Has anyone birth parent gone too far part 2?

She is sending me all theese offline messages on yahoo i have her appearing offline too me on yahoo messenger and i have never given her my number. She has refused to honor my request that she isn't too contact me and she is telling md that she is my mom and to get over myself and its not fair to her that my parents moved out of state for a job when i was 17 and she has told me that if i lived in state that she would see even if i didnt want too and said this isn't about me and that i need to grow up and care for people when this is so far from the truth cause i take care of other before i do things for myself but this woman has just hit the wrong cord with me and i am now numb to her feelings at the beiging i tried but the neediness and her demeaning my parents and telling me i only need her just was too much for me and her saying that i owe this too her. She is saying she has a right too know everything about me and is mad that my parents aren't responding too her when its a myspace page that i set for them. Didn't she give up all of her rights too me when she gave me up for adoption . she is saying they need to back off or there will be H-E-L-L to pay when all we want is her to back off and leave our families alone we all have told her we don't want anything to do w her and that is my choice and no one has influenced me on my decision . I don't want my family near this woman she is psychotic and crazy .
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i haven't decided what i want too do but i know i don't want her in my life and i have never gone about getting a restraining order how do i start does it matter that we are in two different states.

ladedamom

sounds to me like she's stalking you. I'd document her comments and file a report with the police about it for safety issues. Internet stalking and harrassment (which is what this is) is against the law. If you don't want to have contact with her then she can't force you just because she brought you into the world. It would be the same way if the shoe was on the other foot as well. I'd also change my account names and block her if at all possible so she can't contact you that way. Get your phone number unlisted and if necessary, call your phone company and block her number from being able to reach you.

Unfortunately not all adoptions, open or otherwise, have pretty pictures to them. This sounds like one of those that should have been closed and never discovered again by first mom. Just because she suddenly wants contact with you doesn't mean you have to if you're not comfortable with it or just don't want to for whatever reasons you have.
Good luck.

kitta

Adults who want mutual contact with each other have a right to that contact.

Adults who do NOT want mutual contact with each other have a right to say "No" to that contact.

There are no "rights'' to a person in adulthood, either way. So, your bio-mother didn't 'give up rights" to an adult, in other words. Parental rights end when a child becomes an adult.

You do not have to be harrassed, on the other hand. You have the right to be left alone, if you do not want contact.

You could call the police, or an attorney.

Rowan

restraining order.

BLW_KAM

Be careful. I unknowingly opened the door to a psychotic, needy, controlling woman and she has attempted to arrange my life to fit her needs. She doesn't take a hint or a full in her face, "Leave my family and I alone." (BTW: This is the neighbor from he*l, not a family member.)

Think about writing her and telling tell her she has crossed the line into stalking and harassment and your next step will be to obtain a restraining order against her. Then block every avenue she has to contact you.

Crucio

I am so sorry for you. This is borderline harassment thank God you live no where near this woman. You donâ€™t owe anything to this woman. She also seems to have threatened your family please keep anything this psycho has sent to you IM, email, Myspaces postings/messages. I'd even suggested recording any phone calls she makes to you if she does. That way if she does something crazy you will have the evidence to back it up. In fact I would try and contact the authorities again what she is doing is harassment and spewing out threats in this day in age we can not just turn a blind eye to someone who is acting in such crazy manor. Perhaps this woman needs help, actually clearly she does. However its not your responsibility to get her help, that said you and your family should not have to live with this woman harassing you and her threats.

Randy B

There is obviously more to this then you can convey in a few posts, and thats OK because it sounds complicated and and I don't think you could elaborate enough. If this is a serious enough issue for you and you have concerns then speak with a lawyer. Short of moving and changing your contact info so that someone can't find you there is really not much you can do, especially if someone is determined to contact you even when you have expressed that you want no contact.

This type of situation, rare as it may be, happens both ways with either birth parents contacting children they placed for adoption and who don't want contact or children placed for adoption contacting birth parents that don't want contact. The difference is though that normally the one side respects the wishes of the other and ceases contact attempts.

yeahright

Call the cops. She already said that you couldn't stop her from watching you and getting into your life somehow. If she does something outwardly or physically invasive you are going to want something in writing that put that history in place for your own safety.

And you can and should block her from your contact information--you can do that.

mom to be

You need to print out all the IMs and the other contacts that you have. If you want to get a restraining order you will need these to show she is threatening you and your family. Also on your IM,either change your yahoo ID or put her on ignore. I would also get rid of the my space pages. Good luck.

Dan B.

so why arent you telling the police instead of us. what are we supposed to do?

sunny

So call the cops, what are you, 12?

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