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LaurieDB
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How terribly unfair to that child. |
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grapesgum
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Oh my! I am the first person in line to support the adoption of a child with special needs. BUT - unless these potential adoptive parents have a solid backup plan when (not IF) they can no longer take care of the child, they should not adopt. I can only pray that there is another family who is more suitable to love and nurture this child.
Approaching then will not be successful. If I were you and thought that them adopting might be a reality, I would immediately go the social services and document my concerns. Other posters have pointed out that it is unlikely that they will be approved - I sure hope so. |
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Gershom
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would they even be approved? Do agencies approve people this old to adopt? They should be stopped, in my opinion. |
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♥♥Rita♥♥
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I don't like it...at all. I don't think it is fair for the child.
When the two year old is say 14....the adoptive parents are 87 and 77. Who is taking care of who?? Then the issue of brain damage and developmental delay....another factor in the equation!!
I would call the adoption agency and express the concerns of the entire family. If the family is not in agreement...then there is no support system. You may not be able to reason with the 75 and the 65 year old.
Good luck on this one....these situations drive me crazy. |
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tickled blue
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They most likely won't be accepted by any agency.....the only reason I can think that they would be considered at that age is if they are relatives AND there is no better relative that has expressed an interest. |
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gypsywinter
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Why aren't these 2 elderly people volunteering their time to be 'grandparents' to a child who has none? Or are they just looking for a 'house-boy' or 'house-girl' or maybe a 'companion' in their old age? I sincerely doubt that 2 old people are looking to adopt a 2 yr old, 'in the best interest of the child'. I strongly suspect this is all about what Grandpa & Grandma may need, whatever that is. JMO!
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IDK!!
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Is this a McCain joke? |
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baymast13
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No agency on this planet is likely to approve these folks as adoptive parents. Even if they are super-healthy, their age is a huge factor. My grandmother couldn't get approved to adopt me in her 70s, even with a fabulous support system. She had her then 50-year-old daughter and her husband (my aunt and uncle) do it, to keep me in the family.
I really wouldn't expend much energy worrying about this, I can't see it coming to pass. I wouldn't risk offending and alienating them, they are aware of their ages. If you must, speak to the agency (anonymously) about your concerns. You'll likely find these people don't have the proverbial snowball's chance. Peace. |
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mia's mum
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i think its great these ppl want to "help" a little baby but you really have to think of the child's future. this child will already have been separated from ppl it loves and will take a long time to settle into life with new adoptive parents, and at that age you have to wonder how much longer they are going to live for, (sorry but its true). so once this child gets settled, the new adoptive parents die and the child gets messed up all over again. i def think its not right, and also i thought there were age restrictions on adoption?
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Sophie
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I do not think a social worker would approve them to adopt a young child. A teenager, maybe... but I would not recommend it. In 5 years or so one of them may not even been able to drive. They have big hearts, though. |
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Randy B
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While I applaud their initiative I would think that there would be no need for you to speak up and possibly stress a family relationship. Any agency will tell them, officially, what you could tell them and perhaps be viewed as meddling. |
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Kitty
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Well... Your realitives might not live to see the child grow up, unless they're really healthy. I don't know them, so I don't know their life expectancy. I would say that I wouldn't go through with it. Think of kid in 10 years; would you really want to be in middle school with 85 and 75 year old parents? I think it would be embarrassing. |
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cassie
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i don't think its right maybe a older teen but not a 2 year old i tihnk a younger couple would be more fit, |
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Just a Mom
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You say the baby has possible brain damage and developmental delays. I could see this being approved if the child does not have long to live and they have been his/her foster parents and want the child to pass from this earth as someone's child, not a foster child. I know many older people who foster and do a damn good job at it and a lot of the kids they take in are never going to be adopted, much like this little one. It's so hard to place a child with severe needs, this might be like a "last wish" thing.
I actually think it's beautiful. But I might be assuming too many things about it. |
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407713
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I think that you should suggest to them to adopt an older child. My friend's mom (my friend has 2 adopted kids) just adopted a 13 year old and it is working wonderfully. If the child is disabled you should ask them what are the plans for him.her once they both die. If the child has severe handicaps he might need to live with someone for the rest of his life. |
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Dana C
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I think as long as they have a strong support system in place to tend to the child if they are no longer around, then I am sure it will be a very happy little child. Spoiled stupid.
I wish them luck since sometimes I feel like it is hard to find good homes when a child needs it the most. |
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Crucio
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Have they considered their age grant it people can live into their 90’s and hundreds.
I’d be surprised if they found someone that would allow them to adopt at those ages however if they did certainly they would want to make sure they named someone the child’s guardian incase they died prior to the child reaching the age of legal adult.
Are they in decent health for their age? Children will special needs can be hard to place maybe even if they were both dead by the time the child was 15 it would probably be good that the child had love for some years and was with people that wanted the child. |
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Angela R
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I wonder how far they have gone with this. Did they just learn about this child and decide that they want to adopt her, without really looking into the qualifications and challenges yet, or have they already gone through the certification process and been presented with this chil?
Since the child is not a realative, then it's VERY unlikely that an agency or social worker would approve their homestudy to adopt such a young child, especially since there are many younger families hoping to adopt a toddler, even with special needs.
On the very off chance that they were approved and selected to adopt this child I would suggest having an honest conversation with them. Ask them what the plan for the child would be if one or both of them were to die or become unable to take care of the child, will they be able to physically keep up with the child when they're in there 80's and 90's?
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Holly R
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There are no guarantees in life. We can die at any moment or live for years past what we ever expected. My father died when he was 36. I have had other realtives live well into their 90's
As long as they have a strong support system, this child could grow up hapy and healthy! |
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Alyssa's mommy
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I think the child would be happier living with family, even if they are old. They could still see the rest of their family at family reunions and won't ever grow up wondering what happened to their parents since the full story would be known.
So what if they are old? At least they are family. If my husband and I die I hope my parents take my kids, even if my dad is over 60 years older than my daughter. |
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