Has Anyone Rescinded an Adoption?

Kazi

I read your question as more geared towards aparents who were lied to about their child's condition from the foster care caseworkers.

If that's the case, then yes, it sadly has happened. It is referred to as a disrupted adoption.

Your friends are probably feeling overhwlemed and confused and anxious right now and I am going to give them the benefit of the doubt that they wish to do the right thing. I would first suggest that they seek professional help for the child. You haven't said what the condition is, but whether physical, mental, emotional, they should seek a professional opinion and research treatment options. Things might not seem so dire once they get all their cards on the table and know exactly what they are dealing with.

Children, whether they are born to you or come to you through adoption, do not come with a manual or a guarantee. Parenting is a huge leap of faith. We adopted from China and our daughter came with zero medical info and the little notations we did receive were not even close to accurate, but we had to make a decision that we would handle whatever came our way. That's exactly what we would have to do if a child born to us developed a condition that we had not expected.

As a friend, I believe you should support your friends, by letting them vent and cry on your shoulder, but hopefully you can also be a voice of reason and perspective as they could very well be in a place that they are not thinking rationally. Encourage them that they can do this. They are good parents.

A child is not a toy that can be returned if it has a few nicks.If they choose to disrupt, they have to be willing to accept the fallout of what they are doing to this child. I don't say that to me mean, but parenting is about the long haul. It's messy, painful, nerve-wracking, but damn it's worth it. Even for the harder cases.

I wish your friends and their child all the best!!

sam22254

I have saw some adoption shows that have showed adopted parents backing out due to the father finding out about the baby.
If you have freinds that even keep the child after a fraud adoption as them for me if they keep the child just how can they look in the mirror or at the child. If the adoption is fraud they should have never got the child and the child has the rights to have his natural parents.
My son has been fighting for his son from 2 days before birth and the child is now 3 and he has visitaion. This couple still wants to be known as mom and dad what right do they have when the father is in the picture just another lie to the child. This couple knew from the hospital that the father wanted his child and even when he was starting court and fileing for claim through the state. They stated that they would cont to fight for a child that will never be just there's. All they have done is cost alot of att fees heartach, and as far as i'm consern damage to the child. Plus being sued by the father in court.

Cartier

I adopted my son from Guatemala and do not plan to "rescind" his adoption... ever. According to all documents (at four different times throughout the process) my son's natural mother, the US adoption agency, the US adoption attorney, the Guatemalan attorney, the Guatemalan social worker, the Guatemalan Family Court, the USCIS, the DNA office, and the PGN... my son's adoption was LEGAL.

Ane263

So it sounds like they have adopted a child and now they want to disrupt it? Sure disrupted adoptions often take place. I feel so sad for that child. Being a parent is never easy, and you need to be open to a lot of unknowns. Google disrupted adoptions, and I think you will find out more about cases like that.

No, but I did hear a story of adoption out of Russia... where a couple went to pick up the Russian child to find that it had several birth-defects and developmental problems they were not told about. They ended up taking the child home anyways.

Independ"ant"

This is a great question and many adoptive parents that have IA babies and toddlers are worried about. You won't get many responses because many are in denial or are playing the lets hope, wait and see game.
Many children from China/Guatemala and other 3rd world countries where there was/is a lot of fraud going on will search out their mothers and family and will find out the truth. Some won't but a great many will.
I hope that it will be easy for them to rescind as well as sue all party's involved including a-parents because they made a personal choice to ignore organizations warning them of the atrocities happening and took a gamble by listening to the people making money off of these children in the name of God and/or infertility.
I don't know any Ap's that will do what truly in the best interest of the child and find the mother, they don't want risk having to have their "own" heart broken.

The only Ap's that I have heard of rescinding are the ones that got a sick child and they don't want the responsibility. They sue agency's for emotional distress, ask to trade the child in or just hand the child over to a long term care facility.

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