How do I convince my dad to stop fostering?
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How do I convince my dad to stop fostering?
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Okay, I know my question seems selfish but seriously how do I stop him from fostering? I'm adopted and so is my sister because my parents weren't able to have kids. My sister was fostered but I was not...I love her like she's blood but my dad wants to keep fostering. This has also taken a toll on my mom because she's working 6 days, 8 hours a day at night a week and it's too much to handle. My dad only sees us for 2 hours when we get out of school and he goes to work. We seriously can not foster because it's me and my mom raising the foster kid, not my dad or my sister. I have to make serious sacrifices and so does my mom and it's not fair at all because it's him that wants to do it. This is the most selfish thing he's done because I know he treats them nicely but he's not there when all the bad stuff happens and he knows I don't want to foster because I can't handle all the stress that comes along with it. My dad always says "Oh, these kids don't have families so we need to help them." but seriously it's not him thats raising the kid, it's me so it's not fair.
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Trust me, any foster children we have are treated really well and not left out but the problem is its ME mostly raising the kids because my parents are always at work. Watching 3 kids all by myself is hard when there's no adults around to help.
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Looney Tunes
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You know "these foster children" are people with feelings and a hard life.
I don't mind that you want to have time with your parents for yourself or that you feel that you are being forced to care for the kids, that is being honest and is actually mature that you can be so honest about it.
What I do find fault with is that you think so differently of the "foster children". These are kids, like you, but who have not had the LUCK that you had to get adopted or to have good parents. YOU and everyone else SHOULD treat them nice, just as you would want to be treated.
Your father sounds like a nice guy. I am sure he would be willing to listen to you. It's a shame that his views about caring for others did not get passed on to his daughter. |
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Angela R
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This decision is not just up to your dad, your mom needs to agree to fostering too. If it is taking a toll on her, and she doesn't think it's a good idea to foster another child right now, then she needs to stand up for herself, and the rest of the family, and tell him no. I would suggest speaking to your mom about this and explaining why you don't think this is a good thing for your family right now. You are the child, not the parent, and you shouldn't have to take on the responsibiliy of foster parent as well. |
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grneggzham
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Maybe he needs the extra income he gets from fostering. |
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Zeena
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You say that your father is not taking care of the kids.What does he do all day then?
It is not all on your father.Your MOTHER had to agree to this as well and she should be the one to confront your father and talk with him about this.
If you feel like voicing your opinion, write him a letter explaining your feelings. |
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sweetjane
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Providing for a child (i.e. working to make ends meet) IS part of raising children.....so your dad is helping to raise this child....and you and your sister. I am confused....is your sister the 'foster kid' you don't want any longer, or are you referring to a third child in the house? I am 'irritated' that you keep referring to this child as 'the foster kid'. I think if she/he is treated differently by you and your sister, then you are actually harming him/her, not helping. If you sincerely don't want more foster children in your home, the best thing you can do is talk to your mother and ask her to talk it over with your dad. Perhaps a better route would be to ask your dad to spend more time with you....sounds like he is a good guy.....I don't think he would be averse to discussing his work hours and how he can spend more time with you and your family. |
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