How do I give my baby up for adoption?

Daisey Duck

You can talk to social services they can tell you what all will be involved and what you have to do. You can use an agency but make sure you really check them out first. Your church may also be able to help you. Be very careful of those who will send you emails wanting your child. Sizesmith gave you some very good ideas..
I am sorry for those who think you asked for their opinion on what you should do . I don't believe that was the question. Nor do I believe you need their snide remarks or their reading material. Good luck to you

crzymmof8

There are many great couples wanting to adopt. Do not let anyone judge your decision. We have adopted and have been able to get to know the birth parents to our children. I cannot tell you how awesome these people have been. We have both open and closed adoptions and the open ones have been the best as we know more about the birth parents and can share the information with the child. You do what is best for your child and yourself not what any one else wants you to do. I would gladly give you any information you needed. Just email if you want.

Jen

Only you know what is right for you and the baby. If you are positive about adoption just google adoption agencies. Good luck!

~~miss ellie~~

Some others feel so superior in their lives while they cannot feel your pain. Have you had counseling from a certified person? It is ultimately your decision yet, have you told the Father of your plans. Make sure you have all your plans thought out and in a row. Talk to your Doctor; they can be a wealth of sources for you.

Good Luck in your life. Pay no attention to the rude remarks. No one can tell you what you know all ready. â™¥

Rachiie_x_ferret

people have to realise its your decision if you want to give up your child!!.. honestly like im sure you have your reasons or u wouldn't be doing it.. have a little respect guys!!...
hun i would just google it and research all your options from there.. good luck with finding a good family =)

hopeful

Dear Katie,
First ignore the ignorant people "condeming" you for doing what you feel is best for YOUR child. By this I mean, this is your choice. You are doing what you think is best for you baby and that takes alot of courage and strength! There are many different ways you can about finding a loving home for your child. provate agencies, open agencies, religion based churches that help in the process of the adoption. You also always have the choice of getting a lawyer and finding an adoption family on your own. However here is something to consider, I am a 25 year old mother of two little ones and we have been married for 5 years. My husband is military and currently a drill sgt. I am also going to school to become a kindergarten teacher. We are looking to adopt. My first pregnancy I lost and my husband and I both feel like adding one more child to our loving family would complete our family. If you would like to speak with me or call me or anything please just send me a way to get intouch with you. If we would not be an option I give you the best of luck on finding your sweet baby a forever loving set of parents!

cantstopLinnyG

No one will love your child the way his or her natural mother will. Your child does NOT want to be raised by strangers- what is best for him or her is to be with YOU.

Dont be swayed by anyone telling you that you can have an open adoption, either. They are NOT legally enforceable ith the US.

What's best for your baby is to be raised by YOU, not strangers. A baby does not need "things", they only need the love from their natural mother.

Your problems are temporary, and there is help available to you Adoption is permanent. Listen to the first Moms and the adoptees on this site...WE are the ones who know how adoption will affect US, not adoptive parents or prospective adoptive parents. They only know how your baby will feel to THEM, and it's NOT supposed to be about them.

Please do NOT give your child up for adoption. The pain will last an entire lifetime, for you and YOUR BABY.

Please read the facts about adoption and how it will more than likely affect YOUR BABY and YOU.... your child deserves to be loved and raised by YOU. Adoption does NOT guarantee a better life, only a different one.

Also, do NOT contact anyone who has asked you to, or who has emailed you already. They are greedy vultures who want to make money off your baby, or want that baby for themselves.

http://www.cubirthparents.org/edd/index....
http://www.exiledmothers.com/adoption_fa...

http://www.nancyverrier.com/pos.php
http://www.adoptioncrossroads.org
http://www.amfor.net/acs
http://www.origins-usa.org
http://www.motherhelp.info/index.htm
http://www.keepyourbaby.com/
http://www.thegirlswhowentaway.com/

http://www.youtube.com/user/adoptedthemo...

Books:
The Primal Wound by Nancy Verrier
Lost and Found: the Adoption Experience AND
Journey of the Adopted Self: A Quest for Wholeness both by Betty Jean Lifton
The Adopted break Silence by Jean Paton
The Girls Who Went Away by Ann Fessler
Adoption: Uncharted Waters,by David Kirschner
Being Adopted: The Lifelong Search for Self by David Brodzinsky

cmc

You can find a local adoption agency by searching the internet. You want to check them out before deciding on them. We were in san francisco area, and worked with a good agency there. Also you can view profiles of couples waiting to adopt on the internet. We matched with our daughter's mom on parentprofiles.com. The site isn't the best in my opinion because it only allows married hetero couples, but all the couples there have already completed home studies, so are approved to adopt. There are other sites too, and many agencies have similar pages for their waiting families.

