For adoption to *work* on all sides...?
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For adoption to *work* on all sides...?
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doesn't a "suspension of disbelief" have to be firmly in place?
Def. here:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Suspension_of_disbelief
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Adoption is never a "win win" type situation and will never *work* for all sides. Adoption only really works because of failed social policy....if women had more choices (including abortion and raising her child) then they wouldn't be near places that want their babies. In foster adopt it is failed social policy because the parents losing their children are likely people who have been failed by the system, often inter-generationally so.
It will never work for all sides. Even as an adoptive mom who kind of gets the cake and icing (okay that sounded wrong but you know what I mean), adoption doesn't "work", in fact, I have to work every single day extra in my parenting to offset the effects of adoption on my children. (and family or origin issues etc. etc.) Caveat: I love my kdis and would do anythign for them, and yes, that includes if I could go back in time to have them enver have to lose their parents...that is what I would do.
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SLY
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"According to the theory, suspension of disbelief is a quid pro quo: the audience tacitly agrees to provisionally suspend their judgment in exchange for the promise of entertainment. These fictional premises may also lend to the engagement of the mind and perhaps proposition of thoughts, ideas, art and theories."
Since the people who are most interested in maintaining the fiction that adoption is simply another way to "build a family" really are not concerned about their audience as long as they achieve their goal, there cannot be a quid pro quo agreement, which negates this as a premise. Further, since the only "engagement of the mind" is the justification involved, and no ideas, thoughts art or theories are welcome, that further negates it.
Interesting concept, and I see where you are coming from, but this only applies to fiction, and, while there is a lot of fiction involved in adoption, it seems that it only applies to literature, not life. |
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Rosie
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No sweetie,
You got it confused with Suspension of judgment. |
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Laurel J
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As adoption is currently practiced, it demands a suspension of belief bordering on full-out cognitive dissonance. We all know that class and race and identity and genetics matter...until you say the magic A-word.
POOF! Now anything that stands between well-off white people in Western democracies and their desire for the poor brown and yellow children they find so trendy--er, adorable--has magically vanished. Isn't that wonderful? |
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Carol c
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Absolutely!
Excellent simile, by the way...
Sadly, there are certain factions involved in the adoption of a child that will continue to believe in what they believe about adoption no matter how much evidence is presented to the contrary. |
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Adoption works when parents love a child and give him or her what she needs to grow and become a productive adult. |
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