How can I get my kids back after giving them up for adoption?
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How can I get my kids back after giving them up for adoption?
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I was lied to and coerced into giving my 2 children up for adoption 3 years ago, it is an open adoption, and I get to see the kids, but I notice strange things, like my daughter, she never seems happy, she seems scared and skiddish, and like she may be beat or abused, they are very skinny, and in the beginning one of the reasons I gave them to these people was cause the woman planned on being a stay at home mom, but now all they have is babysitters all the time, and my children are scared to go to one specific baby sitter, they get very nervous and cry not to go to her house, that's not right, there is something wrong there, I believe the babysitter my be abusing them too. The next day after i gave the kids up I called the adoption agncy and said i changed my mind, and they were very rude to me and said " it's irreversable, too late" But6 I am doing very well, and have a great job and my own house with my husband ( the father) who also has a good job, incomme is annual income of 50,000, We are in the state of Illinois, I know it's been 3 years, but i know there has to be some way that i can get my babies back, they would be so much happier with us.
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Ellie
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If you are seriously concerned about abuse then why the heck are you not reporting them to CPS? You know these court cases drag on for several years sometimes so if they were being abused then it would be way too late to wait a couple of years for more damage to be done.
I think your chances are very slim indeed. You would certainly need a damn good lawyer!
There have been cases of adoption reversal three years after finalization. These cases do not usually make the press, because the people involved can not bear it to become public.
However, mostly these cases were in California, which has very pro-first parent laws. I think Illinois can actually be quite pro-first parent as well.
One case in Cali I heard of involved an aunt of the child gaining custody years after finalization. I'm not sure how that happened but as you can see it is possible to contest now with a fantastic lawyer and as judge who is not pro-adoption definitely helps!
But consider carefully. This would be so hard on the kids now. They may end up even more miserable. Don't act I say unless you have physical evidence of abuse. |
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Randy B
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If you have concerns for their safety then you can report them to CPS as you would any other children. Other then that, you are legally considered just another citizen as far as the children are concerned and would have no "leg up" towards getting the children IF they were removed from their parents care. Your legal rights as their parent, and any legal claims that you had towards parenting those children, were removed/given up 3 years ago and legally you are no different in their lives then I am or then any other citizen of the community.
If you have concerns and feel that strongly about it then report it but count on CPS to step in to investigate and at the end of the day CPS would either leave the children there or take them away and place them in foster care where, perhaps, they may be placed for adoption again and MAYBE you could be approved to adopt them. Either way, I can see it doing irreparable harm to your relationship with the parents to the point where you may be cut off from seeing them after the dust settles with your complaint.
Like it or not, there is good and bad that could come of this for you and for the kids. Make an informed decision. |
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rain cloud
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fight for them. go to adoption. com. call adoption agencies. get a good lawyer. talk to people with experience, and i am sure everything will work out okay. i wish you the best, and never give up hope, because you can get your kids back.
(((hugs))) |
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cricketlady
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No you can Not get the kids back as the adoption is final. Just because kids cry when going to the babysitter does not mean something is wrong there. |
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Honestly after three years your chances are slim to none of getting them back. |
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AliceInWonderland
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If you want those babies back you fight for them tooth and nail. Get a good lawyer and don't give up on them. |
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jessica
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fight for them you made a mistake learn from it don't make a second mistake your kids needs you |
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philomena mc crudden
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i give my baby up for adoption 33 years ago this coming october, her birth name was Amanda Jane Boyle she was born in Reading,England,i would love to get in contact with her how do i go about it |
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