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Lowey
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Hey mate. That must be really tough but don't lose hope. Not everyone does get adopted but you've got your twin brother and I'm sure you both know you love each other. Just be yourselves, there's nothing else you really can do. If you're not already, maybe ask your social worker to find you a long term foster placement. I know it's not the same but it's the next best thing. Keep being good and doing well at school because with a good education you can go any where but do it for yourself. I was in care to for a long time and it's not easy but you'll do fine. Good luck |
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Toby
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If I wasn't 18 and didn't already have my two year old son and ten year old twin siblings, I would adopt you myself. Keep focused and keep hopeful. There's nothing else I can think of that you can do but you're doing great. It's difficult but just try to concentrate on daily life and take everything as it comes. I hope you do find a family and I wish both you and your twin the best of luck. If more 13 year olds were like you we'd probably have less trouble.
I know this is off topic but when I was 13 and not living with parents I found it all too easy to drop out of school. Please, please, please don't you do that because it's not a wise idea for your future and I still regret dropping out of school. Good luck |
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jen01
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I would adopt twins. You're lucky to have each other.
Just keep doing what you're doing.
Good luck:) |
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Patti
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I would adopt you both together Honey, where are you from? You should be lucky to have one another Dear but seriously where are you and your brother from and how can I get a hold of the social worker? Please send me a email :o)
God Bless, keep faith and I hope the year of 2009 will bring us happiness....please email me...TY Honey |
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bestadvicechick
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Awww, sweetie hang in there and have hope. There ARE couples out there who adopt older kids and don't mind adopting 2 at a time!! I know this because my husband & I are one of them. We very much want to adopt in the near future and have looked at adopting older kids instead of an infant. We know that there are so many older kids who need & want a loving, stable home to grow up in. We're not to the adoption point yet but we will probably do in the next 2 years.
Be thankful you have your brother to keep you company & to help you through this situation. Alot of 13 year old kids in foster care don't have that. Stay strong!! |
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Not much you can really do. Sounds like you guys are doing the best of your ability, staying out of trouble and doing what you need to, to get by. Just keep that up... don't give up hope... sometimes it just takes time for things to happen, even though it's annoying. |
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magpyre
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aww bless your little hearts, if I wasnt too old I'd adopt you myself, just keep trying and dont lose hope, at the very least you have each other! |
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♥♥Rita♥♥
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Hmmmm.....how about asking your worker if you and your brother can write a letter and make a video to show to possible adoptive parents?? Not to put on t.v.....but to whoever comes and asks about adopting teens.
See if your worker will let you take some control........
Write a letter and address it "Dear Family..." or "Dear mom and dad...." or Dear 'whoever'....." Make a video and speak as though you are speaking to whoever is watching the tape; be in your environment doing what you and your brother like to do...video games, outside, etc....
I am not sure how families are recruited for children in England.....but see if you can take the lead. Since you are on YA asking, I think you are already "thinking outside the box...."
Take care!!!
ETA:
How about writing the letter and see if your worker would put it in the newpaper....your last names would not have to be used that way. |
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tudor rose
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just keep on keeping on sweet. Best of luck |
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accsmomma
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You sound like a very sweet child, and it makes me sad that I am not in England to take you home. I don't know why you and your brother have not been adopted hon, and I'm sorry that you have been up for adoption for 7 years. I do hope that you will remember that what you are going through will make both of you much stronger people. I'm not sure of the laws in England, but I just wanted to say that I think very highly of you for what you are tring to do for you and your brother. I will keep you in my thoughts, and I hope that you will update me if you and your brother are adopted. Just email me at my name. :) |
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Katherine W
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In America we have children on TV who are available to be adopted, so you should check if the laws really prevent it. That might just be an assumption and not entirely true. If it's possible, I would call the local newspapers and ask if they can interview the two of you and talk about your situation. There was also a group in America where they would have a professional photographer take really good pictures of kids waiting to be adopted, then have a gallery show and show the pictures and people would fall for the kids and want to adopt them, just because they looked so good in the pictures.
If it's true that you can't get publicity for being up for adoption, I would start a campaign to change that law, and then get publicity for your campaign! Start by talking to local politicians, then plan a protest, and then call the newspapers and tell them that you're protesting and why. They'll cover it.
