How can my 16-yr-old pregnant niece give her baby up for adoption if her 15-yr-old ex wants to fight her?

Happy She's Here

It's his baby too and he does have rights, but if he is as bad as you say he is then the judge will take that into consideration! I give him a lot of credit for wanting to keep the baby even if had has had a rough past! Real men step up to the plate!

Callie G

Law states that your neice could withdraw the name of the father on the birth certificate therefore giving him no rights to the baby at all. As they are not married, she has the freedom to do that. Hope that helps.

chickenfarmer

It really doesn't sound like they have a leg to stand on....get your I's dotted and your t's crossed and make sure you have these events documented.

jjudijo

For one thing, this is your brother/sister's concern, not yours.

The boy's family probably wants the welfare that goes with raising a baby.

Apparently, they weren't totally broken up, huh? (you can't get pregnant if you are broken up)

She is the pregnant one. She and her parents make the decision. The boy's parents don't have money for court either. She should really go "away" do have/give the baby to adoption, for her safety.

aerofrce1

Well if your niece doesn't want the child and wants to put it up for adoption that is her choice. If his family is unfit make it know to the courts and the adoption agency what you know about his family. Start keeping records of things that happen with them so you have proof backing up your story.

Nympheas

Sounds like you need to call Health and Welfare on the family, that should be number one. More than likely, family court will find their family unfit to make the decision to keep the baby after Health and Welfare are called in.

BrewTownWifey

I would suggest contacting your local women's center to find out if anyone will do it Pro Bono. I'm not sure about this website it may help you as well.

http://www.probono.net/

This may also help:

http://www.etsu.edu/wrcetsu/links.htm

Jessa

Go to court and have the family proved as unfit. And by the way this is an incredible thing you daughter wants to do, there are so many couples out there that are unable to conceive.

remowlms

His mom has no rights in this matter at all and any court will allow your niece to give the baby up for adoption.

Wanna-Be-Mommy

First of all, I would report the child abuse on their end to CPS. You can't feed your 4 kids once per day and you surely can't let a diaper rash get that bad! Unfortunatly, if the dad wants custody, he has the parental right. If they find him unfit, however, it's another story.

~ViCtOrIa~

There is rly nothing that they can do. i think adoption is the best way.

PinkLady

I am not sure. the best thing to do would be to contact a lawyer. your niece may have all rights concerning her baby, including who she adopts the baby to.

I would think that because they are not married he legally has no rights to the child, but I could be very wrong on that. I know that here in Georgia, if a woman is not married to the father of her child he has no rights until a paternity test is given and he is deemed a legal parent, even if he signed the birth certificate.

Laws regarding this vary by state and it's always best to seek a local attorney regarding this issue. Call a lawyer and ask. Most will give you a free consultation.

GambitGrrl

This is where it gets hard.

There isn't a lot she can do. The father has just as much right to his child as the Mother.

And the kicker, if he takes the child, she'll have to pay him child support too boot.

These laws are to protect both parents, just like if a guy wants to deny his child, he can't and can be ordered to pay child support too.

I'm not even sure how you go about having the rights of the father terminated. The only thing I can think of is presenting his history and trying to get him deemed unfit, but even then, that just means he can't have custody in most cases, not that he gives up his rights to the child.

I know everyone is trying to think positive, but the facts are, if she leaves the birth certificate blank, the father will just petition the court for a paternity test. And even if she manages to have the kid and have it adopted without his knowledge, he can come back later and take the kid.

He still has rights even tho he's only 15.

I think the best advice given was to visit a Planned Parent hood or other agency like that and see if they have any advice or resources in how to deal with this situation.

intensionÂ©

This is technically up to the parents to decide, seeing how they are both minors. It will most likely end up in court, and if they see fit, they may give the boys parents custody of the child, if the mother of the child's parents want to give it up for adoption. Although, the court may find that adoption may be the best option. It's a tough call. Good luck to you.

Â§â™¥Elisabethâ™¥Â§

Omg....That baby does not need to grow up in that environment, and hopefully somebody would stop/keep that from happening! Seeing as the father of the baby is so young and the household the baby would be raised in, I don't think they would be able to do anything, I hope.

â™¥â™¥â™¥NewMommyâ™¥â™¥â™¥

I don't think Yahoo! Ans can solve any of these problems.

You need to call teh cops, get a restraining order and file a lawsuit for harassment against the 29yr old mother.

Blue

They sound like a BAD family.
His mother cannot raise her kids, let alone grandkids !!

Fight for the baby..it will be worth it to have it safe and well..

Good Luck
x

JiveMan

I didn't think a 15 yr. old had any rights.

littleme836

I would try to keep record of all issues about the family. IF they are as trashy as you say, I don't think they can afford the lawyer to get the baby. It is your neices body and from the sounds of things, adoption would be the best solution. The baby needs a fighting chance and a loving home. Not one that this boyfriends family is willing to provide. I think if It does go to court, any judge could see what is best. Good luck.

mandababy87

i would say it definitely be the girls decision. if she wanted to keep it and her family can help support. if she wants to give it up for adoption, i would support her. it sounds like her ex's family is unfit and i would not want my child to be raised by them. they dont have money to fight it so what can they do? if they come up w/ a way to fight it, it sounds to me like you have a back up story on why they shouldnt

tismesandra

go to church... see if they can all get counseling and help.
you can call novadebt look on line they will tell them where to go to buy food cheep and what they need to do to live decently. they also give you a phone # to a free counselor.
but all in all even though you are concerned and its your family people have to learn by there mistakes... there is nothing you can do to MAKE them do anything. if they need help they will ask......i dont see THEM writing a letter here. I know you are there aunt but from one aunt to another just give them advice and stay out of it. support them spiritually and try to help them but dont interfere....you will be the one with the problems if you decide to take this disfunctional family as a project. give them phone # to the pros that can help them and
let them make the dicisions for themselves they made all these dicisions to get them this far they can make more to get out of it.

Waiting for Madelyn :)

It is your nieces decision what she want's to do with her child, if she wants to put the baby up for adoption all they need is her signature because she is the mother & they are not married. Her ex has no say in it. If they want to keep the baby they will have to go to court and fight for the baby but they won't get it with all of the problems they have had in the past the court will see them as unfit parents.

*Momma and wifey*

FOR ONE I THINK THAT YOU SHOULD GET A RESTRAINING ORDER ON THAT FAMILY!! THEN IF NEED BE GO TO COURT TO GET HIS RIGHTS TARNISHED- THAT WAY YOU CAN PLACE THE CHILD UP FOR ADOPTION..... SORRY I AM NOT MUCH HELP BUT HOPEFULLY THAT IS A START...

J.M@r!e

Do what u think is best for the baby and if adoption is that answer then go for it...Im jus glad shes not gettin an abortion...seems like everyone has forgotten about the option of adoption and Im glad to see that there are some people who havnt...GOOD LUCK

hotrodbettie1234

wow that is so awesome she is doing this! you rasied a very smart girl!

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