How do you feel about?

Sly

I think that it is a caring and considerate thing for a woman to do to go above and beyond her duty to provide information that she is not required to provide. Federal HIPAA laws prohibit making this mandatory. She is showing the love she feels for her child by providing this sometimes critical information. The sad thing is that often the information is unwelcome and the agency or ap's are not receptive to it. However, if someone loves another person, adult or child, unconditionally, they want above all else for that person what is best for them no matter whether it includes themselves in the equation. This shows that kind of love from the natural mother.

Freckle Face

Hi Andraya,

I would greatly appreciate any medical information, its a huge concern of mine as an adoptive parent. I would welcome contact. Best wishes:)

Sophie

I think it's absolutely fine to do that.

Angela R

Both of our children were adopted internationally, so the adoptions are basically closed (we recieved a small amount of generic information upfront, but no identifying information or way to contact their first parents. (not by our choice at all)

We would welcome contact from either of their first parents for ANY reason, but especially if it was to relay important medical information. I know that some adoptive parentsaren't comfortable having any kind of contact, but I can't imagine someone being SO against it that they would want to jepardise their child's health.

However, even in a closed adoption, there would have been an adoption agency, lawyer, or social worker involved with the adoption that the first mother would gone through, and they should be able to get the message to the adoptive family. Usually in situations like this, the information would be relayed through the 3rd party. However, I definetly don't think it should have to be this way.

I Love A Child With Autism!!!

I would hope it would be welcomed. If the adoption is truly done for the benefit of the child, then it should be welcomed since it is in the best interest of the child to have the most extensive medical background they can.

Erin L

As an adoptive parent, I can't imagine anyone NOT wanting updated medical information (well, any information or contact, as long as it's safe, but that's just me) for their child.

Penny A (Vanessa)

Nothing wrong with relaying important information like that.

snowflake311

I think they should make it mandatory that when you give your child up for adoption you have to give the parents a up to date medical history on your family and your partners.

I have had a few adopted friends and they all say They wish they knew their medical history. It's valuable info that you should know.

I think it is great that the Biological parent is doing that.

Looney Tunes

Yes. Any medical or psychological information is a HUGE help.

For example: If first mother has early-age breast cancer (breast cancer in 20-30s). It is VITAL that the daughter know this information.....because early-stage breast cancer is almost always genetic with the mom passing the BRCA1 gene to the daughter (also gene associated with ovarian cancer).
This would allow the daughter to have early mamograms beginning in the 20s. It also gives the daughter options about breast removal, etc based on knowing that their is a history of early-aged cancer.

Same with psychological disorders, such as Bipolar, Schizophrenia, etc. Early treatment = better outcomes.

I hate going to the doctor and saying "I don't know", "I don't know", "I don't know...." DAMIT!

IDK!!

I'd say go for it.

What kind of parent wouldn't want what's best for their kids. I'm sorry, but leaving that huge unknown is just so mean. I remember all the times I tried to imagine who my sister was and what se looked like and so on. It was torture.

Kazi

As an adoptive parent, I couldn't imagine any parent turning down medical info. Any adoptive parent can tell you how frustrating and worrisome it is that our children have so many medical unknowns and how our kids have to undergo extra procedures just to rule out conditions that anyone else with family medical history would know.

I would welcome it.

Proud

I see no problem with it. Medical information is important information that I'm sure they'd be happy to have for future reference.

*I'm not sure that you are completely educated about what a closed adoption is. Just because its a closed adoption doesn't mean that there's not any records or anything. They don't just destroy all that stuff after the adoption. There are also still lawyers involved.

Sofiakat

I would hope my son's mother would do that for him. Medical info can be very important. I would welcome it.

Independ"ant"

I think contact should be welcomed by the Aps whether it be for medical reasons or not.
The Aps should talk openly with their a-child and see if they would like to have contact with their nmother. Adoption can't erase the child's history nor should it suppress it.

BPD Wife

I would ABSOLUTELY welcome any medical information for my child. As the adoptive mom of a child who has a rare genetic disorder, I know how valuable any part of medical history can be to keeping my son alive. I would be absolutely ecstatic to have the information.

I wish you the best.

LaraSue

I don't have a problem with it at all. There should always be open communication between the adoptive parents and the first parents, unless doing so would somehow harm the child.

Indian-vision

Ours is a closed adoption. (Our child's B.mom's choice.)
After i read about adoptees wishing they had more medical info i tried to contact our baby's b.mom via our agency and ask her for more update medical info recently. Haven't heard from her so far.

I do think any A.parent should mind.

rheea

i don't see any problem.
Medical information is still important for the child

A's Momma

Myself and my siblings are all adopted and my brother's birth family has tried to contact him. He's only 16. It wasn't for medical info, but if someone is trying to get you medical information, I'd have them send it through a lawyer. That's how my parents do everything.

EDIT: YES. Our adoptions are all closed. That's why we use the lawyer.

monkeykitty83

I think it's a good idea to pass on as much medical information as possible, even after the adoption is finalized. That information could save the child's life, or prevent doctors from having to treat a condition by guesswork and allowing it to worsen while they guess wrong-- plus the possibilities for prevention or early treatment of conditions resulting from a known hereditary risk.

I would go so far as to say that an adoptive parent who isn't accepting medical information (heck, it could come through a third party like social services or the agency if the parents think there's a danger in direct contact) aren't putting their children first. Medical stuff is really necessary to know, to protect the child's health.

Annabelle

Well its a good idea of course but how would she find them if its a closed adoption? Or did I miss something?

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