Giving my baby up for adoption?

Not sure but I am glad that you are a good person and are not going to kill it.

Daisey Duck

Talk to social services they can point you in the right direction and tell you what all will be involved. Sorry for comments you will get from those who think they know your life and what is best for you and your baby. It is your decision and no one has the right to try to talk you into or out of anything. Shame some can't just answer the question without having to inflict their personal feelings on you.

Julia

You can turn to social services in your area, or find an adoption lawyer. If you go through a lawyer, you may get help with medical bills for the adoptive parents(s).

aceS

I agree with daisy duck. I myself am in the same situation im due in june. The father doesnt want anything to do with it or child support yet says he will fight for custody if child support were ordered.
with the economy these days it isnt easy are you a single mother? i am and i dont get child support for any of my other 3 children which makes everything that much worse. Anyone who says anything about why dont you just keep it is just acting all knowing when they couldnt possibly know what is goin on in ur life so dont mind them maybe you should ask those ignorant ppl to adopt ur kid! lol they seem to be hell bent on givin their opinion annyway GL

Felicita1

Why do you need to surrender your baby? Is it really that you do not love or want your baby and wish to get rid of it? If not, then why are you contemplating adoption, which is a social system created specifically to find homes for unloved and unwanted children? How about reaching out and letting others help you find the resources you need to keep your baby?

I don't believe for a second that it is impossible to keep your baby. Where do you live? There are mothers here who can help you and advocacy groups that will lobby on your behalf to enable to get everything you need.

rachael

being given up for adoption is difficult. when you find out you were relinquished and other siblings were kept...it hurts.

i had a very good adoption experience. i am not angry, bitter, hostile or any other adjective some throw out there. i adore my bio and my adoptive family.

i was the oldest, i was relinquished, i understood that at the time my mother could not take care of me, for her own reasons. she grew up and was thankfully able to ger her life straight and became a wonderful mother to my 2 younger brothers.
but to be the youngest, and find out she kept not only one but 3 before you....i can not imagine the pain that would inflict. i know people this has happened to. they spend a great deal of their life wondering what is wrong with them. why the others were 'good enough' for her to keep and they were not.

im not trying to give you a sob story. i understand how the pains of raising children...i am raising 5 and have another living with me. its not easy. but it can be done. if you think that you will be giving that child a better life without you, you are wrong. unless your story goes much deeper than you have led on. which it may. im trying very hard not to be judgemental. i dont know you or your life.
but my guess is you want what is best for the kid, and i can honestly say, finding out you were the only one given away, and you were the youngest is going to make for a heartbreaking blow to that person.

Rabbit

Google adoption agencies in your area.

research them before you pick one, read each site carefully and call and ask any questions you may have...

Your doing an awesome thing!

Tyff Taff

You could call your local social services and also there are many adoption agencies in the phone book. Go to google and put in adoption agencies and then put in where you live

Hello K

you already have three kids, i promise you, you can cope with four.
what happens when the child hits 11 or 12? he or she is gonna wonder who their real mum is, and why she kept their brothers and sisters but not them.

Ashley <3

why dont you just keep it? you kept the other 3

Aleshea F

I have been trying for three years to have a baby but can not I would realy like to talk with you about your plans for the baby. I know I sound stupid but Im only 21 and my husband is 22 and in the navy. I wanted to start my family young so I could have the joy of playing with my kids but I found out I pcos and can not have any.

DevonChaos

Why can you keep the others, but not this one? How do you think this child will feel when they are old enough to understand that you kept the others, but not them? How do you think your children will feel when they realize you are giving away their sibling? Do you think they might feel that you might just give them up too, someday?

This is something that you need to think long and hard about. I know it is hard to take care of multiple children. I myself have 5. I wouldn't give a single one up. If I found myself pregnant again, I'd find a way to make it work, so that I could keep them all. Not only for the newest child, but for each of my children.

There are places out there to help you take care of your children. Think about this instead. There will be pain all around if you give up this child.

23 year old texas female married

Go to human welfare office I believe they have a safe haven program. Or you can go to a local agency. By the way if you separate this child from the others your older children will feel hurt and not understand. They might also feel like you might give them away to. I know if you asked my oldest daughter (she is 4) if you can give away her brother or sister she yells at the top of her lungs. Nobody can have my baby sister or my brother. They are mine.

She has told fellow church members "Go away you can't have Sara she is my baby sister" of course this was after they said Oh she is so cute I could bring her home with me.

Older siblings have a special bond with their newest siblings. But then again you already know this you have 3.

Michelle H

I HAVE A FAMILY MEMBER WAITING TO ADOPT, THEY COULD HELP YOU IF YOU WANT.

Sunshine

I think you are doing a very brave and unselfish thing. So many infertile couples would be so thrilled to adopt your baby. Ignore those who try to make you feel guilty. Do what is best for the baby and you. Very often birth mothers can be helped with expenses . Call social services or a lawyer ASAP so it can all be taken care of before the baby is born. You deserve a lot of credit for not having an abortion. God Bless

Animal lover68

First of all,you are very lucky and should feel grateful that you can have children-there are many women out there that cannot.I have a 13 year old and tried for over 8 years to get pregnant a 2nd time but couldn't.I would have done just about anything to have another child.
You should really re-think this situation,because it might be a decision that you could (and probably will) regret later.If you have 3 already,why would you want to adopt out the 4th? Aren't the older kids and extended family going to be asking about the baby and its whereabouts? Can you live with the heartache of giving the baby up?
I know I couldn't.
Good luck to you.

ttc #2

Are you a single parent? Why keep the 3 you have now but get rid of the 4th? Im sorry but this topic gets me very upset, why get pregnant in the first place if you cant keep it and take care of it...go to childrens services and do me a favor..protect yourself, birth control,iud,tie your tubes,something! before you know it you're gonna get pregnant again and then what? give that up too? bring kids into the world so they can suffer??

M~K

Go to your local social services or right to life and they will be able to direct you and get everything lined up so you can pick a family. Good luck!

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