Does open adoptions go before a judge to be signed?Isn't that legal enough?

anastasia beaverhausen-the real1

no. i think there is only one state that can enforce it if i remember correctly.

sadly, most first mothers are screwed by this.

Freckle Face

Our open adoption agreement was not signed by a judge. It was signed by aparents, first parent and the social worker at the agency. I'm so sorry. It should be enforceable by law but it is not. Again i'm so sorry you are not being treated with the respect you deserve as a first mother. Best Wishes

laurieanino@sbcglobal.net

If your adoptive parents have gone through the legal process and gone to court you're safe. Many adoptions are open; my two are. It's a legal adoption.

r_amber35

What???? An open adoption just means that you get access to how the child is doing, etc. It's still a LEGAL PROCEDURE because you are giving up your child to someone else permanently. It needs to go before a judge to ensure that you don't backtrack on the agreement or want MORE than you are entitled to down the road. This is why you should always have legal representation.
The baby isn't yours anymore, you are giving it up to people more mature, able, and capable of raising the child. It's a very commendable thing to do when you know you can't handle the child. Saves the child from going through a lifetime of hardship.
However, an open adoption simply means that you have access to certain areas (depending on the court agreement) of the childs life. Sometimes it's visits, sometimes it's just pictures and letters. Sometimes it's active involvement, sometimes not. But you should never be considered that child's mother as it hinders the bonding of the child in the new family.
An open adoption is done for the CHILD'S best interests, so they know who and where they came from and get access to health info, etc. It has nothing to do with a biological mother's WANTS.
This is a common misconception I find boggling. Just seems common sense to know that you are no longer that child's mother, just their biological counterpart. A mother is the person who RAISES the child. Who feeds them, comforts them, loves them, supports them. Being a mother isn't a right, it's a priviledge. At 16, I don't expect you to grasp that as your maturity level and intelligence are not the same of an adult. However, now that it sounds like you are a bit older, I would hope you are getting a better grasp on that fact.

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