Foster care advocates...?

Opedial

Hi:

1. I have adopted from FC
2. I do not have bio children, but yes believe that anyway who advocated adopting from foster care, even if they have biological children, should step up to the plate!
4. I was not in foster care but was a foster mom for many years
5. My children's heritage is unknown, even though I tried to find it out. If they were of a distinct cultural background you betcha I would be all over learning and practicing cultural competency
6. When I adopted my children were 4,5,6 all three at once.

Kate

1. I am an adoptee adopted from foster care, and I do plan to adopt from foster care when I am older. My parents are foster parents and as I mentor foster kids with FAS (I myself have a milder form of Fetal Alcohol Effects called FAE) adopting from foster care for me is a must.

2. My mother had two step kids, one biological child, and then as I was extremely ill not suppose to survive, I was supposed to be placed into a special hospital and my foster mother, now adoptive mother wanted me to come home and live what little days I had left, I'm still here needless to say.

My mother and father had no intention of adopting however once my biological parents knew I was still alive and doing well, they still do not want to take me back, then I was placed for adoption and my foster parents became my parents.

3. I was, my mother was not.

4. I was in foster care, and I do plan to adopt when I am older, I'm only 19 at the moment.

5. I was adopted from foster care, lucky though I was always in the same home. Because I am white and my foster family/adoptive family as they became were white, I simply took on their morals, etc.

However, having many native children in our home, we made sure any native child was indeed exposed to their native culture, language, music, drumming, clothing, etc. I am not native, but know the native culture well.

6. I do not have children obviously, but I do not plan to have any biological children due to my health and because after meeting my biological family I feel no need to have biological kids, I feel adopting from foster care is more important.

âœ§ â“â“˜â“›â“¨ â™¥ kaelers, emy & bella

I am not necessarily an ONLY foster care advocate. For example, I believe in a family system adopting a relative's child if the relative cannot care for them, as it's a system that's been in place in almost every culture for thousands of years. It's better if there are capable blood relatives, for them to raise the child than for the child to be raised by strangers. I think if at all possible, children should be kept within the family or at least with people they know. They do better if there's some familiarity with the new family, by and large. But yes, I do think FC is a better avenue than the avenue of infant adoption where money is a big factor into it.

1. Yes. My nieces came to live with me at first as a temporary position, but since then, many things have come to light and it has become clear that they cannot go back to my sister. I really had no intention of adopting - we were just going to give them a place to stay until they could go back to their mother, but that's not going to work out, and we've gotten very close to them and want them to be a part of our family instead of staying in foster care.

2. Yes, I have one biological daughter. I did not consider adopting at all (despite being adopted as an 11 year old myself) until I was confronted with a situation in which it was a possibility. We wanted one child and only one, but life doesn't always go according to plan ;)

3. Yes, for a short time before my godparents (whom I was left to via my mother's will as appointed by my late grandfather) were located and took me in. It was only a couple months, but more than enough time to know I don't want my nieces to suffer through that.

4. Sort of. We're technically adopting through FC, but it is also the adoption of a blood relative.

5. Well, considering they're our same race and only grew up one county over, no.

6. My oldest is 8 and her sister is 5, and I have a 4 month old biological daughter.

bash

1. Have you or are you adopting from FC? yes
2. Do you have bio children? If so why didn't you adopt from FC? no
3. Were you in FC? no
4. Were you in FC and are now adopting from FC? no
5. If you adopted from FC are you or did you learn the language and customs of their heritage, like IA APs should have to do? yes, it is an ongoing process.
6. How old was/were your child(ren) when you adopted them from FC? 10 months old

Heather Leigh

1. Have you or are you adopting from FC? Yes I did.

2. Do you have bio children? If so why didn't you adopt from FC? I have two bio kids.

3. Were you in FC? No

4. Were you in FC and are now adopting from FC? No

5. If you adopted from FC are you or did you learn the language and customs of their heritage, like IA APs should have to do? Same culture (Native American)

6. How old was/were your child(ren) when you adopted them from FC? 8 years old.

kookooberry

1. Yes
2. Yes. I have 2 kids -- one bio and one adopted from FC
3. Nope.
4. N/A
5. No, it wasn't necessary.
6. Placed at 4 days, adopted at age 2

Randy B

1) Yes we have, one thus far, and hope for one more.
2) Yes, we do have a bio child and we did adopt from FC.
3) No
4) No
5) No we didn't.
6) 4 days when she come to our home and 5 months when she was adopted.

(And I've personally never felt that it was the only way to adopt from)

Looney Tunes

Hmmm....I am wondering what the reasoning behind this question is..

For example: are you trying to prove that those who advocate for foster care adoption have no right if (a) they have not been in FC or (b) have not adopted from FC?

Those arguements are pointless, because even if a person has never been in FC or adopted from FC, it is clear that CHILDREN ARE IN NEED.

I strongly advocate adoption form FC. I grew up in FC, but have not adopted from FC at this point in my life.
When I "grow up" I intend to adopt all my children from FC and I anticipate that they will be all ages.

Wundt

1 - Yes, we adopted two boys (brothers).

2 - Yes, we have a teenage daughter

3 - No

4 - NA

5 - NA, our sons are like us racially/culturally. (I am not sure I agree with the statement in your question, "should have to do". Every adoption is different, and making this sort of global assertion is foolish.)

6 - 1 and 3 years old.

I believe strongly the adoption through foster care is the preferred method. I don't suggest private and international are inherently bad, just I feel foster care adoption is more socially responsible. These are kids who are in real need of loving and stable homes, where their bio family has failed them somehow. I don't always feel that private and international adoption can make the same claim that they are helping the kids.

farm mom of 10

1 We just finalized our third foster care adoption on Friday.
2 We have seven biological children (same mom, same dad)
3 no
4 no
5 mine were the same race and culture
6 first child came into care at birth, we adopted him at 18 months
second child came into care when she was two and a half, her adoption was final when she was four.
third child is our adopted daughters brother, he came to live with us when he was six months old, we adopted him last Friday, He is 18 months old today.

I have written several articles on foster adoption:

http://www.associatedcontent.com/user/150807/carla_raley.html

Scroll down the list to find the ones about adoption and foster care.

Mom to Foster Children

1 - we adopted in November of 2008
2 - Yes, I have two from a previous marriage and my hubby wanted children
3 - No, neither of us were in foster care
4 - No
5 - not applicable as far as language - but we are learning the heritage of Native American Culture
6 - My son was 2 weeks shy of his 7th birthday when we adopted him

monkeykitty83

I don't think foster care is the ONLY way to adopt, I just think it's not even considered in many cases, and I advocate people making an educated and informed decision, rather than ignoring possibilities based on fear or stereotypes. I do strongly advocate people at least consider foster care adoption.

1.) Yes
2.) No, by choice. I never felt a need to be related by biology to the children I raise, and there are many wonderful children out there who need good homes.
3.) No. I had childhood friends who were, which isn't anywhere near the same thing but did raise my awareness.
4.) No
5.) Doesn't really apply to my situation
6.) I don't share this type of information on the internet, sorry

Kazi

I am an adoptive parent of 2, my daughter is from China and my son is from foster care. I am an advocate for adoption for children who need families, which includes international adoption, so obviously I do not think that foster care is the only way to adopt. Though I do admit that I wish more people would at least consider the option, as I believe many do not out of either ignorance or fear.

1. We adopted our son last summer from foster care.

2. No.

3. No.

4. No.

5. This is a non-issue, as he is white like us and we share a Scottish heritage.

6. He was 2.

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