How do you go about adopting a newborn child?

Julie R

It is important that you familiarize yourselves with the damage done by separating infants from their mothers at or soon after birth. It is a trauma of the first degree and requires heroic efforts on the part of the adopters to counteract the negative aspects of brain development due to separation.

Adopting an infant is very different and far more challenging than raising one's biological child.

I suggest you learn about this and then make a concerted effort to conceive your own child. Look into all the factors that can cause infertility (including environmental, psychological, nutritional, and obesity influences) and correct those that you can.

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Right, Treemeadow, I'm a moron. Here are my qualifications:

10 years of research in
- Neuropsychology
- Neurobiology
- Infant brain development
- Infant mental health
- Prenatal and perinatal psychology
- Attachment and bonding
- Maternal/infant relationship, separation, and the effects of separation
- Adoption psychology (mothers, children, and adoptive parents)
- Child trauma and abuse

sunny

Why not buy a book called, Taking Charge of Your Fertility by Toni Wecshler? Reading it helped me concieve my 3 kids.

Treemeadow: Anyone can get pregnant? Really, can you? Thanks for minimizing the miracle of creating life while painting yourself as a hero. A 'mom' who calls people she disagrees with 'morons'. Wow. You are a truly evolved person.

Heaven help 'your' boy.

Joy M

Treemeadow, I believe it violates the community guidelines to insult other people.

I hope you model better behavior to the child you are adopting.

Julie R. is right, it is very different adopting, and it gets harder in adolescence when there is no physical bond to carry you through difficult breaking away , establishing an identity phase.

jade_frost82

Treemeadow... wow, what strong words you use!
And what experience, exactly, do you have with how much more or less difficult it is to bond with adopted children?
As an adoptee I can tell you there are many, many difficulties when it comes to adoption.
And that goes on to answering the original question here. Deciding to adopt should not be a decision that is made quickly and easily. It isn't something that you can just go to the store and buy, there isn't a place full of newborn infants just waiting for a home.
These infants have to be separated from their mothers first. Yes, it hurts, both parties, and yes, it has lasting psychological damage on the infant. Raising an adopted child is NOT the same as raising a biological child.
I can tell you that finding it difficult to concieve does not mean that you CAN'T concieve. I suggest that you try some different methods of conception before you make the jump into adoption.
There are many different options, I suggest that you look into all of them.

bugwales

how long have you been trying,have you left it long enough,also your only engaged what happens if you split up that baby has a broken family again,do you really think thats fair,also what happens if you adopt and then fall pregnant cos you havnt left it long enough,will you cope with two,please before adopting make sure that its been long enough and please think very carefully before making any decisions please.

Mikki Sue71

You should probably consult a lawyer that specializes in adoptions. He/she can discuss local adoptions versus international and open versus closed adoptions. Costs can vary and he/she should be able to give you an estimate.

However, most agencies in the United States will not all you to adopt a newborn unless you are married. You can adopt if you are single, but it is easier if you are married.

Crucio

How long have your been trying? I found out reading TTC section that some couples try for 3months and they feel that is a long time. Its not. Most couples conceiving with in 9months of trying. Even doctors advise a couple be trying for a year or longer before they seek fertility treatments, if they want to try them.

If you want to adopt you will have to get in contact with an adoption agency or find an adoption attorney. You might even try adoption.com where you will be able to get more helpfully information. Iâ€™m sorry to say but here it has become a pool of people who hate adoption or hate infant adoption.

Raising an adopted child is no different then raising a birthchild. This is coming from someone who knows a handful of couples who have both adopted and natural children.

azrim h

With modern technology there should not be any difficulty to have your own baby instead of adopting one.
Try text tube technique, surrogate womb, etc.

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