Honestly, should i put myself in foster care, or try to make it on my own?

Here is what I would do if I were you. I would look in the yellow pages and find a family lawyer that works on a sliding scale. This means they will only charge what you can afford based on your income. I would ask if a. you go into foster care is it guaranteed that you will all stay together?(is your mother willing to give up her parental rights to you?) b. when you turn 18 can you become their legal guardian and c. what does it take to become an emancipated minor and would that help in getting custody of them now?
You are in a really tough situation and it's very admirable what you're trying to do but as this situation progresses, I hope you're realizing that you do need to finish school and you might want to go to college too. I didn't see anything about what kind of job you have but furthering your education can only help you. Especially if you're going to be raising 2 kids! Good luck!

fawneyblue

I would get some legal help you are to young to be having these problems but that is life. you could find some one to adopt the baby and stay in its life. a lide is a special gift as for your mom she neds to grow up and get fixed if she wants no more children

babyice201

I've answered a lot of your questions and i just want u to know that dss needs to be involved. I was in Dss system and still am. but I hate to say this but i bet your mom does drugs and drinks. when she has that baby(s) if they are alive, there are going to be serious problems. so You maybe able to take care of a normal baby(s) but a handicap one? and dont give me the crap oh the babys fine, there will be rough patches down the road, such as learning disablilities, and what not. talk to a state worker. All we can do on here is offer you advice, they can do something about it. trust me its for the best.

kelloggs322

Like I said before. Keep telling your mom that you will take care of the baby. When it gets here contact Child Protective Services or the Department of Human Services and they will remove you and your new sibling from her.

They can set up foster care so that you are both together or at least get to have visitation with each other.

If you don't want to go into foster care for yourself, then you can become emmancipated from your mother. Again speak with someone in the CPS and they can help you.

bigred

Is your mom still tending to her profession? Is she an addict? If she is addicted to drugs and pregnant you can call Child Protective Services or Dept of Human Services and they can force her to seek rehab. Also, you need to contact a lawyer concerning your being the legal guardian of your little sibling. With you being 16 there may be not way for you to legally become the guardian. You may both be able for same home foster care. Allowing you to be in the child's life and get in a more stable environment for yourself.
If this does not work out ask your mom to consider putting the child up for adoption.

Amilah,.!

keep thhe kids and ur self

momof4

I think you would really benefit from getting in the system.. you will have financial and emotional support that you don't seem to get at home.. and you can focus on what you want for your future.. you can still be in contact with your mom .. but you will have all the resources you need to reach your future goal.. sounds like right now it is all about her.. you need to get a support system.. you sound so mature.. but everyone needs a support system.. i still do and i am 28.

Preggers!

WOW. Your life is pretty complicated. My advice is to call social services and turn yourself in. They will make you go to school (highschool) but thats not such a bad things you know? They will feed you 3 meals a day and you will have a bed to sleep in. And you can still work. Once your mom has the baby she will give over her rights to child services IF she cooperates. If your mom is 4 months its probably to late for her to get an abortion so I wouldn't worry about her doing that after I went into foster care. But if your worried she will hurt the baby somehow you can wait until after the birth to turn yourself over to child protective services.
PLEASE do not listen to DN "horror stories read on here??"
You have been listening to the internet and watching to many movies lately! My mom has been doing foster care for over 10 years! She is the best parent in the entire world! Shut your mouth if you don't really know what happens in foster care!

~Sarah = )

Jess

I'm so sorry you have to go through all of this. It appears you have had to grow up much faster than you ever needed to.
I would go with the previous answers about calling CPS. They may place you in foster care, but you can always suggest that the baby/babies be with you. A lot of people adopt families of children simply because the children don't want to be separated.
It would be hard for you to take care of any child on your own at such a young age. Keep going to school and working (sorry you have to do that), but I'm sure you have only a few short years left for school.
You could try being emancipated from you're mother, but I'm not sure they would give you her child. CPS is probably the best route right now. This would be considered emotional abuse and this is not a living condition that any child should be raised in.

thesunwasshiningonthesea

Will your mom let you move out?

Tina Goody-Two-Shoes

This is so hard. I know.

1) Stay in school. The diploma makes all the difference to get a better job and better money later on.

2) Have the sibling/s put into foster care. Make sure you can visit any time you want to.

3) When you are older, you can adopt them from your mom.

4) One warning: What will you do when she gets pregnant again? Maybe it would be better to have your sibling/s put in an open adoption. That way they are well cared for and you can visit all you want. (I think that is the way it works.)

dancergirl

U need to call dfs ur mom don't need to do that crap

acceptancewithjoy20

i would call them after the baby gets here because if the baby comes and you are gone you might loose the sibling and that is bad because if it is handicapped it is really hard on all involved. don' put that on your self. ot os hard on an adult. to raise a child let alone a chid raiseing a child. i will pray for you.

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