How would you feel if you were "given away"?

colwyn95

My mom always told me it didn't matter where we come from, what was important was that the souls that were meant to be together found each other.

DevonChaos

I am adopted. It feels like hell to be given away to strangers. I've been dealing with it for 30 years, and the pain never lessens. I'm sure there are people who will have a rose tinted view of adoption. I'm totally not one of them.

23 year old texas female married

Well my kindergarten teacher offered to adopt me and asked my mom if she could. I even asked my mom if she could. But my mom didn't let her. I think I would have had a better life if I was adopted out.
My mother became very verbally abusive towards me. Her favorite thing to call me was a b*tch. and that was by the time I was 5 years old. If it wasn't that she was going to blow her head off in front of me or have me watch her jump in front of an eighteen wheeler.
I had lead poisoning as an infant and I had a delay in my speech. And my mother hated the fact my father favored me over her. My mother made it clear to me that she could only love her sons she never wanted a daughter. I was suppose to be still born. She actually tried to kill herself while she was pregnant with me. She overdosed on her anti-psychic medication and her pain medication. I was imformed the only reason she wanted custody of me was for child support and income tax money.

I am for adoption if it is because of abuse but against it if it is not.

mom to be

I was adopted and I am happy that I was raised with a great family. Not everyone who is adopted feels this way, but all experiences are different.

'Insert name here'

Not so bad if i had been raised by loving parents. I believe a family doesn't just have to be blood.

Lauren M

I was adopted and it is great! I am 16 and recently came into contact with my family. I litteraly have two families. If I get sick of one, I can go to the other!

kitta

Like hell.
I knew when I was pregnant with my son that If I were forced to part with him that he would feel rejected. He would grow up not knowing that I had fought to keep him, and that I wanted him.

And I knew that it would hurt me, too.Losing a child to adoption hurts the mother as well.

My own parents engineered the adoption, along with the "help" of a corrupt agency...and the abandonment by my child's father. By law, my child had no "legal father."In reality, his father had a college degree and a good job. But he didn't want to support him. At that time, there was no legal way to force it.

People try to "pretty up" adoption with nice-sounding words, but it hurts.

21 years later, I found him and told him what happened.

34 weeks with Evan Alexanderâ™¥

I WAS "given away." My b-mother did what was best for her, and that was getting rid of me, lol. Do I hold a grudge against her for it? NO WAY. I was put with much better parents, and my life was better for it. How could I possibly be bitter about that?

I have had a relationship with her for the last 2 years...don't criticize her at all for her decision.

rachael

i was 'given away' as you say. i have had an issue or two over the years with it, but in my case being given away was what saved my life. (very long story, not meant for this question)

adoption CAN be a good thing...im living proof. there are a few situations that it is done for the right reasons and the right people.
but the amount of lies and unethical procedures sours the pot for everyone.

Mei-Ling

I *was* given away.

Sure, I have a great family, but it doesn't change the fact that I was GIVEN UP BY MY OWN MOTHER in order to gain this family.

Daisey Duck

Being an adopted person I don't have any problems with it. I have never felt unwanted, rejected or any of those things. I have always know I was adopted. I was going on 3 by the time my second adoption was finalized. I think adoption is a good and necessary part of life, as some can't parent, some simply don't want to, and some should never be allowed to raise children. My parents also had foster kids so I saw a lot growing up. Some good some bad and some down right horrible, as far as why the kids were in foster care.
Everyone has their own feelings on this. Some can't get past it and others have no problems. To me it is simply a part of my life that makes me who I am today, a strong independent woman who has ups and downs in life just like anyone else.

Not the Fallen

I'm adopted, I was adopted a week after I was born. I never met my birth parents but I intend to look this year. I have no problem with it. My current parents did a great job raising me.

I think adoption is fine as long as the the adoptee doesn't remember and it's to a good home.

Milly

It would depend on the age I was given away. If it was when I was too young to remember, it wouldn't bother me much as long as I went to a good home. Although, my friend had to give his niece up for adoption. She's only eight. Imagining the confusion and heartbreak she's probably feeling is terrible.

Shauna

I would be fine with it as long as I had a loving family. I don't think blood makes a family, that is even true for people that aren't adopted. I have a friend that is more like a sister to me than any real sister could ever be but that doesn't make it any less special. Blood means nothing. It's the love that matters.

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