How Many Times Have you Been Told You Were Lucky Not to Have Been Aborted?

Gershom

I was told it just last night by someone on YouTube watching one of my videos.

Infact, I'm going to Vblog about it now.

I've been told it more times than I can count.

Heres a blog piece I wrote on it:
http://antiadoption.wordpress.com/2008/02/08/be-grateful-you-werent-aborted/

and look at this 'dumpster' commercial advocating for safe havens... i can't imagine the stigma safe haven adoptees will face ugh!: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pqMwz6H0DsM

PhilM

Since coming on this site... More times than I can count... Before coming on this site... I don't think ever... adopted and unplanned

anastasia beaverhausen-the real1

adopted.

more times than i care to count.

Possum

Unplanned - adopted.

IRL - never.

Here - countless times.

tish

not planned.
not adopted.
never told that i was "lucky to not have been aborted."
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the truth...over 2/3 of pregnancies are unintended at the time of conception. many women contemplate abortion, yet parent. many of us can be told that, yet aren't.

so i think those who co-opt the "lucky...not aborted" line are simply marginalizing the feelings of adoptees who don't "play nicely".

BOTZ

I was adopted. I was unplanned by my natural parents. I was 'planned' (as a second choice to biology) by my adoptive parents. If you want to hear a story about an "unplanned" adoption -- email me. It's my little sister's story and it's kinda funny (and mostly sad).

I have been told I was "lucky" to be alive (with specific reference to abortion) more times than I can count. By the uninformed, as abortion was not legal until after I was born -- and because my mother did not, and would never, consider abortion. I have respectfully disagreed with their assertion that I was "lucky" -- if it suited me to continue with the discussion. Some people are not worth the effort.

Incidentally, my mother was 'instructed' by her then-husband to have an abortion during her pregnancy with my youngest brother, so I was not her only pregnancy with which someone close to her disagreed (and yes, my brother is his biological son). He did not want any more children. She was incensed and never for an instant considered aborting my brother either.

Interesting Q. Thanks for asking. Take care!

Possum and PhilM, you made me think (again). I have been told I'm "lucky to have not been aborted" in both cyber-land (not just here) and IRL. I must just know some sh)tty people IRL. They seem so much 'rarer' IRL. How'd I get so "lucky"? *sigh*

LaurieDB

Until I came to Y!A....never. I am adopted. I was planned.

Looney Tunes

Foster kid, never adopted.....Don't know if I was planned or not.

But I wish I was aborted everyday.

And I was told many times that I should have never been born (not sure if that meant aborted or just too worthless to be born)

sunny

More times than I can count.

I would have been aborted, had it been legal/safe at the time, and I wish I had.

I'm an adoptee who's natural mother wanted to keep me but society wouldn't allow it at the time.

Andraya

Too many times to count as far as Y!A goes, I'd say somewhere around 15-20 times IRL.

Adopted
Unplanned.

Simplysheila

I am a unplanned child.
But I have never been told that.
That's just cruel to tell a child. =[

Torrejon

I am the result of a totally unplanned pregnancy. I was adopted.

I have been told by many people in real life the I was lucky not to be aborted: amom, bdad, countless "acquaintances"

and here on Yahoo...sooo many times I can't even remember them, other than the one a few minutes ago!!! lol

Independ"ant"

Not adopted

Can't recall ever hearing it applied to me.

I only hear it from people that don't want to hear other people going against the grain of adoption being a solution.
IRL and on many sites.

Mommy times 2!

Never told I was "lucky", but my mom said often that she wished she had.

Not adopted. Spent some time in foster care, but was never 'available" for adoption.

Planned? Dunno...

somebodyznobody

I'm adopted.

I heard it a few times, but mostly was told I should of been killed, better if I'd not been born etc. That no one wanted me.

I'd be rich, if I was paid (every time anyone spoke with my adoptive mother in private, then was introduced to me by her) every time some person told me how 'lucky' I was, with a look in their eye I grew to despise but recognise. They thought she was some sort of martyr. I just agreed, to scared to do otherwise. Wonder how 'lucky' they'd think I was if they knew the things that went on behind our door.
People can be so gullible.

