Has anyone ever been "name called"?

Gershom

I can remember being at daycare and the daycare ladies daughter used to say that she didn't want to play with me becasue I was adopted. We were really young, infact we're very close now, shes like my sister, but we were young, and she didn't even KNOW what "adopted" was, but everyone KNEW I was adopted, and it was just a way for the kids to make fun of me. Its a "difference" and kids LOVE to make fun of differences.

It hurt. I used to cry about it alot and that only made them say it more to me.

Ghost Writer Rides Again

Well, the daughter I parent was warned by a family member:

"You better start listening to us or your mother will get rid of you like she did your baby sister."

She's only four, btw.

Needless to say, in spite of having her involved with her sisters adoption and even talking to her regularly about it, this remark took a lot of alone time between her and me to discuss that I would never do such a thing.

Torrejon

I'm amazed at the scandalous things that were said to some of the above posters! I hate to be the one to point this out, but those bad-mouth kids probably got their ideas from their parents.

I am one of three adopted kids (no common genes)...and the three of us used to work on the "unwanted" theme fairly often. But, only in the privacy of home and NEVER in front of our parents or anyone else. Someone else saying these things would have definitely gotten punched!

meah

that's rude. i am so sorry that you had to experience that. my daughter is biracial and was called a 'mutt'

â˜”ULâ˜¼

Grandpa called me a "sissy" when I was 4 or so and I remember that distinctly as one of my first real memories. Between him, my grandmother, cousin, sister, and parents I always knew I didn't belong with those people, didn't fit in, actually offended them by being myself, from the way I acted to the way I looked.

When we were about 10 or so, my sister told me and my grandma I must be an alien because I was so different from everyone else. I think our parent's loyalty to me, despite my sister knowing I didn't belong, added to the confusion in her life that led to her suicide at age 19.

Similarly, I think my real half-sister, who I didn't meet until I was 24, spent her life wondering where her brother was, which led to her unusual personality. Wandering in the desert alone and some self-destructive behavior. All in all I think adoption affects everyone in every family involved in it, negatively.

Crucio

No I was never named called for being adopted. Iâ€™m sorry for those who experienced this cruel behavior. The truth is people even more so kids will often find anything to pick on someone about. People, especially kids can be very cruel.

sam22254

Kid's can be mean and they often learn from their parents. I hope my grandson never has to deal with this crap. I know my daughter who is hard of hearing (wears aid) was treated somewhat bad in middle school and I told her to over look these kind of people for they must have a sorry life to beable to treat people like them. Stand with your head up and be proud that your a better person than they are.
She is in college now and has never said a bad thing about anybody and is well liked for who she is.

Kym M

No one really knew as I didn't tell people about it but some people thought I looked nothing like anyone else in the family and would say things. But nothing to bad. :)

irishladybuttons

i hope not trying to find my son hope he had good life just know you are agoodperson peace

Bella Vita

That is sad.. People in this world are so cruel.. mainly because they are unhappy with themselves and to make fun of someone else is the only way to make themselves feel better.. Keep your head up!

Bob M

thats mean and sad :( and you were only 6!!

cruzgirlz3

Wow. I am so blown away by the cruelty that people have had to endure. Really, some of your stories are so sad. I can't imagine what it would be like as a little kid to hear such things. I just wish people would have some compassion and think about how they are wounding people.

I was adopted as an infant as were my brother and sister, but I cannot remember ever being teased about it. I'm sitting here trying to think of one instance and I can't. I guess I was just lucky, and maybe it is why I haven't had a lot of resentment towards being adopted,

ETA-Actually, I was thinking about this, and the only real time I have felt "attacked" for being adopted and my experiences as an adoptee is on this site Go Figure. I don't mean this sarcastically at all. It has been an interesting experience to be told how I "should" feel because I am adopted and it has been very uncomfortable.

AdoreHim

Was the comment made by an adult or another child- that is SO sad- I am so sorry- I hope that has not affected you throughout your life- by the way, you are not second hand- you were very much wanted- and loved by both your birth mom and adopted parents.

Dr. PhD

I think everyone experiences name calling at one point in their life and more than likely it occurred in school. Skinny, fat, glasses, adopted, biracial, red head, the list goes on. Bullies will look for what they perceive is a weakness or difference and use that to make you feel bad about yourself and as a child it is upsetting. Don't focus on the name calling. Consider out of 365 days of the year which is 525600 minutes a year. Don't let one or two bad minutes a year out weight the other half a million good minutes. Also keep in mind name callers tend to do that to everyone, even people who consider them friends, behind their back. It's part of their character (or lack thereof).

lindzymill

Thats sad. =(

Meaghan K

I was when I was younger. People still do it today, but it doesn't mean anything anymore. Then it did because I didn't know how blessed I was.

I am mother of an adopted child, adopted from birth. I often get questions about the real parents and I simply say, I am the real parent. And leave it at that. I will answer all my children's questions regarding their adoptions but will not to those people who ask just out of curiosity. Not all adoptions are unplanned pregnancy of teens or children who taken away from bad parents. Therefore, I refuse to let people judge me or my children by saying anything about the parents that may infer that I somehow rescued them from a fate worse than death.And that they are so lucky to have me. I am lucky to have them. I am blessed to have them. The birth parents made a tough choice but did what they thought was in the best interest of the child. Not unlike the mother if you remember from the Bible story where Solomon had to women who claimed to be the mother of one child and he decided to cut the child in half and give each a half. The true mother said no, she can have the child in order to do what was in the best interest of the child. While the end result of adoption is a little different the principal is till the same. Whoever said these things to you, I would kick in the butt

cowboy_fan

Some old man used the N word in conversation while my son was around (my son is AfricanAmerican). I barely new the guy and he was like in his eighties, so I let it slide. My son was just a few months old so I don't think it traumatized him. The guys wife was really embarrassed. You could see it all over her face when he said it. I felt bad for her so I didn't want to embarras her anymore.

If anyone in my family ever did that, I would probably tell them off and wouldn't bring my son around again. If anybody ever said any of those other comments to my son as well I would tell them off too. I don't even allow people to talk about his first mom either.

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