I know many here don't believe in pre-birth matching, or finding a family on the internet, but in my opinion it lets you know about some of the options. My daughter's mom chose us only 2 weeks before the delivery. It is important that you check out anyone you find online to see if they really are the kind of people you want. Also you need to make sure that any lawyer or agency they are working with (or that you find) is ethical, and not going to pressure you into placing your child for adoption. Even if it seems like the best decision now, you can really only decide once the baby is born. It is your option to change your mind, up until you sign the relinquishment papers. At that point the decision becomes permanent, so be sure about it. You want to talk on the phone, and if meet in real life to get a good idea about people. Also you want to think about having ongoing contact with your child or not. Open adoptions aren't generally legally enforceable (meaning the adoptive parents can cut off contact if they want), but many adoptive parents would like contact with you in the future if that is important to you. My daughter's mom didn't want ongoing contact, so we only met at the hospital, but she can get in touch with us at any time.

I wish you all the best with a very difficult decision.

Heather B

How sad you want to abandon your baby to strangers

Good luck to you and your conscience with that

Flying Monkey #073177

You opened a Yahoo Answers account JUST to ask this question? Bwahahahaha.

Call an agency. Just do a google search and pick the first one that pops up.

sunny

Check your mailbox.

Yawn.

daisy mcpoo

I know that Catholic Social Services is an agency you can contact for adoption services. I was adopted through them (30 yrs ago!) but you can just do a web search for others, maybe even Planned Parenthood could give you some help finding a way to do it. Good luck, it's a hard decision, but if you don't think you can do it and don't have family that can help, it's a great option.

Katelynn & Melissa's Mommy

My husband and I are looking to adopt. I was doing a search on how to foster-to-adopt when I saw your question. You can email me if you would like. We are located in Texas.

Aleshea F

I glad you are doing the right think and having the baby instead of abortion. I would love to adopt a baby becasue I can not have one myself I am also ok with open adoption and I am shure others are too that way you can see your baby grow up and still be apart of his or her life if you need to talk you can email me but dont go to an agency they make things hard for both the mother and the new family you need someone that cares about you not just getting your baby and is willing to work with you. well good luck!

Felicita1

Why on earth do you *need* to? Your baby deserves the best: YOU! Unless you truly do not love or want your baby (and this is what adoption is for: to find homes for children who otherwise would be abandoned or are being abused), then I truly think you should look into why you believe you would be such a terrible mother.

You say "you can not survive on love alone," but there are many many resources out there for mothers and children such that there is no such thing as "love alone."

If you cannot find these resources, or if this is pressuring you to surrender, then this is called "financial coercion" and a coerced decision is not a decision at all. It is being forced.

Did you know that if you keep your baby, the statistics say that you will be in a better financial position 10 years from now than if you surrender your baby or had a miscarriage? That is the honest truth from a recent study of thousands of mothers.

Let the mothers here help you find resources. And listen to the many adoptees who will tell you they grew up feeling rejected and unwanted. And listen to the mothers here who felt forced to surrender babies to adoption and now have to life with lifelong unresolved grief, depression, and PTSD amongst other things. Those are the results you are risking.

What do you need in order to raise your baby? Contact one of us and we can help you find what you need. We won't be contacting you asking for your baby, like some of the responses you will likely get from people wanting to adopt.

grapesgum

If you cannot raise your baby, please do not condemn him/her to the adoption industry market where he/she will be sold to the highest bidder and then told the rest of his/her life "how much" he/she cost.

Contact your department of social services and get counseling. Ask about programs to help you keep your baby. If you absolutely cannot raise your child, is there someone in your family who is willing to be a guardian while you get on your feet? Adoption is not the only answer.

concerned

ask you doctor and they might be able to help you or go to

www.adoption.com

Cindy D

Ask the hospital for an adoption agency they recommend in your area. The agency will find the baby a family. You just concentrate on having a healthy child.

Karennnaa

I hope you do what's best for you and your child. I am on the other side. My spouse and I are currently looking to adopt. We come from a great loving family who has nothing but love and support for us. I hope that you have family support with whatever you decide. I wish you the best and the best of luck! -k

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