Mom to Foster Children

I have never been told this, nor would I EVER tell my son this!

Not adopted

Trying to adopt!

Sara B

Not adopted, unplanned, and was never told anything mean like that.

Gemini.

i'm adopted and the parents that adopted me said they wish it never happened

rachael

adopted, and totally unplanned

i have been told IRL probably 30 times
online, i dont have a clue, too many to count

Jennifer L

Never told that.

Not adopted.

Unplanned.

a healing adoptee

adopted
unplanned
on here more times than i can count.

it seems to me the ones who say that they are happy with our adoption and tell the rest on here to get over it. ARE the very ones the fling these hurtful words around. How can you say that you are happy, when you insult others with hurtful words. I thought happy people weren't suppose to be hurtful?

KTea

Adopted and Unplanned.

I have been told I was lucky I wasn't aborted many times. My biological mother wanted an abortion but, it was too late.

5littlemonkeys

Not adopted and Not planned
I was told that I was lucky I was not aborted as a child. I was also told I was a big mistake and if my father had a quarter I would have never been born. That was from my parent's.
No one should say those things to anyone, especially an adoptee.

Freckle Face

never - not adopted - planned

Phoenix

I was unplanned and am adopted.

I don't think anyone's ever told me that IRL, but on here, I've heard it many many times.

grapesgum

Never. My parents would never say anything like that to any of their 7 children.

Me - unplanned (my parents got married because of me), not adopted.

manderz<3

i was told was lucky to have been born cuz my mom wasnt supposed to be allowed to have children. she had alot of female issues. but here i am with a little brother =]

Scream Me A Love Song

well. im 13 and my mom said i was planned and not adopted "obisouly" but my dad always reminds me i was a "mistake" and i hate him for it. i dont care about my dad honesly.

Nurse Autumn Intactivist NFP

Unplanned

not adopted

never told that

miss ac

my mother was 23 when she got pregnant with me, she was on so many drugs she didn't find out she was prego until she was 6 months along! i was the third child my mother gave birth to but she only raised me and her middle child. yeah i've heard your lucky your weren't aborted, thats because she was to far along to do so, she had already had 4 abortions prior to being prego with me. she concidered adoption but decided to be selfish and keep me. i only say she's selfish for not giving me up because she could not afford two kids, i grew up living with my mothers friends -mostly camping in their yards or living in our car parked outside their house, and when we did have a place of our own there was barely ever any food for us to eat and we all shared one room or often had crazy druged out roommates or had to watch our mother abused by men she was dating just for a place to live. now i dont remember any of this to my dissatisfaction i have to hear these horror stories form my older brother and sometimes my mother tells me them. i tell you what i'm glad i dont remember.

my life with her did get better she eventually could afford to take better care of us; cloth us with out hand me downs, feed us healthaly, and give us the privacy of our own room. but ended up kicking me and my brother out of her house before we were 17 so she could have a "stronger" relationship with her now husband. i've forgivin my mother as she later realized she was a drunk and nearly ruined my brother and i's life because of it and quit drinking. then now does all that she can to support us to try and make up for the bad times.

the most unfortunit part is me and my brother did not learn from her mistakes, my brother stuck in a loveless abusive marrige and is traped as a stay at home father with two young kids. i am a single mother escaped form an abusive relationship, and pregnant by misfortune of failed birthcontrol by a alcoholic convict, looser that can't hold a job. i'm now facing your question personally from my baby's perspective as i now concider giving it up for adoption, while keeping my one year old. i hope for nothing more than to give my unborn baby a loving healthy/wealthy life it deserves. but i am in no situation to do so my self so i'm hoping to find a loving adoptive family that can. and i hope to god my child doesn't end up with a shittyer life than i could have given her and tell me years down the line i wish i would have been aborted.

but no one can tell the future i just must choose wisly. and say it is better to have been aborted than brought into this world questioning why your mother was selfish and you were always hungry and no one was ever around to love you. or why your birth mother didn't want you in the first place. trust its not that i don't love my unborn i'm just thinking of what is best for her because i can't take care of her.

mom23boys

NEVER been told that.

Not adopted.

Planned.

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