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How did YOU feel after giving your baby up for adoption? (if you did so)?
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How did YOU feel after giving your baby up for adoption? (if you did so)?


just live your life.
i gave birth to my son & kept him.
he is the light of my life.
he is 2yrs old & couldn't imagine a day with out him.

if i would have given him up i think i would be devestated every day wondering what he was doing, if he was treated well, what he was wearing, if he was talking, walking, etc.
every time you would see a child the age of the one you gave up you would always wonder... ya know!

i can't imagine.

Most natural mothers don't "give away their baby," most are coerced. However, in light of answering your question about how it "feels" - numb, powerless, confusing and WRONG. These "feelings" don't cease, even after blissful reunions.

I was fortunate that I did not get pregnant during the times of forced surrenders, so I never had to experience that living hell. Unfortunately, some of my family members did. They describe it as:

1) being buried alive
2) living life without a single completely happy moment
3) incapable of ever taking a single deep cleansing breath

I felt like crap. I cried for almost 30 years and then I went looking and found her. That was in 2001. I still feel the guilt of giving her away. She has forgiven me but I find it hard to forgive myself.

I felt like I should have had the good sense to bleed out on the delivery table. It is a pain deeper than I ever imagined.
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I felt like my life was over and in many ways it was. My faith died that day, faith in a higher power, humanity, family etc.

I didn't give my son up, I was bullied and lied into it so no I will never get over it. Reunion has made it worse so it's just another thing I have learnt to deal with.

Having been abandoned to adoption myself, I would never do that to my child (nor to anyone else's). I kept my daughter.

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