For those who want to end the need for adoption?

Rivkah

I can forgive your ignorance because you sound like you're very young, but there is no defined way to resolve abuse. Most abusers were abused themselves when they were young, and their abusers were abused, and so on and so forth. It cycles from generation to generation and it takes a strong, determined person to stop it. There are also abusers who are mentally ill, manic depressives aren't all barren, and they don't need to be locked up, they need psychological evaluation and help.

crzymmof8

I understand your stance on ending FAS. I am raising 8 children we adopted who all have FAS. It is an awful thing for a child to have to suffer through. THe only problem with the locking up thing is it didn't work in some of my kids parents. One of my sons mother became pregnant again shortly after his birth. She got picked up blowing a .243. So they did an involuntary to try to keep that baby healthy (my son has a ton of medical needs). Well she made it through the pregnancy alcohol free and went home with the baby and was arrested 3 days later absolutely drunk and driving with the baby laying on the seat beside her. So I guess locking her up just did no good for their relationship. The baby is healthy and in foster care. I wish I knew a way to fix addiction but unfortunately I don't. I loved fostering and being able to see families heal and kids go home unfortunately it didn't always happen.

Independ"ant"

"How do you feel about the practice of locking up women who use alcohol and drugs while pregnant"

How about addressing the issues that drive them to drink/use.
Lets lock it/them up.

grapesgum

"the practice of locking up women who use alcohol and drugs while pregnant, if it meant having healthier babies who's parents may be more willing to raise"

I am for locking up women who use alcohol and drugs while they are pregnant so that they can have healthy babies AND get the treatment they need so they can keep their children. I am against doing for the one and only objective of producing more healthy babies for the adoption industry to sell to people who cannot or will not give birth to babies. That's wrong and it will fail.

That should be a big step toward ending the need for adoption.

Great idea!

Flying Monkey #073177

Forcing rehab on someone who is not ready to get clean rarely works. If it did my niece would have a healthy and sober father, he has been sent to rehab against his wishes over 10 times and relapses almost immediately after leaving. This idea may keep the babies from harm in utero but I do not believe it would do anything to keep families together or keep women sober. Sobriety comes when a person has accepted their addiction and vowed to stay sober, for their own benefit. Addicts are not usually in the right frame of mind to consider the consequences their actions have in regard to others.

Philippa

Thanks for posting the link. I'm all for helping pregnant womwn straightening out their lives to help them keep thier baies although I'm not sure about locking them up. I have got to know women over the years who wish they had had appropiate help and support to keep their children. They have straightened their lives out since then but regret their actions in the past.

Lori A

Although I like where your coming from, I have to admit I don't think it would work either. I am an alcoholic and a surrendering mother. I did not become an alcoholic until after surrendering my daughter and that took years of abusing myself to get to the escalated point that it did.

I would not accept help until I was ready. That is a given in any addicts situation, they have to be ready.

You may keep the child healthy, which is a step in the right direction but I can see that whole thing going way south in an attempt to produce even more adoptee's, healthier ones that draw more money. You forget who your dealing with when it comes to adoption. It's not always about the babies health, just their physical presence.

I think it would backfire on keeping families together and somewhere down the line be mandated that all pregnant women under a certain age, or of a certain financial class, marital status be sent to these homes or programs and we have already experienced that as a society.

I commend you for trying, keep at it and maybe someday something along these lines will work but keep in mind who you are dealing with and how they have to power to twist what they want and get it legislated.

DISCLAIMER: This is not directed toward any adoptive parents. It IS directed exactly at people with much deeper pockets and a huge advertising budget, who have friends in high places, like congress.

Erin L

Did you know that in India it's considered so important for a child to be with his or her mother that a child under the age of 6 whose mother is in prison goes with their mother.

Sophie

I agree with it. It's either tax payer dollars for a little less than 9 months or tax payer dollars for the whole life of the child.

kateiskate

Well I don't really think that would work. You can't force someone to get help. In order for it to work and for them to succeed in the future, they have to be ready and willing to accept the help being offered to them. I'm all for any sort of free or low cost rehabilitation programs to help women learn to cope with addiction but I am not for forcing on anyone. I don't think that will work. Anyone who is educated in addiction will tell you that treatment only works when the person is ready for it.

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