How would react to your grandchild being placed for adoption?

monkeykitty83

I would encourage the couple to consider all the options fully, and make sure they were aware of the resources available that could help them parent, as well as my own willingness to assist as much as I was able to. I would make sure they knew that they had support. If they truly didn't want to parent, I would suggest a kinship placement if it was possible.

Ultimately it would be the couple's decision, as it's their child, but I would encourage them to take time to consider all of the possibilities open to them. I don't think it would be appropriate for me to lay down ultimatums, but I would make sure they knew they were loved and supported no matter what. I wouldn't want them to leap to the decision of adoption without fully considering parenting, but it's their baby, not mine, so it would at the end of the day be their call about their child.

grapesgum

I would react by making sure that she was getting unbiased counseling about her decision and the effect that exiling her child from our family would have on him/her. I would help her make a parenting plan with family support that assures that she stays in school. Ultimately, if she absolutely did not want to be a parent, I would ask to raise her child, but as grandmother, not mother. We have been very blessed financially and have a solid family structure - there is absolutely no reason to push a child out of our family.

Proud mama of 3 boys

If one of my boys came to me and told me that they were having a baby and wanted to place it up for adoption I first would offer to raise the child since it would be my grandchild it would be hard to let the baby be raised by a stranger.

Jennifer L

If we were in a position (health-wise) to raise the child, I would offer to either adopt the child or take guardianship.

IDK!!

With all the family we have, there would be no reason the child couldn't have a "good life" I don't think I could be "all-supportive" for my children to place their children, especially with the support they would have right her.

Felicita1

Families should remain together. I would never want to lose a grandchild to adoption.

But I also think that this question cannot be answered with a yes or no, because the whole idea of a pregnant woman being able to 'decide' on adoption is rather like a non-pregnant woman deciding on abortion. You are not in the position yet to be able to make this decision. For the abortion decision, you have to first become pregnant. For the adoption decision, you have to first give birth. A mother does not know if her baby is indeed unloved and unwanted until that baby is in her arms. And if her baby IS loved and wanted and she is not serial child abuser, then there is no reason for that baby to be surrendered for adoption.

A decision about adoption can only truly be made after the mother has recovered from having given birth, such that the hormones of pregnancy and birth are not affecting her decision and any post-partum depression has been diagnosed and treated first so that this does not affect her decision either.

nextelfan25

I think at first I would be totally shocked, and would want to talk to them both together about their options....And then talk to her to see if she wants the baby, and ifs shes just wanting to do it because he doesn't want to be a daddy yet....There would be lots of talk..Then go from there...

john h

When my married daughter told me she was pregnant with her fourth child, she said she didn't know if her and her hubby could afford it. She said they had discussed an abortion. I told her, I would rather she didn't as the repercussions later in life might be more than she would want to have to deal with. The same discussion about adoption came up. I told her that if she had the baby, I would take it or one of the others or even two to come live with me. They opted to keep the baby, and she is truly glad she did. Ask your daughter, how would she feel, if you would have given her away? You're in real mess, with no easy solution. I honestly wish you ( and daughter ) the very best

Judah

If I were in a position where I was any where near capable of taking care of the child, I'd offer to adopt the child for her, so that she'd never have to wonder where (s)he was, or how (s)he was doing.

No matter what, I'd support her decision. She knows better than anyone whether or not she's capable of raising a child. Not everyone is.

Nurse Autumn Intactivist NFP

I WOULD RAISE HELL!!!!!

I would not love my daughter any less, but I would explain the importance of keeping the child with her, or at least in the family. If she truly didn't want to have a child, I would hope she would have an abortion, but if she had her heart set on adoption, I would fight to the death for my grandparents rights. Then I would encourage her to parent again, but if she didn't, then the child would live with me as my grandchild, there would be no secrets.

dontknow86

I would let her know that I would raise the baby for her. Unlike what my hateful mom did to me, She made me give my only baby, I could have up for adoption. And I HATE her for it.

Just a Mom

I could hope that I would be totally supportive of her like the movie "Juno", but...

Teresa, my kids' first mother, was a foster child. My kids were foster children. I would like to stop this cycle here. I would never tell them what to do with their own children, but I would do everything I could to convince her to not make the decision to surrender her rights. Especially as a teenager.

I don't think my kids would want to do this. I think they see how we have raised kids that aren't our own (their youngest siblings) and would know that we would help them raise the child.

Crucio

I would support the decision. It would not be my child and I would have no say in regards to the child being adopted or not. I might consider adopting the child myself however if the babyâ€™s parents did not want that I would respect that they wanted to place their child elsewhere.

Forcing or pressuring someone to parent is just as bad as forcing or pressuring them to place the child for adoption. Look at this whole Casey / Caylee situation. Casey wanted to place her baby for adoption she clearly realized that being a mother was not what she wanted to be but her parents â€œforbidâ€ her from placing her child for adoption. Well now Caylee is likely died.

Kane K

I'll slap her for not getting a abortion. Yet , if her parents wouldn't let her than I would give her a high five.

Pearly Girly

... I'd probably be grateful. When teenage girls get knocked up, it's usually the grandparents who end up bringing up baby. At least if she gave it up for adoption, it would have the loving parents it deserves.

Garacaius

I would be supportive of her decision. I would also be very thankful that she decided to give the baby life.

vickie1168

I beg, I plead, I offer to raise the baby myself. It feels like your grandchild is being ripped right out of your heart. I hope she changes her mind once she see's it. I feel that adoption is for people who don't have family support and that babies aren't puppies in a litter that you can just find a good home for because it isn't convenient. Not when there are perfectly healthy, qualified, stable, secure grandparents willing to help or take over completely.

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