Give away your newborn through Adoption?

snowwillow20

It was 1972, 'people' said it was best for everyone.
She will be 36 in jan.
I regret it.
If i could do it again I wouldn't do it. It's a hurt that never heals.

concerned

Reasons: too complicated to get into here.

When: six and a half years ago.

Regret: yes, deeply regret it.

If I could do it again: nope, wouldn't relinquish; I'd parent.

jennyfe27

I gave up custody of my child...She was 6 months old when was taken because the court deemed me as a transient. I had no where to appropriate to live with her. I had a chance to get her back and that was what I wanted to do...The judge at hearing told me that I had to have a full time job and place of my own for a year before I could even THINK of getting her back...A year later I was working 3 jobs and was still living with my mother...We couldn't keep the baby there since my mother was already raising my cousin's child who was only 4 at the time and there wasn't enough room. Caitlin had been living with her paternal grandparents for over a year when the told me they wanted to adopt her. It took me a few months, but I finally agreed and signed the paper work. Would I do it again...Yes. Because she deserves the best life can give here and unfortunately I wasn' t able to give that her. I regret the situation that I was in while I had her, but I don't regret letting her go. it was the best thing for her.

thefoxxww2

Gershom - I'm thrilled that I was adopted. My biological mother was a psychotic nutjob who abused me.

To answer the original question, I think it was more common years ago to hide the adoption. It was seen as something to be ashamed of.

Now, people know that it's not a horrible thing. Open adoptions are encouraged by adoption professionals (at least the good/ ethical ones). People are fighting to open closed records and winning.

More needs to be done in the adoption industry. It's not perfect by any stretch - but it has come a long way.

Dawn J

Why did you give up your child?
I placed my son because I wanted him to have a more stable home then I could provide. Homeless, no support, emotionally abusive boyfriend, no job. They were all temporary situations that I chose a permanent solution for.
How long has it been?
Six and a half years
Do you regret giving your birth child away?
Everyday
if you could do it again, would you give him/her up?
If I could get a â€œdo overâ€ I would parent. I was lucky that the agency I went through offers life time counseling for the adoptee and birthmother.

his woman giggling

I gave up my daughter because her dad and I broke up and he was/is dangerous. He has been in and out of jail for threatening to kill a woman and her kids, the list is long, that's just one issue. She is almost 18 years old. I have had heartache but am glad she has her parents, they are wonderful. I would do it again. It was a private adoption. They have sent me stuff through the years, and when my mother died 3 years ago, they came to the funeral, our "first" meeting. We email each other about once a month and I stay in contact with her mom. We spent about 3 hours at their home this summer. She is great and knows that I did it to keep her safe. She was my 3rd child.

Gershom

a child deserves their parents. Poverty is never a reason to lose your parents. May I suggest asking the adoptees how THEY feel about being adopted?

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