You can also call local churches and ask if they have a program where you could be given a lift to the church to attend it each week -- if someone would come pick both of you up and perhaps you could attend the youth group too. If people get to know you they might be more willing to adopt you. Think about other ways you two can get out in the community and meet people who might consider being your family - they may not be people thinking of adopting, but if they get to know you they might consider it. Maybe join a Boys Scouts troop?
If you hear from people that they find your being identical confusing, you can do something like cut your hair to distinguish you from your brother.
I applaud you both for being good and working hard to be adopted. My heart goes out to you. I hope you find a family soon! |
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Monty Montezuma
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My daughter and son were 8 and 5 respectively when they were placed with us for adoption - not as old as you but not babies either.
It is more difficult as children get older, not only because of people's preconceptions of adopting older/ teenage children but because parents who are age appropriate to adopt that age band are often considered too old to adopt full stop (though this is not true in law but frequently in practice).
My husband and I would like to foster teenage children at some point in the future, and have discussed this with our children (who are now 20 & 17) but we know that it is unlikely we would be allowed to adopt, even though we are only in our early 40s.
Take heart, you have done nothing wrong and are obviously trying all in your power to make change for you and your twin - I pray your wish comes true for you both. |
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Rhianna A
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Many Mums who are willing to adopt want baby's or kids its not really the time for teenagers but keep up whats your doing and you'll have a adopted mum any day |
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Holly W.
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All you can do is be yourselves. I'm wondering if there is something negative in your case file. It could be information on your birth parents histories or something you or your twin might have did that really doesn't amount to nothing but the way it might have been wrote up may make it seem like a big deal. I wouldn't think it would matter that you have a twin but who knows what some people think. I adopted my cousin because I was told if he was put in foster care he wouldn't be adopted because his mother suffered from severe mental illness and is father was addicted to drugs and alchol. I was told potential adoptive parents would be afraid he would inherit the mental illness and his fathers adictions might have had some effect on him. I adopted him when he was 7 he is now 20 and has grown into a fine young man with no problems. I would ask your caseworker in there is an internet photolisting site you can be put on. This will give you and your twin a chance to tell about yourselves, Some sites I have noticed don't allow pictures but still allow info about the children. Where I live they sometimes have picnics or get togethers where potential adoptive parents and children who are up for adoption can go and meet and get to know each other. This could work good for you because that way they would get to know you and your twin before they read a file that could be missleading. Good Luck and stick together because you will always have each other even if you don't find adoptive parents |
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Mystical
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Just keep doing the best you can. I would love to adopt more children - already have 5. Sounds like you're doing great - good luck and God bless you both. |
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Lucy da cat
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try being cuter....or market yourselves as a dynamic duo |
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pink! pink! pink! :x) (stacey g)
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hi my name is stacey and i'm 14. to be honest u can't make u and ur brother adoptable the only advice i have for u and ur brother is be ur self no one likes a fake. also i believe that everything happens for a reason and may be the reason u haven't been adopted yet is because the right couple or single person haven't found u yet or may be it's not the right time yet. i am sure u will get adopted very soon :) if i was old enough i would adopt u! (as soon as i am old enough i am gonna start adopting and have a couple of my own children)
hope this helps good luck!
merry christmas and a happy new year! :) |
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smiley :-)
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hey
well i was thinking how about acting great as u are but cheeky too..not rude cheeky but sweet and like a little boy who likes mischief but still is a good learner etc :)
i cant really say why ur not getting adopted...yeah the social worker is right....twins,together and the age...so i have no idea..
i am sooo so sorry i could not help u ...i just have no idea how it all works..even though i was suppose to give my baby son away for adoption after i found out i was pregnant.
This is all well past me and i adore him..and i think it was so dumb of me to think to even give him up in the first place |
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windowizard
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Contact the local TV station and ask them for help. Public Relations can move mountains. Use facebook and YouTube. Start a blog about being in foster care.
Your adoptive family would be eligible for an ongoing subsidy and you will be eligible for medicaid and educational assistance. Telling a story in a compelling and truthful way is what is best! |
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