Does religion belong in adoption issues? ?

Laurel J

Child-rearing in general and adoption in particular requires the cold light of reason before/as well as spirituality and emotion.

Looney Tunes

Lord, No.

If God had meant it fate that I wind up in foster care, that is one of the cruelest beings around.

And if God means to allow suffering of all foster kids or orphans, or people in pain, that is one of the cruelest beings around.

And if God means to destroy families (for whatever reason), that is one of the cruelest beings around.

Fate and religion are totoally TWO separate things. Religion exists because "humans" need something to have faith in. Religion gives humans a "feel-good" on Sunday, when they go and act "righteous." Religion gives something to people so they have "rules" to follow to feel safe.

Fate is a mix of lifes experiences and luck - religion is not involved in it at all. Religion doesn't create a person's life or the outcome of it (fate).

And religion should have no place in adoption or foster care. The US is based on freedom of beliefs and speech. A belief in a religion does not make a "good parent;" ~ what makes a good parent is love, caring, understanding, and good modeling.

almost human

Absolutely not.

My adoption agency's primary mission was to save babies for Jesus. It was viewed by the founders more as a soul-saving reconnaissance than it was to help society.

The focus of saving the unwashed so they can be placed in the hands of Christians so they can go to God is misdirected. What about doing missionary work to help preserve struggling families? They didn't care about that.

The following scripture was given as rationale for beginning International adoptions:

Isaiah 43:5
Fear not: for I am with you: I will bring your seed from the east, and gather you from the west

To which I say:
I am NOT NOW and NEVER WAS a seed from the east to be gathered from the west.

Fate had nothing to do with it.

No. It was overly zealous religious missionaries that hurt me in the name of God.

And you know what? I believe in God, and I don't think God had anything to do with my adoption. Religion severed me from my family, my country, my culture - not God.

Mei-Ling

I do not believe my adoption was predetermined by Fate.

I just don't.

I know people just mean well and they need "something" to place their faith in, but...

To me, it's the equivalent of saying "Well you were meant to be separated from your mother so you could be adopted."

Jill_01

I think the mother has a right to decide the environment she is placing her child in, so yes.

SJM

This nation was founded on the freedom to practice (or not practice) a religion. It is an individual freedom, but in the manner it relates to adoption, it is also a function of family. The state (the judge who issues the adoption order) is granted no Constitutional authority to change anyone's religion. As this relates to adoption, unless the parent has expressly consented to their child being raised by a person of a different faith than that of their own, the state should not have the authority to change a child's religion by placing him or her in a household that practices a different faith than that of the child's natural family.

BobJr's Final return

now thats pretty harsh. Im not a religious person but telling some one they cant adopt some one because of their faith doesnt seem right to me.

Sufi

i can see a birth mother wanting the child to be in a certain religion.
and they are the ones making the choice of adoptive parents, right?
of course people of faith should be allowed to adopt. i would not discriminate against them.

Robin W

If you are asking for an opinion, then No. Religion is being used to justify taking a baby from its, usually single and less affluent mother, and giving it to what one religion or another calls the "right kind of people." I don't know, but that sounds a lot like church-run, social engineering to me.

I think that it should have more to do with what is right and ethical than with doctrine and dogma.

Jackie B

I think in the instance in which is should definitely be a factor is if you adopt a child overseas that is from a country whose predominant religion is something other than say, Christianity. I identify myself as a Christian (although not devout) but a child's religion isn't going to be a problem for me. Half my family is Muslim, so I feel very comfortable incorporating that into my child's life. I don't have a problem with taking my child to churches, synagogues, temples, mosques and attending with them. Maybe when they get older, they can decide what would work for them. As far as at home, I'd be very tolerant of their exploring different religions and seeking spiritual advice if needed. If religion is a way for a child to retain some roots, I don't see any harm in it. I think the key is tolerance.

rlbjr22

"Religion" as you call it, or faith, as I prefer to call it, very definitely belongs in adoption issues. The reasons for that are so numerous as to a make a detailed answer almost impossible since it'd be thesis-length, but faith, or the lack thereof, is extremely significant in an individual's life, and so to act as though it doesn't exist, or is irrelevant, is pure ignorance. As a mental health professional with 20+ years experience, I learned "head-on" that people have a faith, even if it's determination to not have a faith, so, as a clinician, I could NOT ignore it if I was to have success with my patients. God Bless you.

Hany Sabet

Adoption being pro life is not like abortion. I don't know of any religion that looks down upon adoption in both ends ( to give away or to accept).

â™¥Tomâ™¥ (I'm a Girl)

I think so.

Lily

Does religion belong in adoption issues? yes

Does fate belong as well? yes/maybe

no religion and fate are not the same

should people who have no religious /spiritual feelings adopt children? yes

Population Control

There would be alot less senseless death and intolerance if only non religious types were able to adopt. But there's nothing to stop the kid later down the road from joining up with a cult or something.

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