How would you feel if you found out that you had a biological sister?
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How would you feel if you found out that you had a biological sister?
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that your adoptive parents never told you about?
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mjoy2685
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my cousin in law was adopted, her parents did not know anything about her biological family, when she turned 18 she decided to find them because of discovering she had a heritary disease and wanted to know if there was anything else she should be concerned with. She found out that she had a father who past before she was born, and a mother who died 6 monthes before she turned 18 and the shocker? A TWIN sister. The mother had aparently been distraught after the husbands death and couldnt afford two kids so she kept one and put the other for adoption.
She was upset with her adoptive parents for not letting her look for them when she was 16 like she wanted to, but after some time of adjustment she did forgive them. She got close to her sister, and then on christmas day two years after they met her sister commited suicide. It caused her great turmoil. And I know she blammed her self, feeling as though if she had known her sister for longer maybe she could have prevented it.
In short. I think that she was upset with the whole situation and wished she had known them for a longer time then she did. And I think she blammed her parents for alot of this because they stopped her from looking.
If I was an adoptive parent and I knew there was a biological sibling out there, I would tell my child, but then again, I would be a person who would be open to an open adoption. |
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blackskinnybeauty
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I really dont know why some people keep such information. They should have a reason for doing that, u should ask them, as long as she's alive and well, u should be excited to meet her and start a new relationship knowing that it wasn't d fault of any of u that u didn't grow up 2geder. |
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justme
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i would feel upset that i never got to really know my real sister and id probably feel like i had something missing but at the same time i would be happy and try and become best friends and get to know her. |
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Heather B
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I would be thrilled! and would want to find her immediately.
If my parents knew about the sister and kept that information from me I would feel betrayed |
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kerri x
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hello , well first of all i am adopted and i have a brother out there somewere and i would love to meet him , so if you have found out that you have got a sister and you know were she is i would meet her ! but its completely up to you but if it was me i would go for it ! if myadoptive parents never told me about it i would be so annoyed no joke ! its not up to them to decide wether you are allowed to know who your brothers and sisters just do wat you feel is right xx |
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red&sassy
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i would feel great. go find her. did they know about her? i find that in the US, there is alot of lies, deceit, and cover-ups involved with adoption. if you know that they knew about her and you feel like you've been lied to, please join a support group or get counseling. the very foundation of your beliefs and trust have been ripped apart. you will need help and support to get through this. i am so sorry, but not surprised. best wishes. |
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Cindi H
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i think i would be upset in a way, because as an adoptive parent, i think they should let you know everthing about your past. But did they know that you had a sister??
In reality, i wouldn't be too upset, because they want to be your parents,and im sure they are trying there hardest. |
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melly
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It depends...maybe they were hesitant on telling you..maybe they didnt want you to go crazy trying to find her or figure out why you weren't with her. I'd be a bit upset, but more than anything excited that I have a biological sister! I doubt the adoptive parents were trying to be malicious..im sure they just didn't know how to handle that situation..just talk to them about it. |
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redpeach_mi
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i think that fact would be different for everyone. i have also known that i was adopted and knew a few details, but nothing really substantial. so i guess that my having a biological sister would come as a shock, but i wouldn't be mad about it. maybe my parents chose to keep that information from me because i never asked and they assumed that i didn't want to know. who knows. i wouldn't be angry with them, no. |
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rich2481
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well some care to find them some dont, life marches on, regardless, |
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Lee R
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it is not very nice not to know the same thing happend with these girls. they have only just met |
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