I'm adopted and grown. How can I go about finding my biological mother?

PhilM

General Searching Advice:

First, register with ISRR:

http://www.isrr.net

Second, depending on what state the adoption occurred in, there may be state registries to register with that facilitate reunions.

Third, if you were adopted through an agency, they may offer reunion facilitation services. (It will cost money, though not as much as a private investigator.)

(This bit is swiped from Possum...):

Also register your information on
http://registry.adoption.com/

Check here for information on your state records -
http://adopteerights.net/
(click on the page marked 'Searchers' down the left hand side)

Check here for search help - and links to FREE search angels -
http://www.adoptioncrossroads.org/

If you have her name, various sources such as online white pages, People Finder, and Intellius allow you to search for people.

Finally, you can find other adoptees who have gone through many of the same things at:
http://www.adultadoptees.org/forum/index.php

Lisa

Have you tried to simply google her name? I found my friends son this way. Then there are some websites like myspace, facebook, classmates.com, reunion.com.

I think this is a great idea and a journey that every adoptee is entitled to take. Best of luck.

sunny

You can register at http://www.isrr.net

And feel free to join loads of other adult adoptees in a cool place on line, we'd love to meet you!

http://www.adultadoptees.org/forum

Good luck!

MamaKate

Dear emgee89,

It is not a bad idea! It is YOUR truth!

If you do have her full name, zabasearch is a great free people search. Here is the link:
http://www.zabasearch.com/

Also, there are tons of free registries all over the net. If you know where you were adopted from, you can even find registries for specific areas and agencies.

The biggest and most successful registry is the International Soundex Reunion Registry:
http://www.isrr.net/

There are search angels who can help you:
http://www.the-seeker.com/angels.htm

There are also some very knowledgeable regulars on this board who are reunited and brilliant at reunion and search information. If you look through resolved questions you will find TONS of useful information.

I wish you the very best of luck with your search! I hope that you find all the answers you are seeking! :)

red-haired gypsy

I got on Myspace about 3months ago and joined a group for anyone affected by adoption.2 days later I had address,ph.no.Two days ago, after i sent a letter finally to his family and him ,I got a letter back with pics and they are very eager to be a part of my birthson's life.BTW,I think it's awesome you wanna find her....She may already be looking 4 you check all registries,myspace,here. This is the site I first ever checked out about adoption and this is where I found out the agency's name...Good Luck

Matt H

Yes

www.zabasearch.com

I recommend you use "advanced search"

kateiskate

I don't think it's a bad idea at all. I'm also searching for my first mom. Do you have any idea of her whereabouts? If you do (or even if you're not sure) try searching for her on myspace, facebook, classmates.com, and other social networking sites like that. My sister's first mom found her through myspace.

SJM

I found my mother through genealogy. I had her maiden name from 20 years before, and I knew the state she lived in. There was no internet then, so I searched phone books in the state to narrow it down to an area. Then I searched obituaries and marriage announcements in that area and found her married name as well as the names of her parents and siblings. Much of this information is online now and available free of charge through the US GenWeb.

http://www.usgenweb.org/

Philippa

If you was in the UK I would be able to point you in the right direction so in other words it's a good idea. I don't know if you've started preparing yourself but do that as well. Most mothers do actually want to be found :) - I did.

catherine0580

Hi!!!If you know the real name of your mother, then you can perfectly search her by using the reliable search tool, you will have true and accurate details of information you want to know about her.You can acquire the comprehensive public records of you biological mother without experiencing hassles and inconvenience..

site:
http://www.web-detective.com/index1.aspx

ARMY*WIFE[brodys mama 4/7/09]

there are alot of websites that are like phone books for the whole US. just type in her name and she will pop up if she is listed anywhere in the US in a phone book. whitepages.com is one i think.

Richard A

its a bad idea.. if she left you why are you searching her?

anyway,. you can try on google or phone dictionary.

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