Have you ever considered adoption as opposed to having biological kids? Why or why not?

red elephants

I've only ever considered adoption. There really isn't anything stopping me from having biological children (no infertility, etc) but I've never had the urge/need to have biological children.

I would just prefer to adopt, even with its issues. There are children needing homes/families and I have that available. I don't need to pass on my genetic make up to feel I've made my mark on the world. I find the need/desire to carry on genes fairly silly.

kim

Ever since I was little I have always wanted to adopt instead of having children. I believe there are children who are stuck in the system in the USA and deserve a chance for a real family. My husband and I have one biological child ( I would not trade her for the world) of our own and plan to adopt within the next few years. The reason I want an American baby is because you see children being adopted by Americans from all over the world when we have children in our own country that need our help. Now, to get one point straight I don't have a problem with overseas adoption. I have been on plenty of Mission trips to know there are needy children everywhere. I want to help the forgotten children in my country. Know matter how "hard" it may be. It is what I am prepared to do.

Randy B

My wife and I certainly did not consider one to the exclusion of the other but it was always an option for us. We had "planned" on having a couple of kids and then one day adopting as well however we found ourselves in a situation where we could adopt first and that is what we did. We quickly became pregnant, as is many times the case, and then learned that we should not have been able to get pregnant in the first place and that it was just one of life's little miracles. Anyway, a number of years later we have adopted once more and are awaiting the next and final adoption. We'll be done at 4 kidlets, 3 of them adopted. Its not the way we had planned it but it's certainly not a problem, a disappointment or in any way our "second choice" as some may say. Life is full of surprises and changes.

scorpiomoon

Yes, I asked this question this morning on here and got blasted for considering adopting a baby--had no idea there was such a vocal anti-adoption contingent out there. I thought maybe it would be kind of vain of me to insist of creating my own biological child when there were others who were neglected....

monkeykitty83

Yeah, adoption from foster care was my first choice, and though I'm capable of having biological children, I chose not to.

While I knew I did want to be a parent and to nurture children, I have no particular emotional need for the pregnancy or having a child who is biologically and genetically connected to me.

I knew a lot of foster kids when I was growing up, and I watched them struggle with wanting to be adopted into a family but never being chosen, often for no reason other than being older than the baby/toddler stage. Rejection piled on rejection, when they'd already lost so much. So even when I was a kid myself, I started thinking that when I grew up, I wanted to offer a loving family to kids from the system.

There are thousands of children in US foster care who need homes, and since I wanted to be a parent but wasn't attached to the idea of giving birth, I decided I wanted to give my love to a few of those kids instead. It has its challenges, but it's well worth it.

HappyMomAnna

I chose both for two reasons that are the same.

#1 I believe in Zero population therefore believed I should only have two children biologically....

#2 I Wanted to Mother more children so chose to adopt two siblings from Foster Care...

votanone_eye

Absolutely. There are so many unwanted children in the world . . . breeding seems a little irresponsible.

The urge to procreate is strong, though . . .

Kat H

I've always wanted to have at least one biological child. I'll admit it's for selfish reasons. I wanted to know what it was like to be pregnant, to feel the kicks, to give birth. I also always wanted to adopt. I wanted to have one child and adopt two. Well it turned out that I had two biological children. So now we plan on adopting a child when they are a little older.

Gabby_Gabby_Purrsalot

We chose adoption over infertility treatments, if that what you mean. I have health issues that could make a pregnancy a major risk for myself and an unborn child, and I was also 34 when I got married.

We started with the idea of adopting a school aged sib group, but we have a relative placement, who was about 8 months when we brought him home. Now we'd like to add another child or two, but our first priority has to be our beautiful toddler son, so we'll be very limited to the behaviors of older children that we'll be able to accept.

Heather B

I've never had the urge to raise somebody elses kids, no.

The birth of my first baby was very special to me; she was the first blood relative I'd met in conscious memory. Priceless.

ETA: Also priceless is that attitude that genetics don't matter and is it's importance 'silly' - a sentiment usually put forth by those who take those things for granted every day of their lives.

â™¥Sammyleeâ™¥

I want to adopt kids when i get older, because it is kind of sad that some kids are just unwanted and others have great families. I believe every child needs a home, so i am going to adopt.

Sally D

I have adopted the most gorgeous black child and I have never regretted it nor missed having my own biological children. He was found on the streets as a small child (barely 2 yrs old) begging for food. The changes I see in him now aged almost 7 are remarkable.

My reason for doing it grew over time but was ultimately driven to action whilst driving home one day and watching a child beg at a drivers window for small change. I was enraged. That weekend I applied and a few weeks later I became a mother to a street child.

Jennifer

Yes. I think it is amazing to create life & be pregnant & bring life into this world BUT you do this with the ultimate goal of being a parent. I don't think it matters whether the child you parent is biologically a part of you or not...but that's just my opinion =]

cantstopLinnyG

No way. I would never adopt an infant because I am adopted, and know how it can mess with your head.

I am against infant adoption, unless it is by a family member, and only if it is the last resort. I am also against international adoption, which is nothing more than legalized human trafficking.

I dont know if I could foster parent, either, as I have too many unresolved issues from my own relinquishment.

Nicole

As opposed to biological, no. But yes, we have considered adoption. We have infertility issues and considered it early on in our infertility trials. People always say its better to adopt, you should adopt, if you have biological kids you're selfish...but those who say that have never been looked down upon because you didn't make enough money to "qualify", or your house wasn't nice enough to be considered acceptable parents to an adopted child.
Yes, I was told that in those exact words by a social worker. She did nothing but dog our home, our choices, our lack of an overflowing bank acct, etc. It was clear she did not want us adopting, she made the whole situation horribly degrading and heartbreaking.

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