First/Birth/Natural Mothers - what would you tell your daughter who wanted to adopt?

Samone

As an adoptee & a birthmother I would feel that I would have to tell her emotionally what she's in for, every nasty little detail. Honestly, I think I would try to discourage her.

Ultimatly though that would be her decision to make, and I would be willing to stand beside her & love the child

voluptoustaureanfemale

The TRUTH....thats always the best way to go. I would support her in any decision she made....

Im Shell

Be honest and supportive. She's an adult now - be her friend

Viki

if it was me I'd want my mum to try and advise me but support me through what ever my decision was. your obviously a very caring mother who will be able to do the right thing even if it isn't necessarily what you agree with

Lori A

DITO: to Magic Point Shoes.

Sweetness

I would act just as enthused as I would if it were her biological child. I would let her know anything she wanted to know about me and my experiences. I would also promise to love and care for the child as it were her own.

Annie A

My mom and my bmom are both very supportive of my desire to adopt. I intend to adopt Internationally, and when I first showed them the information they were both very excited. My bmom offered to write one of my letters of recommendation. They did encourage me to go with a country that retains bfamily info, so that my child can trace his or her roots if they so desire.

Still Me

As an adoptee, a birthmother and mother to an adoptee and a non-adoptee, I would say: Do what your heart and life lead you to do, and do it in the most responsible way possible. And I would be supportive and happy for her and our family, no matter what she decides to do.

Sarah

I would support her just as I would support her in anything she wanted to pursue. I really am not sure how my previously having a baby that was relinquished would have anything to do with this current scenario... perhaps you're thinking that birthmoms would encourage their daughters to be supportive of their children(s) birthmoms? I don't think my previous experience would have much to do with what my daughter might be going through. It's her life, and at that point, if I had done a good job raising her, she'd know what to do. I'd offer advice when asked, of course. But she will have already known "my story" entirely, as it's her story, too. Hope this helps~

smisty52

yes it is a great thing when a child finds a good permanent home there are some many without families that despratly want one to feel loved and secure im mean how would you feel if you were a child with no family sad but so many ppl have kids and dont want to be responsible for them. its awful that ppl who would make good parents tend to not be able to have children and others who could care less can its not that fair but what in life is so yes give a child the gift of love

Eve

I'm both a biological mom and an adoptive mom. My husband and I chose to adopt our second child even though we didn't have fertility issues; we just thought it was a great way to grow a family. The first time my mom held my son (who was adopted) she had no less joy and the same amount of tears of joy as when she held our daughter (to whom I gave birth). I pray your mom will be supportive and if she isn't on initial reaction, give her time. She will come around if she isn't immediately enthusastic, I promise you. Best wishes!

Oh me oh my...â™¥

I would tell her to go for it. I would tell her that God has a child out there for her and that adoption is a wonderful thing. Being a mother is more than giving birth............children can grow in your heart too! I could share my story of my beautiful son but if she were my daughter I wouldn't have to because she too would know that our life would have never been the same had we not adopted her little brother. Not born in to our lives the traditional way but brought into our lives in the form of a true blessing.

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