How do you define "ethical" adoptions?

BPD Wife

I would define an *ethical adoption* as one in which adoption is in the best interest of the child, there is no coercion done to the b-parents or the a-parents, and everything is out in the open - no lies, no misrepresentations, etc.

I also believe that *ethical adoptions* include both b-parents being involved in the process so that they are both aware of what they are doing and the ramifications of their decision.

Everyone should be respected and treated fairly - with the child's welfare and safety being at the center of the process.

warriormom1920

That's easy. An ethical adoption is one where the first mom has been truly counselled about ALL of her options and resources, and has been counselled by someone who does not benefit from whatever choice she makes. She should also be counselled about her legal rights completely, including her right to change her mind about adoption even after the baby has been born. In addition, she should also be counselled about the loss she will feel, and the loss that the child will feel if adoption becomes inevitable.

In a situation where the child is in foster care because of abuse or neglect, then an ethical adoption is one where the parents have received services to help them with whatever they need to do to be re-unified with their child. Parenting classes, drug rehab, etc..., and has continued to fail to meet the standards of safety as determined by the Court. And, I might add, that an adequate search for appropriate relative placement has been exhausted, with no appropriate relatives found.

StacieG

One where no one was coerced.

The birth parent(s) shouldn't be coerced into relinquishing custody. The adoptive parents shouldn't be coerced into doing anything they don't feel is above board. The social worker should do a good job of background checks and interviewing the adoptive family to make sure they'll make a good place for the child to grow up in.

I guess that's what I would call ethical...in short: ** An ethical adoption is one in which the best interest of the CHILD is put above anyone else's interes **

HappyMomAnna

Parents who are unable or unwilling deciding without any outside force that they believe their baby's best interest would be met being raised by adoptive parents.

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Children who have been neglected, abused or drug/alcohol affected being placed into an adoptive family that will take care of the child and consider their best interests.

Honesty about the history (both the positive and negative information)

Access to Original Birth Certificate and information about family history (both the good and the bad)

As soon as there are NO Children needing Substitue Parents then this question will no longer be needed. As long as there are children who need to be raised in a home with parents who love them---and those parents are not the ones "who gave birth" to them then we need to worry if it's ethical or not....

Things just get messy when people create life and then for Any Reason decide or prove to be unable to parent.... When all children are born to families wanting to parent and doing so in a safe non abusive or neglectful way---Adoption will die out and there won't be any reason for any concern.

Until this time there is going to be a certain number of Unethical issues that arise. The best that we can do is point it out and do our best to end anything that appears to be unethical.... Hopefully one day we won't need adoption but, until then there will be a certain amount of crime that takes place just like nearly every other "process" there is on earth...

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opedial

For me ethical adoptions is when parents (both sets) have been given all of their options, the original parents have truly decided to give their child up, or if the child has been removed from their parents, and the adoptive parents do everything to ensure birth family or roots connection AND adopted child is respected through the process, including identity etc. AND the agency does not make profit and only charges reasonable amountr or even better yet no charges and state run.

Then maybe it is ethical.

SheilaB

Ethical would be done right by the parents I would think.If you just take the baby without consent or the baby is taken from the parents for no reason then that would unethical but if the baby were taken for good reason that may be considered ethical. Hope that helps some.

Proud Adoptee

Interesting question. Most people would probably say that my adoption was "ethical" because I was adopted from foster care. But considering that I was removed from my home due to abuse, would it really qualify as "ethical"? I mean if the reason that my adoption was necessary was because of something illegal and unethical to begin with, wouldn't that also make the adoption "unethical" to a degree? Interesting question. This one definitely has me thinking today.

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