How serious is it to know your natural family?

I want to forget my nmother who has not done one thing for me but almost run me insane because of her selfishness by saying I have a husband, children and grandchildren. I was previously told by an aunt when I was a teenager that her life did not include me. I could be more pissed off at her than I am and yes sometimes I want to tell her off. However, this little flag goes up and tells me to surrender and let her go. I find it hard to do so, why? Is there some special bonding that God has given nmother and children during pregnancy?
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I was adopted by a family outside of my family --- a closed one. I was born before my mother married my stepfather. My siblings are older than I.

jgf5822

it's normal to want to know your natural family.

Candj315

I think so. With out ever meeting my birthmom I have always felt strangley connected to her. Its strange too because we just came in contact less than 2 months ago and I feel I can relate to her so easily. Its a very strange sensation and emotion. So hard to explain but I do believe that some how and some way there is a connection.

Cat Meow

yes ... a mother and child have a special bond but I'm not really sure i get your story ? are you your mothers child from an affair or something ? Where you raised by other relatives ?

leena_070586

no....only selfish people on this earth have made such rules....
to love a person one has to have a large heart ready to sacrifice.....

Crucio

That depends on the adoptee to me itâ€™s not important which is why I donâ€™t search and never plan too. Even if I did search it would be simple to get some medical information. That it is important to some adoptees some sometimes donâ€™t feel whole with out looking for their genetic roots.

As far as not being able to tell your bmother off, you probably feel obligated that you canâ€™t since she is your bmother. You might feel that you owe her something. Well you donâ€™t no adoptee owes anything to their birthparent or is obligated to them in anyway.

Cartier

As a daughter to an adoptee I wish I knew that part of my biological family even though it's a generation away.

As an adoptive mom to my son, I long to know who his biological parents and family are. I feel as thou they are mine as well.

Since I don't know any of them and I don't know if I like them or not or if they'd like me or my son, only time will tell...

My situation is a little different than yours... just remember that life is short and you can never take words back after they're said. Best wishes with your decision.

wwf

Which mother u want to forget? your biol logical or who had had taken care of u? from childhood? or say adopted?
Now that you have grown up and THINK ON YOUR OWN AND HAVE GOOD REASONING POWER do not u think u should give up postmortem your past and look ahead to brighten up your present<>??><
THINK,Ifeel you need not be emotional in cinema type model and search for whohad not cared to know where are r u andliving or dead<forget and get ready yourself to fight for your right and prepare yourself for appearing YOURSELVES only not adding any surname or middle name,be your own and look for tommoprow and forget yester and do not worry and listen to other's what they say,no one is pure and unsinlawful.Belive in yourself.go ahed GOD is with You

Lady Wolfstone

The only good reason I could give you for knowing your natural family is health reasons. Your family may have certian medical problems that it would be good to know now in case the are heriditary. Its hard to let go cause there is a little voice that pipes up saying that maybe they can change. If you truely feel you need to let go to heal and feel better, then do it & don't look back.

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