Even I find this offensive?

grapesgum

The most offensive thing to me is that the article focuses completely on the joy of the adoptive parents - nothing on the impacts on the child nor the agonizing decision of the relinquishing parents.

Randy - "Even I"? I have always counted you as a vote on the ethical adoption team - adoption to benefit a child. How about "I find this offensive." instead?

Rowan

*Shudders*

Whats next, craigslist?

Seriously, youtube? that is very disturbing.

Serenity71

That is all kinds of wrong.

Edit; I thought of this later on. I'm wondering if they work in marketing, and treated adoption like they would a contract from their job or something along those lines. (Forgetting that this baby will grow up one day to learn about the 'marketing' they used...yikes) That makes it even more all kinds of wrong.

DevonChaos

I find it disturbing. It runs along the lines of using cartoon characters to sell cigarettes. Going after the young girls the way that gets to them fastest and easiest. Disgusting, coercive tactics. I wish they had laws to keep these things off public areas and keep them on a website FOR adoptions, so that they are monitored somehow.
I mean, the girl picked them because she liked the dog? Because she liked the way the man danced? Wow.
I really think they need laws about how people can look for parents/children. It is getting sicker every day.

â™¥â™¥Ritaâ™¥â™¥

This smacks of the classified ads of yesteryear...still being used today.

**ICK**

The first time I seen a want ad for a baby in the news paper and the "free ad" you can get at the supermarket...I wanted to hurl. This is much the same...only technologically advanced.

Next?? Commercials during Prime Time and for the BIG SPENDERS.....half time on SUPERBOWL DAY!!

**yuck**

Tara

Yeah, I can understand why you're offended.

I guess the adoption process is changing with technology, huh?

It'll take time to get used to this idea, definitely.

kateiskate

Ugh. I find that completely disgusting and offensive to me as an adoptee and any unsuspecting mom who is preyed on by these types of desperate people. These types of people are part of the reason APs and PAPs are painted as people who are greedy and entitled.

I hope that these sites can ban these types solicitation.

Heather B

All that talk of getting the competative edge and selling themselves as parents makes me want to yak

sunny

It's vile, but so much of it is to me. There seems to be no end to it. Sigh.

Independ"ant"

Desperate....pathetic losers looking to get a baby by any means necessary.

Rowan: "Whats next, craigslist?"

Sorry to be the one to inform you but the vultures are all over craigslist.

cantstopLinnyG

Views? Im guessing there are already people who read here dusting off their video cameras.

It's disgusting to me, its just another pre-birth matching scheme.
I live how they say in the corner,
"Thank you for viewing our video profile! We are looking for a baby up to 18 months old, ANY gender, ANY ethnicity. We will accept twins. "
Im sure they will. Gross.
But they are correct, today it IS all about technology. Thats how my siblings and I found each other. But Ugh...this makes me sick.
You are right, Randy- frought with potential problems, esp if the first Mom does not have her OWN legal representative. Nightmare.

Crucio

OMG I know one of the couples in that article.
I can understand why some people would not agree with this means I certainly donâ€™t but then again if I ever adopt it will be through the foster care system.

Dan B.

its real sick and those people look like total losers too. there is a real reason these people cant have kids. think about it.

yeahright

Not happy.

It seems the whole world is going in this direction.

C Wood

I can see where this is likely to become very popular, but as you say, it's fraught with potential problems and risks.

I think we'll find a split on opinions as to whether or not this is offensive.
cw

Lori A

You tube, Craig's list, newspaper ads all bother me.

Someone asked why this is upsetting. It's because when that child gets older they will find out that they were posted like a puppy for sale.

It lacks dignity.

rachael

awww....what a heartwarming story this will be one day.
"mom, why did you adopt ME?"

'well honey, we place video on youtube. it ran right between the guy that plays the guitar naked and an LOL cats. you bmom was looking for tags for 'gag reflex' but found our video, she was so impressed at your dad dancing in the kitchen-she relinquished you to us. isnt that funny?'

<<gagging>> poor kid.

durdenslabs

I think that it's o.k. to find a "wider audience" if you feel that your agency isn't doing as much as you think they can for you.
I feel that there should always be a caseworker, attorney or agency involved. For legal purposes as well as making sure the match is done properly and that everyone involved is on the same page.

You should not go 'trolling' for babies online or harass young mothers-to-be about adoption.

If you are simply placing yourself out there, and someone sees you, they are already considering placing their child up for adoption, all legal venues are covered, and everyone is happy with the outcome....go ahead. It's better than the child being aborted or shoved into the foster system.

However, there are plenty of other people doing things "the hard way" and waiting their turn in line for a baby. My thing is this, why not adopt an older child from foster care???

JMO

EneriC

wow

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