How do I tell the father of my baby, that I put him up for adoption?

Since he found out I was pregnant, He was getting away from me, Ihaven't seen him for 8 months, my last months of pregnancy he wanted to work out with me and started writing me emails and telling me how bad he wanted to be there for me and the baby, but I think he said all of this just for me not to send him to court because we used to fight a lot about that...I went to my country and put the baby up for adoption,,, I'm back now and dont know how to explain him that I put the baby up for adoption in my country... or should I just dissapear and dont tell him anything?

Allanas

If it were me, I'd ignore him and disappear.

See how he liked being treated that way.

Julia B

That's really crappy. He has just as much right to make decisions about that baby as you do. Tell straight up what happened. He may, if he chooses, be able to get custody of the baby. Again, really crappy of you!

Mallori

You really need to tell him. if not for his, or the baby's sake than for your peace of mind

aloha.girl59

You should tell him. The adoption is a fraud and if the child's father wants the baby, he can (and SHOULD) contest the adoption since it was done without his knowledge. You carried the baby but half of that child's genes come from his father, who has rights.

What you did was not only unethical, it was illegal. I hope it comes back to bite you on the ***.

Waiting to reunite with my son

He does have a right to know. Did you give the agency that you worked with his information? If not, you could get in serious trouble. He can sue for custody and will win if he contests it. Then he'll come back on you and make you pay support!! Shame on you for not letting him make his own decision!

ChicagoistheMidwest

Tell him, because you never know maybe he would want the baby and he would take care of him or her. Think because this is something you cannot redo.

Ferbs

Shame on you for setting so many people up. He needs to know. He has a right. If he exercises that right...that child may to very well be removed from the only home he/she knows. The AP's will have grown attached and loved the child. And the father and child will have missed out on some serious bonding time.

You went out of your way to deny him his rights. If he is as lousy as you say...he may NOW sue for custody to spite you. Whereas he might have just let it all go back then. Hopefully, he has done some soul searching but that part isn't up to you.

You need to tell him. Or someone else you both know will.

7rin

Tell him, straight out, honestly and truthfully.

Your child has every right to know its own parents. Just because you're prepared to abandon your child, don't force the decision on his dad because that is NOT in "the child's best interest".

Sparkle

That was a little harsh ..That was his baby to.
How could you do that an I see you went to your ''country'' to go threw with the adoption so that way you can cut off his legal ties ..
He will figure out that you gave the baby up for adoption eventually!
Don't be surprised if he gets an attorney an presses charges he had parental rights to that child as well and you took that from him.

wallflower71327

Just tell him the truth. He can't do anything about it

cameronsmommy

Since he hasn't been in your life our the baby's then don't worrie about it. He's got no say in it. If he wanted to be in the baby's life before then it would be different. you were independent for a while with making decisions its too late for him now to make them.

K@$C!

he obviously didn't want the baby so it wasn't crappy of you and that punk doesn't deserve you don't go back to him

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