How can I adopt when I am faced with restrictions?

Samone

Have you thought about having your hubby apply for a pardon?

In order to qualify the crime must not have involved any violence, weapons or drugs. The offender must have been offence free for a minimum of five years after all punishments for that crime have been served, be it incarceration time, parole or probation time.

It would remove the offence from showing up on his record at all. However should he ever commit another crime, along the same lines of the first they will "un pardon" it

You can usually pick up applications at your local police station

jgf5822

well, i'm sorry....

i honestly don't think it's going to happen. the reason is whether or not you personally have a felony, you are linked to your man, who has one.

they won't place a child with you, if it's done legally.

Gaia Raain

Have you tried adopting through foster care? I don't know if their requirements are different, but as I understand it, each agency has different expectations. There is approximately ONE baby for every 90 PAP's, so they have really stringent rules to keep their jobs to a dull roar, knocking out maybe 45 of the PAP's in one shot before they even get finished with the application process. If you adopt a special needs child, the requirements are far lower in most cases, because they don't care how much money you make or what religion you are...they just want to know you're good people with a safe place to raise a child.

mom of many

foster care to adopt might let you. They take things case by case and they take into consideration what your husband has done with his life since that time. But please, remember to be totally honest about it all. Dishonesty will get you denied.

GEE-GEE

There are some agencies that will still let you adopt. Especially since the felony was more than 7 years ago and he was a minor at the time. I would start calling some agencies and just be honest with them and see if they will allow you to adopt.

untbunny

What about an expungement? Some states allow first offenses to be removed from the record.
If not an option there is nothing stopping you from pursuing an independent adoption with the assistance of an adoption lawyer. Make sure your husbands offense is noted early and often to all involved. An independent adoption would allow you to connect with a birth mother directly and avoid the critical eye of some agencies. Best of luck in your decision. And be warned......it's not for the faint of heart!!!

Lillie

If you can't adopt, can you still be a foster parent?

How about volunteering...be a big sister/brother, or a mentor to kids in your community?

Does your are have a crisis nursery program? Maybe you could sign up and be able to take in young children for short periods to help out families who need it.

There are many ways you can get involved with kids, if you truly want to, and still play a very positive and beneficial role in their lives. IF (and not saying that it isn't) adoption truly isn't a possibility, consider some alternatives where you could still be a true blessing to some kids who could use a positive influence in their lives.

Sophie

Have him explain to the social worker that he did a stupid thing when he was young. He should have learned by his immature mistake and he can tell the social worker that.

I think you all still have a chance- don't give up and do not hide this from the social worker. They will find out anyway.

BTW: Samone's pardon idea is a great one. Do that as well.

corcoranfaire

I agree with the previous poster about getting it exponged from your husband's record. You will need to hire an attorney. Given it was when he still was a minor and he has over 10 years without any other issues, it is at least a possiblity. Good luck!

Still Me

You can adopt in some states. Bite the bullet and call a homestudy agency or homestudy social worker, and ask!

Most states do not restrict felonies which are:

1. More than 5-10 years ago, AND
2. Do not involve a person directly.

Felonies which DO disqualify someone from adopting include felonies against a person, which include distributing controlled substances, rape, assault, terrororistic threats, child abuse, etc.

It is all on a case by case basis, and you will have to be able to defend the argument. Your husband's age at the time, lifestyle, stability, clean record since the incident, etc., will help.

opedial

He would have to get a pardon I think.

T S

you will not be able to adopt however try surrogacy either traditional or gestational,egg donation.

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