How did you react when you are told you are just adopted?

mistyflame10

Some said it depend on the age...for me no matter what age is it..theres always shock and pain....millions of questions floading into ur brain as ur heart aching.
Times u feel u're alone and times u just want to shoo love ones away from u...times u pushed them as u drift away. All these post reaction can be short or long period can be lifetime for some.....
I'm not an adopted although when i was young i wish i'am when i have major fights w/ my parents but my younger brother are..He is the most amazing person, he brought happiness into are lives. I learned a lot of lesson and become a better person because of him. I sacrifice everything for him even my life if the situation calls for it.
I remember when my late father was critically ill my mom stay w/ him in the hospital, no one's gonna look after him we cant afford a nanny at that time i have to bring him in the university i'm studying (i was a freshmen) and told the security guards he's my son. There were lots of people criticize me..i have extra baby bags for baby bottles, milk and diapers. I dont really care, we may not be brothers in blood but in love..as i love him so much that it hurts me when he is in pain..when he is drifting away from us...If i can just take his sorrow i would.....but i kno he is the only one who can heal himself over time all we can do is give every love and support we can.

i want to say for all who have been chosen..those ppl who give u home, trust, support and love they are ur family, they are not complete w/o u.......even u are hurting please dont push them away.

karen!

it was never a big thing,and there was never a "time"...i just always knew.i guess thats the best way,so that it's not a shock...

Heather B

With a sadness and confusion that never went away

mommy2squee

"just adopted"... and "Chosen"

Man those are loaded words.

My sister and I used them to hurt each other all the time. (She was a bio kid, I was adopted)

I was "just adopted"
They were "stuck with her..."

I was "a bad choice"
She was a "mistake"

Words hurt....

Adoptionissadnsick

I think I always knew, but being told just gave words to my reality.

Granny 1

I was 12 and felt proud to know I was chosen.

Rebel Cowgirl 10/13/07

well me being so young when i found out the first time and then i forgot i did not really no what they were telling me when i was younger. when i got older i was like what y is this i was freaking out . it still hurts deep down in side y did my mom not want me and everything else i am almost 16 and well . i still cant stand it and everything it still hurts but i really have not thought about it because of other things that have been going on in my life right now i kind of forgot it. i still no that i am but sooner or later u will forget it .....

joanna g

I also agree it depends on the age, I always knew and to be i am 100 % glad for the family i grew up with. Its no differtent to me. But i guess if i found out when i was beyond 10 id be pissed but as long as u are loved and such... nothing really changes.

Lil Momma

I agree with Nili. It depends on what age you are told. I was told at a very young age (before I even knew what it meant). The older I got, the more they told me based on my age and my understanding. I thought that it was such a blessing to have been removed from one situation and then chosen by the best family I could have ever wished for.

Crucio

I had no reaction my parents told me I was adopted from a young age (3 years) so it was really not a big deal to me. Just like they always told me I was mixed raced thus being mixed raced was no big deal to me. Being adopted and multiracial was just the norm for me.

problemchilddd

It's ok to be adopted. if your biological parents couldn't keep you for some reason it's not their fault. Maybe they were in a difficult situation. no paretn would give there child away so you should react thankful and not throw a tantrum because SOMEONE else DID adopt you for you.

nili

it depends in what age they tell this to you

Beauty

It would be stranged if i learned I was adopted. But as long as they loved me, I know there's always a good part of life to share with them.

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