and are most definitely mentally unstable. They need to stop.
It is a TOS violation. |
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Opedial
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I think it is against the terms of service, but also against the law? |
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dvdclarke
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very creepy |
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Rowan
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i do find it creepy. I'm so taken aback by it. i've actually emailed yahoo on a couple occasions. I think its against the terms of service |
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mistk_dolphins
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Why would anyone do such a thing. that is soooo creepy |
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sweethoney785
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i'm not sure if it is against any terms but it is creepy.
some people are truly desperate to become parents |
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Independ"ant"
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Yep...beyond creepy and dangerous.
Either those Paps are broke or have something mentally wrong with them that even foster care won't allow them to adopt.
Kids as young as 13 are permitted to post on Y/A.
Soliciting underage kids is illegal but I guess right now they are going after the pedophiles. |
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Mom to Foster Children
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It sickens me to no end - especially when I answer and "obvious troll question" with an "obvious ridiculous" answer....
"The trolls go marching two by two hooray hooray...." etc - but they can start yelling "I want your baby" - Me Me Me |
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Serenity71
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I've learned a lot since I've been here...
Thank god we don't have to do that to become parents even through adoption. I don't like private adoption for those reasons. It lets people get away with far to much along with make adoption an "Industry."that people are allowed to make money from it. (And that includes potential adoptive parents paying for a pregnant woman's expenses and even her rent.) Yet people seem to be blind to how all kinds of wrong it is.They just accept that's that the norm to do pre-birth matching and privatized adoptions, how it s done without a second thought to impact it will have in the child's future or anyone elses. (And at times even in my own country. Some desperate people look towards the states and start getting ideas. ) I do accept not all children even from birth can live with their biological family. (A history of Abuse, neglect...or they can't cope emotionally with young children at all.)
Adoption should only be done if its in the child's best interests, (The Nmother has had counseling from people who have no gain from an adoption taking place to make sure its her choice and she knows the impact it will have on her life.) and the placed with a family who are suitable for the child's needs. |
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grapesgum
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Seriously creepy. Gives me flashbacks to when my niece was pregnant (married, stay at home mom, young (19) and even younger looking) was approached in her local Walmat by a networking card bearing crazy woman who wanted her baby. I did some research and found out that adoption agencies encourage this behavior with suggestions that adoptive parents "network" (aka troll) at stores where "poor" people shop and at laundromats!!
Maybe Y!A is where adoptive parents who are too lazy or too uppity to drive to the local Walmat or laundromat and hang out with the "unwashed" do their networking.
OPPSS - did not answer the questions!!
I consider approaching a parent and asking for their baby morally and ethical corrupt and I report it. Only the lowest of the low humans prey on those asking for support and advice.
Yes, it is against the terms of service. Given the answers here that agree, perhaps we should all contact Y!A and request that members with more than one report of soliciting be "banned". Most moderated adoption sites ban trolling, even those that state that they are "pro-adoption". |
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mom to be
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I find it very creepy and just wrong on every level. Someone comes here for help and people want to take her baby. |
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Randy B
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It is against the rules but does it make any difference when things get reported? The system here seems so screwed I doubt it would make a difference. |
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Cambria
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I find it to be seriously creepy. Also, if these people were serious about wanting to be responsible adoptive parents, aren't there better places to adopt from than just asking strangers on the internet |
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nikki
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Yes it is very creepy!!!!
These people just seem to pray on the internet and wait for someone vulnerable to ask a question about pregnancy and they attack !!!
I always report it !! |
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myst1998
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Emphatically yes! It may not be against the Yahoo terms of service but it should be as it is immoral and unethical.
Soliciting for another person's CHILD should be a punishable offence with jail time.
Seriously, what kind of world do we live it where people have got to the stage they think it is okay to go around asking for a MOTHER to part with HER BABY just so they can play at being 'Mommy' and 'Daddy'???? It makes me sick to my stomach and is just revolting.
ETA: 'Smug'??? Are you kidding? These answers are just showing that most of humanity is thankfully on the right track and yet you are thinking soliciting for a baby is okay? Show some compassion? Like this hypothetical PAP shows compassion when she goes after OTHER mother's babies??? Are you for real? Yes, its sad she cannot have her own children but infertility will NOT be cured by creating more loss. Thats just plain cruel and selfish. And lacking in compassion. Adoption is NOT about COMPASSION, its about satisfying someone's desires. |
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CP
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It creeps me out as much as it does when an expectant mother asks how much she will get for adopting her baby out.
I don't consider this acceptable behavior by anyone. I have reported too many questions and answers that fit both of these categories, to count.
Soliciting for a baby and soliciting to sell a baby are both against the TOS. |
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Just a Mom
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yeah, it boils my blood actually.
Now I have offered foster children to email me if they need someone to talk to. Actually, I invite anyone who needs a listening ear to email me.
But I would never, ever solicite a hurting young pregnant woman for her baby. |
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Jason L
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yes i have. and yes that is vitoltaing terms. |
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